What can I tell my children when they ask "why can't I stay with mum tonight?"
I am a single father of 2 children aged 6 and 9. I have had full care of both children for the past 2 years while their mother has dealt with drug addiction and mental illness. Their mother is now back living with her mother and step father. The step father sexually abused our children's mother when she was aged 10 - 15. She now says he is a changed man and would not do anything to our children. Although I hate it, I allow the children to visit their mother 2 afternoons during the week and every second weekend days at their grandmothers - but I do not allow them to stay overnight as it is the step fathers house and he is usually there. My 9 yo daughter is now asking, sometimes in tears, why she can not stay overnight with her mother at her grandmothers. I have recently put the children through a Protective Behaviors program but I am still struggling to give my daughter an answer that makes sense to her.