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If my fourteen year old daughter wants to live with her friend and her friend's family would I, the mother, need to sign over guardianship?

She wants to live with her girlfriend and I need to know if I would need to sign guardianship over to her girlfriend's mother who has full custody of her children. I also have full custody over my daughter.

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Yes but dont u want ur own kid???

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yes, you would have to

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if she really wants to, but before, sit back and try to figure out why she wants to move out with her friend? then if you think it is convenient do it, also, make sure you can trust very well those people! :)

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exactly
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She asked for this as a Christmas present for the next four years .
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so for the nest 4 years, she wants to live with her? Wow, I wish my parents would let me do that. Im 14 too, and im barely allowed to go to the mall alone. yeah i know...my parents are SUPER strict
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thanks soccergirl_456 :)
and tiffanyboo: okay.. then i'd think it's okay :) :D
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Well she's hard problems emotionally with living where we moved and she wants to go back to her old town and her girlfriend lives there .
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my parent don't even let me go to sleepovers! =O ?? :(
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np :)
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me too! my parents wont let me do that too! Im not even allowed to go to a friends house.
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:( we have a lot in common! :O :( i know! i can't do really anything, and like there's a park 2 houses away from my house and my mom actually sent my brother with me! :P
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that what will happen to me! I live like 50 seconds away from Target, and whenever I need something, either my mom or dad will come with me.
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:O :O that's so sad!! >:P hehe... parents parents parents =P
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i know...how old are you?
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in my teenage years.. (:
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:D hehe
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same
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yes, you need to do that. Just outa curiosity, why would you want your daughter to live with them?

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If it is really that bad that you need her to move out and if you have no problem letting your daughter go have another mother than sign the papers

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She (the mother) would have to meet qualifications to have full guardianship over your daughter, unless she (the child) is in an unsafe or in a bad/abusive (IE; physically, emotionally, or mentally)household/ environment, or have the parent(s) dead or not able to be an attentive parent.

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You have other options, including a guardian ad litem and giving the custodial parents a limited power of attorney for the child. see here http://www.wisbar.org/AM/Template.cfm?Section=Consumer_Resources&Template=/CM/ContentDisplay.cfm&ContentId=92173
for an example of the Wisconsin laws; your state may have a legal self-help site or you can ask the judge or your divorce attorney for more advice.

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Yes, but why would u want to do that?

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to make her happy .
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Your letting her!!

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Wow glad you wasn't my mother

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If your daughter has a stay of undetermined length you do not need a formal guardianship. You will need to give the parents a medical power of attorney, which does not need to be notarized, just signed by all parents with two signatures of witnesses of the signing. Also you may need to notify her school, and you will still need to attend P/T conferences.
PS. are you sure she not secretly hoping you#039;ll #039;fight#039; for her to stay with you?

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I just read your reasons which were not included in your original question, I thought you meant a friend's house in your town and school district. Out of town changes my answer. I know you want to make her happy but it's more important for your daughter to learn that life isn't always fair and how to cope without throwing her mother under the bus (so to speak). Surely you will suffer greatly. Loosing out on these last years at home will hurt you both in so many ways. Find a compromise. Take the bus there on weekends? Have her friend visit often? Your daughter is too inexperienced to make such a life altering decision at her age; someday she will thank you for keeping her at home. Please don't let your child run away from you and her problems, you will both regret it.
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Yes you do. But you should definitely reconsider. You are her mom. You would be cheating her and yourself of the proper relationship girls need. I read your reasons and I have to say I disagree with your choice. There are other ways to deal with the situation. She needs to learn now that she cannot always run away or move back when things happen. She must learn to deal and press forward. You, as her mom, need to teach her that. It would be much better for you two to work on your relationship and find another way to get through whatever your going through. As a mother of 3 daughters, ages 9-16, I cannot even imagine giving them up to another person. That should only be done if you are unable to care for your children. Not over life not going her way. And I gotta say, my 16 yr old is so different from when she was 14. What she wanted then is not what she wants now. Hang in there.

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Just make sure you get her the inf she will need in case she need to see a doctor too. But if going to pay her to take care of don't for get your tax's

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Your daughter is not some puppy you give away when she pees on the rug. If you can't handle her behavior, why do you think someone else can? She is not old enough to decide where she wants to live. You both need counseling. If her behavior is extreme, you would be irresponsible to just dump her problems onto another family. You are the parent. Deal with it like a parent.

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In life, we dont always like the cards we are dealt...but its how you handle these situations that teaches a child the proper way to handle life as she gets older. By letting her go to live with her friend aren't you sorda giving up on her? Letting HER control the situation? If a 14 yr old was meant to make adult decisions, then as parents we wouldn't be legally responsibile for them until they are 21. People move to new places every day. Your child needs to know that for whatever reason you moved...its just the way things are right now. She may not like it, but she doesn't have to either. Get her counseling if she is really having so many problems w/the move....but shuffling her off to stay with a friend..hardly seems to be the correct course of action.

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