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I am moving to a new town at the end of the month, (read description please)

The town is tiny, I'm talking 158 people. What would be the best way to meet new people? There will be other towns by me (obviously) that are bigger. Where do "cool" adults hang out at? (PLEASE do not tell me the bar)

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Take a risk Cj and go it alone.What I mean is start a conversation with strangers yourself,be it in the park,supermarket,at your new job wherever.Continue to do what you love(keeping fit) and join a gym(probably only one in town) you will definitely meet the locals who keep fit.But a real must for starters is to do some volunteer work where you are bound to meet others from the community and who will appreciate you efforts.
Also Cj keep in mind that it's easier than you think meeting people in a small town exactly because it's small..so when the new cool lovely comes to town Lol everyone will know and you might be surprised if they don't come introducing themselves to you.
I hope some of this made sense and is a bit helpful...

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Thank you for actually answering me, and understanding where I was coming from S!
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O I'm so glad you thought I made some sense because I thought I was full of you know what.And I do understand believe me,I went through it not so long ago.
You are very welcome my friend.
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Your first strike, Sandra, occurred when you were teasing that you were leaving here. Remember, my heart hit the ground? Ok, strike two has been erased. Lol!-
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Did u see my comment under your ground hog or something.Glad you made it back safe.xoxo
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At least you didn't tell me to go stand on a corner.
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Who the heck said that?Oh I just saw..
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Yeah. Sad thing is, I thought I liked that guy, not so sure now. I even reported I, and HOUR ago, and it's still there.
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Yes, Sandra, I saw it there. Figured I would hear from you quicker here. You, still, have not answered my question! How the heck are you doing?!
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Sad thing is,that some people think it's funny.
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I'm ok Hondo..you?Did you have a good time?And why am I the only one you didn't contact Lol.?
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I had a great time but things were a bit hectic. There was 11 of us, staying in 3 different hotels, all trying to hook-up. Taxi problems, the hot weather, one girl couldn't find her ticket... I did not mean to exclude you in any way. You know that.
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Then why did you?
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I actually thought you knew I was going to the game. I looked for you on here, while I was there, but didn't see you. Slow posts to my phone and our 7hr time difference doesn't help. SO SORRY!!! You know you are a best friend, right?!
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Adults don't worry about "being cool".

Best way to meet people? In a town of 158?
Just go stand on the corner ... LOL

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I'm an adult, and you're right, I'm not worrying about "being cool".
You didn't read my question, and thanks for not helping.
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@Mr Walt, I am sure you did not mean the way it sounded. I am sure you meant in a town that small all you have to do is go outside your front door. Hopefully you did not mean "stand on a corner" because that is not funny to most females. As a matter of fact it could be taken very offensively by most.....
Anyways have a great day. :0)
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{sarcasm} yeahhh ... because the ONLY time a female stands on a corner, is as a prostitute ...

Anyone who took that the wrong way ... is doing what psychologists call "projecting".
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Again, the point was, your answer was rude and not helpful at all.
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Nothing rude about it
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Just hang around, it won't take long to fit in with a smaller group of people (or an entire town)

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An amazing person like your self
Won't have an issue meeting
New people .
And you will fit in fine -
I'm sure there is something in the town where folks hang out ,
Like maybe the movies or even a fire company maybe they have cookouts
N such - but you will be ok ,

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Thank you Mikey. At least someone believes in me.
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Socialize at avenues that share common interests of yourself. Book stores, grocery marts, (don't label me a nerd, plenty of good reads and nourishment found at both), sporting events, gyms, concerts, etc. Just be yourself, and they will follow. You have a very bright, and engaging persona, won't be long before YOU are noticed. Safe Journey

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Thank you again Wolfie.
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Go to social events look for things that interest you or you can take a big step and host a get together

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CJ, I am so proud of you that you are taking this risk/leap. It will be like a brand new start. Maybe in this small town I see you employed as a fitness trainer or even a councilor. I believe in you and that you can do anything you set your mind to. :0)
I just have a feeling you would really enjoy that kind of career. Maybe you can go back to school or start an on line program. I think you will be able to meet people as you take care of YOU! Please keep us posted. You have a lot of us rooting for you! Go CJ! Go CJ! Go CJ! Go CJ! :0)

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Thank you yin.
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You are welcome. Please keep us posted. :0)
When I first read your question my heart sunk like "oh no! I don't want her to move!" But then I remembered we are on the internet! Lol! It don't matter how far you move because you are still just a click away! :0)
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Yes ma'am. I won't be on here the same hours, because I'm hoping for a day job. But I will still be around, not as much though.
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:0( I don't know how to make a face with my bottom lip hanging out on the keyboard. Well a day job is definitely a plus in this. Plus there is still email! :0)
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What?! Your hours were great for me because I could catch up with you because of our time difference :(.But I know it will be better for you so I won't complain.I will just stay on longer then. :)
Hi Yin.
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CJ I once spent a weekend with a friend who had moved to a small country town. As we walked around the place people ignored us and I commented on it. He laughed and said, "Did you think small towns were friendly?"

Next day, Sunday, my friends slept late so I went out on my own and EVERYBODY nodded and smiled and said, Hello.

The difference was that he had always lived in the inner suburbs of two big cities -- London and Sydney -- and he had built a wall around himself. He couldn't have been more obvious by hanging out a sign saying, "Private Person. Do Not Approach."

You'll be fine. Walk about so that people get used to seeing you. Catch their eyes as you pass. Smile. Nod. Say, Hello. You'll become one of them in no time.

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Thanks D.
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Wow, you're entering into a whole new scary, challenging, exciting world! cj, you're a natural social butterfly here at ask, I don't see why you would have any problems making friends. But I get where you're coming from, this will be face to face with new people. From my experience, small town people are very united, kind, and helpful to new comers. Don't be intimidated when approaching new people, they're probably gonna feel the same way you do. The main reason we fear approaching new people is, rejection. Although someone may think you're crazy for randomly talking to them (lol) it's probably cause they have their own issues. Join a gym, a book club, go to coffee shops, volunteer, there's lots of ways to make new friends. Maybe take your new neighbor some home~made chocolate chip cookies! =o) Good luck, you'll be fine.

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Thank you.
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You're welcome. (Or you could move to L.A. and I'll show you the ropes, lol) jp.
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Step outside?

Ha. Go to the general store which is also the pizza parlor and fire station.

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When you get out an about find a great local mom and pop diner. You'll know it's great by the number of the cars in the parking lot, lol. Go in, be friendly with your waiter (and anybody else that takes an interest), and everybody in town will know you the next day. :D

I worked at our Boy Scout's away camp when I was a teen in a place like that. There are usually 2 or 3 towns that make up a larger community. There will be a few places in each town that are obviously local watering holes, like diners, shopping centers, and of course Wal-Mart, lol. You'll meet the locals in no time.

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