Well first of all it starts in the dating process. If you latch onto the first person to come along and marry them then you're probably destined for divorce. If you date around first and choose the right person then you've got a better chance of staying happily married. Once you're married you have to have a sense of humor because without it you'll get on each others' nerves. You have to trust each other, without trust you'll stress yourselves out about what your spouse is doing when they're not home. You have to compromise on certain issues and meet in the middle. You gotta have live and affection, physical and emotional love go hand in hand. Honesty and respect.
Honesty, not just with each other but with yourself. The understanding that it will get rough from time to time but that the commitment and expectation to communicate openly is always present. Also the understanding that as people change adjustments need to be made but that doesn't mean everything has to be an all or nothing decision. Patience, tolerance, love and understanding. Of course, even this won't work if the two aren't compatible and/or mature enough as basic people.
The secret is you and the one you are speaking of. We are all different our ways are different , the families or circumstances we come from are different . That s the secret . If you like each other first, enjoy being around one another thinking about each other when you are not together . And then the smile that comes on your face automatically when he or she is not there, but yet they are right there in your heart!!!!!!! That s the secret
First and foremost, you should be great friends who can talk to each other! Passion fades over time, but if you have similar interests and spend time together pursuing those interests, love grows stronger. It's also important to have similar goals... Do you want children? City, suburbs or rural? Many couples fight over money- talk about a savings plan before you marry... If one is a saver and one is a spendthrift, there will be conflict! What about in-laws? These can cause problems too, especially when it comes to holidays. Both must be willing to compromise.