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Why do we fall in love so easily? I don't get it... (Read Below)

You know a person for such a short amount of time & then you just want to marry them. What's up with that?? I don't get it. I get crushes so easily on all these different girls & I don't know why or what to do. Any advice please??

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Hi Benji,there are many reasons why people fall in love so easily.Some just fall in love repeatedly and unfortunately most of the times it's with someone who isn't interested or even available.Many a times it's because of loneliness or because they are on the rebound and healing a broken heart,others because they think they are running out of time and some just have a vivid imagination.
You however,my friend are permitted to have as many crushes as you desire.In fact one after the other,you are young,energetic and have a whole life in front of you.You are just living the NOW and enjoying new friendships.Friendships that you can share with and enjoy each others company..so go ahead.It's normal and healthy.Winking at you :)

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Thank you Sandra. Great advice as always. I'm just glad it's normal. 8)
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Great answer !!
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Thank you both.
@my bestie Benji...of course it's normal...I would be worried if you were not like that sweetheart.You are the best.Thank you for the vote guys.
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These peeps from australia, boy~ the nerve of them being so
Right On! Great answer! :)
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Nite, thanks best lamb!
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Austrails! Hi! Finally called the dr's and I'm going to hopefully get it checked out tomorrow. :) hopefully I don't have that stuff. I just thought you'd like to know; sorry for my randomness ;)
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@Angel..Hi Angel,sorry for the late response but it was late for me here and plus I didn't get any notice.And I bet Jordan is lucky to have someone as nice as you for a big ASK sister.:)
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@Merlin..But we are such a friendly lot and always ready for any excuse for a BBQ Lol.:).Coming?! Thank you for your comment.
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@Shay..thank you so much for keeping me informed shay.I have been thinking about you since that day.I don't think you have it either but it's good you are going.Please let me know as soon as you find out ok.Everything will be fine you'll see.
xoxox
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Sandra, did I offend Robert last night when I said "dense"? Doesn't he realize I was just kidding around? I know you did. Are you the only one on here that truly 'gets' me? Josh maybe-
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@Angel..I'm fine sweetheart.How have you been lately?Everything ok?
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@Hondo..No,Hondo.Why would you think that?I have had trouble getting on because I have internet problems.
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Ok Sandra. I got him my number so he could send me a text, and never did. And I got comment from him saying simply, "Dense"? Maybe I took it wrong. Hope so. I'm off to play cards. I may be on later. See ya, australis! Have a good one!
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@austrails-just saw this! Thanks! I hope they do tests rather than look for "solutions"; I don't want to go on the pill again. I'll ask about an ultra sound after I describe my symptoms. :) and no problem! I go in an hour and will be sure to inform you! It probably isn't anything; but it's better to be sure! Thanks :)
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Your welcome sweety and don't worry.
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@austrails-I just got back! She said that radiology is going to call me to schedule an ultra sound :) she said I could go on birth control, but I said no, so she gave me her number in case I change my mind. I might consider it. My dosage was really high the last time I took it, so that might have been why I gained so much weight. But yea so that's what's up. :)
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That's great news shay and believe me the pill can effect people in different ways.When the doc put my sister on them she had lost her appetite completely.And lost 7kilos which is a lot for her because she already was and is very thin.So we will wait for the ultra sound now.
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Yea, same here I'm very thin so when I gain weight it's noticeable! Or if I lose weight, as well. But when I took it, I was bleeding so heavy so I was on a high dose; upped it twice! It probably would be different if my dose was low, but normally I skip several weeks or two months so I'm worried I won't have a period at all if I'm on the pill. Anyway, I have an appointment in a few days :) so I'll keep you posted! Thanks for being so helpful with all this, btw!
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Simple, Hormones

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agreed.
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Thanks, that actually makes a lot of sense.
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Anytime :)
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That's not "love" and it's typical male behavior.

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Oh, Thanks. :)
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Once you have been there once,or twice...it doesn't happen as often.It is called wisdom.

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Thanks Doc. Hopefully I'll gain a lot of wisdom as I get older. :)
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Most people do.Live and learn,they say.
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Except for Johnny Ringo !
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Why Johnny looked like somebody walked over grave!
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*his
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You might love their personality or love how they look , but love is between two people. Yea it's a feeling However still a feeling between two people .

