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my parents are getting a divorce

I'm so scared what to do?? HELP!!!!

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It will be okay. They both love you more than anything! They are splitting up because they believe that's what they need to do. I am sorry if you need to talk to someone I would be more than will on twitter @BachelorFans ill follow you.

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Well first, for me to help you, I need to know the reason they are getting a divorce.

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No you don't.
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No u don't have to know
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There's noting to do but adapt to situation. There's nothing to be scared about. Nobody likes change, especially like this, but you will work out a new lifestyle. Sorry that's happening.

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There's not much you can do about that. You have my deepest sympathy

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Nothing changes really mine have been divorced for 5 years now at first they dont speak and when they do they argued, now my mom comes over to drop me off and will come have a beer with my dad. They both have a partner now (my moms is my dads ex best friend before he went to prison ?) but they both know and i know it was for the better.

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Make sure that you dont stress it cause its not worth it ! If they love you very much they wouldnt let you get between it! Their your parents they will still be stronge for you :)

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There is nothing that you can do, except pray. If they stay together, it could be worse than if they got a divorce. Sometimes getting a divorce is the only option. People change in relationships. They grow apart, have different interests than what they once had together. They may even get along better.

It is hard on the kids, though. I'm 48 and my parents got a divorce when I was 13 or so. I don't know (unfortunately) many people who grew up with their parents still married. It's tough, but you will get through it. But most of all, it's not your fault. Always remember that. It's just your parents not being able to work things out or not having the wherewithal to even try.

They still love you. You will just be visiting them at different locations, times, dates. You WILL get through this. Trust me.

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Don't be scared its part of life its there decision to do this just try to stay out of it befor something else happens, I learned that the hard way by trying to fix it

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You will be fine. You'll get through this and realize it's the best for all of you. Staying together when it's not working benefits no one. In time they both will be happier and you'll be happy. This has nothing to do with you, can't change it.

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Well for many children/teens this can be a difficult experience.So maybe you should try to be supportive of both your parents no matter what the end result is.

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my parents are divorced and it is actually not that bad because their more fun when their actually happy

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But I hate going to different houses and I hate all that crap I need a family
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It isn't your fault. And right now it is important for you to remember why you love them as individuals. I know this is breaking your heart, but don't let it make you angry. Anger is a beast of burden. When our heart breaks, we cry, we heal, and we are renewed. Hold on to hope for all of your futures!

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Many young people who have to deal with the divorce of their parents usually succumb to feelings of anger and rage. Though this is understandable and even in some cases justified they do little good to aid the situation. Its best to try remain calm, utilizing thinking ability and discernment to safeguard yourself from emotional upheaval. When appropriate speak calmly and respectfully with your parents, voicing your concerns. Let them know how saddened and confused you are over the divorce. If possible try to obtain an explanation from them. Remember that the divorce, whether they give you a reason or not is a dispute between them-not with you.In their study of 60 divorced families Wallerstein and Kelly found that couples blamed each other, employers, family members, and friends for the divorce. But, say the researchers: "No one, interestingly enough, blamed the children." The divorce is not your fault, and despite whatever problems your parents have to work out their attitude toward you is unchanged. None, of this of course will make the pain go away but it will give you the strength you need to regain control of your life.

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"Why Did Mom And Dad Split Up?" article at http://wol.jw.org/en/wol/d/r1/lp-e/1102011124#h=0:0-49:124
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