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What are some benefits of a long engagement (few years)?

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It is different depending on whether you are young or old. Young people often change quite a bit between 18 and 26. Waiting allows you to learn to stand on your own and discover what values are most dear without replacing mom and dad with a spouse. Also, it gives you time to save for a wedding, finish your schooling, etc. It avoids infatuation marriages and cements that commitment. For older people it helps you avoid getting married quickly to the wrong person because you are lonely i.e. divorce or death of spouse and helps you avoid people who are just after your money at a vulnerable time in your life. If the commitment is truly there, the wait won't kill it off.

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Which is more traumatic breaking up engagement or marriage over the same period of time say 3 years?
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firm bond

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Some benefits of a long engagement include giving you time to build you want and prepare for marriage, avoid wedding planning stress and gives more time to save money. For more detailed information, go to http://www.bridalguide.com/blogs/bridal-buzz/pros-cons-long-engagement.

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Maybe better understanding.

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It's better to have a long engagement and learn how each other copes with the different things that happen: financial, future in-laws, health issues, work stress, etc; then a quick wedding a few months later.

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You get to know your partner really well. When the bloom is off the rose, you begin to discover who you -- and they -- actually are, and how you get along in the real world.

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Respect

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no benefits. better a fast one. If you decided to get married, why to hold? if you are not sure, why to get engaged?

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It depends if one party is dragging their feet, they are really NOT into the relationship.
If both agree (really really really) to a long engagement OK otherwise run as fast as you can.

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you can break it off at any time

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you will have a long time to think , IS THIS WHAT I WANT!? and also learn and also grow waaaay more!

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you guys will learn more about each other, learn form your mistakes, grow together. :) there's no need to rush into marriage :) love takes time, so be patient, it will be so worth the wait

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Try living together to see how it will be before getting married, you really don't want a divorce or something.

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The first thing for a woman to consider is......is he getting "engaged" just so he can have sex with you. Make it clear that there will be no sex until marriage. Then you will see if his intentions are serious. Just because he "puts a ring on it" doesn't mean that you will jump right into bed. Also, a good argument can bring out the true character of a person. If you have nothing but "good" times, you won't know the real person you are considering spending your life with.

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years?

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