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Thanks Shane. I guess I was going Beyonce feeling so crazy in love. xD
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Well if you like it ... You probably should have put a ring on it XD
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LOL! Nice one hahaha!
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As you get older you'll get more picky ... and then when you get even older you'll go back to not being as picky.

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Good I'm glad things change Tony, Thanks. :)
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I'm laughing so hard I can't think of a good come back! Wait, I might.
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I'm so old, I almost forgot. Reaching into the depths of my brain.. wait, I've got it..

Isn't that God's gift to the elderly? Their eye sight goes...
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Like beer goggles haha
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Am I that obvious? hahahahaa
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Haha you're silly :-)
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Lmbo Tony
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This is seriously true though.
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New relationships are always awesome and you think " I want to be with this person forever " " they're the best thing that ever happened to me" then you argue or disagree about something stupid and the " rose colored glasses " come off. It's hormones and the desire to be desired and want someone to love you as well.

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Thanks Kkeifer. :) It's true.
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You're so welcome
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theres something called the law of attraction.. :-p

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Haha I guess but not just by looks. I learn their personality also.
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yeah.. ;D
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if you have a girlfriend, focus on staying faithful to her. if you're single, try looking for girls that are girlfriend-material. if all else fails -and i know this is kindof messed up- look for flaws in people. (DONT POINT THEM OUT TO THAT PERSON just look for them) maybe that will make them less attractive to you and you wont have so many 'crushes'

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I don't have a girlfriend right now. Also I learn the girls personality also. It doesn't just go with looks for me. :)
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i meant the flaws in who they are. lair, thief, rude, etc, etc.
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Well: 1. Disney movies teach people since they are kids to date. So when they grow up, they subconsciously think they are late. So people go desperate looking for someone to ''not feel alone'' more like to do things they shouldnt. 2. today people see it as game, as fashion, as just hugging and kissing. Which is something everyone wants for the hormones and for the previous reason. 3. People dont know enough about their emotions and feelings. They feel an emotion and they think its a feeling. They feel a crush and they think its love. And they dont stop a minute to think about it, they just go with their impulses and take decisions without thinking and end up heartbroken. Or loosing interest and breaking someone else s heart.

What to do: 1. question your feelings. They might be emotions in disguise. 2. dont listen to your emotions unless that they come from a feeling that is justified. But only until the emotion wears off. 3. think about girls as if they were your sisters. That should help you to control the uncontrollable crushing.

Special advice, because I could be wrong, but this is never wrong: Pray to God. Love Jesus. Gby

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Thanks. I will try to control my emotions but I can't make any promises. :)
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Any promises made would be to yourself. The more you analyze your emotions and feelings, the more you will learn to control it. Gby (that means God bless you)
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Lust. It's a huge control factor and sometimes confused with Love. You may find both in your final pursuit, but right now you are doing as any normal guy would be doing. No worries.

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Exactly
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Thanks Merlin. At least it's normal. :p
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you're welcome.
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Thanks Tony. Happy! Happy!
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Basically hormones. Now, that doesn't mean everyone going through this age is like that, but a lot do. :o

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Yes I heard it's quite normal. If it was un-normal then I would be kinda worried. :/ But Thank you & yeah my hormones really get me good! :)
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Liz: I got back from camping this afternoon. :)
Jordan: I'm gone getcha gooood! xD It reminds me of "I'm Gonna Getcha Good!" by Shania Twain. XD http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z3Pb3EJY5Qg
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Lmao nice link haha. Does she even still make music??
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*gasp* You know Shania?!

She hasn't in a while, but a few weeks ago she said she's working on a new album finally.
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Yes I know her lol & nice. You gonna buy the album? :p
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I don't buy albums, I download songs for free. :p
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Oh :p
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Oh. :o
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Fantastic, as always.
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Because your at the age where were looking for that one special person. It happens to everyone even me don't sweat it it's normal.

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Well, if your feelings of love mean that you wanna touch them in some way that is not love that is lust. So that is normal but just don't act on it unless you know everything about them and just slow it down.

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Well you are a dude and again how old are you?

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