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There is a girl I am in love with, but I got really pissed and lost my cool. I called her ugly, fat, and stupid.

I feel horrible about it and decided to write with pen a 3 page apology letter and include a box of rare imported chocolates from my home country to give to her. Is this a good plan, and yes I know it is up to her to forgive me?

Is there anything else I should do? Do you think she will forgive me?

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If there's one thing I've learned in my life, it's that those with a quick-witted vile tongue very rarely truly, deeply understand the hurt they have caused themselves and others in this world. She will never forget this, nor will anyone else that you've hurt, or will hurt. In your life. Yes, there are forgiving people out there, but it's rare. Find out why you do this and fix it, before you devastate another human being. Get counseling now.

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Please still apologize, by any means you feel is necessary. Apologize so many times that it's ridiculous. It will at least give her something to hang on to when she looks in the mirror everyday. Tell her that what you said to her was really how you felt about yourself, which you'll find out in counseling is true. I grew up with a father who did and said these things. I'm still a mess over it.
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Sincerity, this is indeed the best answer. Your father was wrong. Wrong. Wrong.
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Thank you Taise. :)
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It is great that as a child becomes an adult they realize that their parents were WRONG in these kinds of situations? You are a beautiful person Sincerity. I can tell by the heartfelt answers you give to people. Your father was very wrong! :0)
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@Y&Y 4 Ever-I just saw this. Thank you for your kind words. They mean so much to me. :-)
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Anytime my friend anytime. :0)
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Great answer Sis!!
And oh so very much agree with Taise and yin, your Dad was absolutely wrong in this!!!
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Hi sincerity. How you doing. Good news! I'm back on employed list again lol
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@Aki -what does that mean? I didn't even know there was a problem with it. So is it Canada still for the future?
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Hah! You're dead with this girl, my friend. Learn a lesson....

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When you're right -- you're right.
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As a dodo :)
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confront her in person and apologize instead of giving her a letter, no gifts required.

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I think it's a good start. She may give you another chance, if you promise to take actions to learn to control your anger

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Gosh, the chance is low for her to forgive you but best thing is to confront her in person, that way she can see you're being honest about it, the gift is optional but if you do it, give it to her in person as well.

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She will be more impressed if you face her. But if you lost your temper over something she considered minor, that in itself may spell the end of the relationship.

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You called her fat? Don't even try.

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He's toast.
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The note would be cute I could love a note from a guy. I say do it

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See a counsellor about your insulting and abusive treatment of another person, and leave this young woman alone.

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When you're right, you're right! For sure!
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Thanks, John.
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Yes, so true. He needs to stay away from her.
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Forget it you call her fat then give her chocolate you must be nuts

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If this girl takes you back, are you going to do it again? Most likely the next time you lose your cool. This is how abusive behavior starts. Any girl that takes you back after that is not in her right mind. One, why should she trust you? Two, you called her fat and are giving her chocolate?

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This guy needs to spend an hour with my girl students . . .
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You picked up on that chocolate-fat thing also aye?? Funny!!!
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This guy is toast.
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Hopefully a lesson learned?
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You've already gone more out of the box than most people would. I think you're fine, but you may have already lost her.

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Ugly, fat and stupid? I wouldn't take. You back no matter what you gave me.

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So right!
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She would prove to be stupid if she were to take you back! I hope she don't! Shame on you for causing this kind of pain to someone you supposedly like. The world is so full of negatively and she did not need extra from you.

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Hello my friend,
hope you are well.I went back last night to check on truckerladys Q and it was gone.Can't understand that..it really is a shame.
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Oh my friend! I am so upset! The way God worded it for you was perfect. I just have to assume He has a better one for you. I will not allow this to get me down. Let me try and remember what words were said and I will promise to get back to you. Better then before! :0)
I will track you down later, got family coming over to work on vehicle so it may be a few but I promise I will find you! :0)
Smiles your way my friend! :0)
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You've done something awful, make sure she knows you're wrong. Make her know that you know you were wrong. Don't expect forgiveness even then. It'd be by the grace of god that she'd understand that you were blinded by anger.

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You can try and she may take you back. But there will be a scar in her mind that you consider her as " ugly fat and stupid" . There will always be a cold air between you both. It will never go away. And she may find someone later who do not find her "ugly fat and stupid" . I would recommend start fresh my friend. And not to repeat it again unless you wanna be forever alone.

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I called my ex girlfriend a "f-in ho" once and something clicked inside her and she was never the same. We broke up later.
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Very good advice Aki...it's so true. It changes them forever when someone says these things-a difficult lesson to learn the hard way.
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I know. I never said like that to anyone. It was just when she was being so cold hearted I burned my fuse. Not a thing to be justified as well.

I was unemployed for more than 3 months now. Finally I got one.
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I had no idea you were going through this unemployment disaster. I am so glad you are employed again. I know how important that is to a man. Do you still live in the same area as before?
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I got in Oman. All the jobs are there now. I would prefer working in India anytime if the pay was half as good. How is your son doing?
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I think my son is falling in love. I'm very happy for him and she is lovely.
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Yea? Do they come see you often?
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