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Did I push him too far?

I met a guy on Match a month ago; we talked constantly via text and on the phone for two weeks prior to meeting in person. After an amazing weekend we continued to talk regularly, but my insecurities from a previous relationship reared their ugly head. I became obsessed with his online activity and mentioned my frustration not just once, but twice to him. The first time he seemed forgiving and brushed it off, but after the second time he said "this is too much." I realized what I had done and apologized. He responded with "it's OK," but I haven't heard from him since a casual text exchange last Monday. I sent the following email last Tues as one finally attempt to see if he'd respond…"I regret letting an insecurity from my previous relationship get the better of me, which made me question your motives; you didn’t deserve that. I thought we had a genuine connection and would’ve loved to have seen where it could’ve taken us. You’re a kind, funny, caring and charismatic gentleman with one hell of a sexy country voice. All the best…xoxoxo…Michelle" I haven't heard back from him and wonder if there's ANY chance he will forgive me.

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Only HE knows that! None of us on ask would know if he can forgive! Sorry
Please use this bad experience as a learning tool to not bring in baggage from past relationships into your next one. They are a different person and situation then that of your relationships in your past. The new relationship deserves a "clean from baggage" chance to develop its own relationship. (hope that makes since! Lol) Any ways an additional thought on your particular situation is (and I am sorry to mention this and I mean it with the up most respect) but he may have "gotten what he wanted" and moved on...... :0(

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You pushed him away. Start with a new guy and don't push so much, so soon. In fact, going out with several people, casually, may be a good idea. Each person is new, they aren't past person.

Oh, don't have "amazing weekends" just have casual fun but don't act like it's deep relationship. It has to happen naturally.

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i think that he might forgive u...

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We all come with luggage u just have to find the right person to help you unpack

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He appears to have been totally turned off. Learn from this mistake and move on.

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Learn from this.
Leave the past in the past.
If you've not fully healed from prior relationships, don't start a new one.

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Yikes I hope you have learned your lesson. Hopefully your dating in the future will work out.

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Healthy people looking for relationships do not want a " fixer upper". He saw the signs of insecurity and took off.leave him alone, he's not coming back and work on your issues so it doesn't happen again.

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