As a grown up I have had this conversation with my mom many times she did the same thing and she says sorry and never knew that's what she was doing. Maybe your mom does not know either. Being a mom is hard and sometimes our mistake are at the hand of our children. Just try to talk to her. I cry at everything so writing a note always helps me so I can get out everything that I wanted/needed too
Random guys or husband? Random guys, it's kind of a duh, they should never come before your child. However, there should be a bond between husband and wife that a child cannot enter or break. Your child will go in to have their own life and family, your husband is the one you swore eternity to.
honestly children are way to much of a blessing to just put any guy or yourself first not saying you are you half to be a wonderful mother to even care enough to ask if its wrong and honestly it is cause guys come and go but children are a lifetime and a forever love