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Should I break up with him or is it normal?

I have been dating this wonderful guy for 8 months. He treats me so well and I can feel how much he loves me with just one look. We are best friends and have a lot of fun together. I've never been in a better relationship. However, for the past month, I've been doubting whether or not I love him. Sometimes I can look at him and feel stupid for questioning it. Some days he can just smile at me and I think "I love that boy so much." But other days, I feel so depressed and think that I may not be in love with him like I think I am. It gets so hard because its confusing. I don't understand how some days I feel so sure of our love but other days feel like I might not love him. It hurts me so much. I just don't know what to do. It hurts to think about breaking up with him. Do you think this could be just a phase and I should try working through it? Or should I break up with him and save him from me possibly hurting him later?

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Might be a slight case of nervous jitters. Give it some time.

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Hi Lady.
How are you feeling?
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Feeling a bit better physically. Don't like being all weak, though. The blues are getting tough, though. I know...time.. It takes time. Thanks for caring ;)
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I do care.Although I don't know what is going on..please know you can always count on me.We were all very upset about your Q and really kicked up a fuss.I'm so sorry.
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It's ok. I said too much in a comment thread so it's probably for the best.
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australis
Ok.friend.Just take care of YOU ok.
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Hi Truckerlady. I'm thinking of you and hoping you are okay. I assume you were in a MVA. I don't care if someone wants to chastise us for caring about you, I care! We are family, and you are a big part of that family.
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I second that @Truckerlady! :0)
Hi everyone! :0)
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Hi Yin. Notifications aren't working right again...I almost didn't see your comment. Howya?
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If your confused break up with him

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not true
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its normal

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Love isn't always lovely. After a few months of having the most thrilling and exciting and mind bendingly awesome time of your life with him as this is the stage you start to get to know him and his ways. After all of that, the relationship starts to transition to this commitment stage wherein it starts to make you think if this will be what you'll be wanting for the foreseeable future. If this is the guy, with his mishaps and vulnerabilities, his weakness and flaws, if these are the things you'll be able to deal with. If these are the things you CAN and willingly ACCEPT and SUPPORT and LOVE him through and through without any prejudice and total judgment. Then you should probably try it out some more.

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Good answer punk!!***
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thanks lady :P
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:8))).
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Maybe you love him but aren't in love with him. Maybe you're just depressed. Do you find other guys attractive or want to be with other guys? If not then its probably just you.

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No I'm not interested in any other guys. Nor have I been looking. I only have eyes for him.
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Then he may be boring or you're depressed in another aspect and are reflecting onto him.
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I hope that's the case. Because he's such a huge part of my life. And I care so much about him. He's been nothing but wonderful to me throughout our entire relationship. I'm hoping once I start my classes back up in a month, things will straighten themselves out. Because I don't have a job currently so I really just sit around and do nothing unless I'm with him.
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Don't break up with him, he seems awesome. Just find something to do. Go back to school or find a new job.
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He is awesome and sweet and everything I've ever wanted in a guy. I'm just going to work through this until I start my classes again in a few weeks. And if I still feel like this when I'm in my classes, then I'll evaluate our relationship some more. I just need to stop over analyzing everything and stressing so much.
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You seem happy with him. So try to find what the problem really is. Good luck.
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Thanks so much for your help! I really appreciate it!
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No problem. :)
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Good advice cutechica, nice talk.:0).
Seems you have a good handle on it wecame, wait and see how things are once you aren't totally dependant upon him for time spent....:0).
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If You choose to break with with Him, make certain that he has a complete library of essential music to listen to that will help him cope with such a catastrophic demise... I am absolutely NOT kidding on this matter.... Otherwise, You might as well drive a stake into his heart... for the second time...

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If you break up with him... It doesnt matter if its now or later. Your still gonna hurt him. Take it easy. How old are you? If your still in school you shouldnt be falling in love with anyone. I dont think you know what love is. 8 months is a long time. He didnt do anything wrong so just be with him. Ignore the thoughts of you not loving him. Why would you go out with him in the first place if you didnt "love" him.

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I would give it time. Make sure you're not holding on to him out of convenience. Sometimes we bury our true feelings deep inside out of fear of being alone, or not wanting to hurt feelings. At the end if the day, if it feels like you're kissing your brother, GET OUT.

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I always say that the only reason why I'd break up with him was if there was nothing left to fight for. But when I sit down and think about everything we have together, I honestly have a lot to fight for. And I don't want to hurt him if I'm not sure I want to break up. And no haha. I definitely don't feel like I'm kissing my brother.
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Give it time... you can't go wrong there.
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Hey kiv, good to see you!
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Hey TL! Good seeing you too!
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Kiv, I remember you! Long time no see! Come back to Ask, will ya?
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Well just tell him you need to take a break to figure things out. Then decide if you can make it without him/ stop thinking about him. If you can. Break up. If I can't explain to him why u needed a break and what you realized without him.

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We actually are taking a break this week. And it's took everything in me not to call him or text him. All I've done tonight is go through pictures of us. And make a list of everything I have to tell him once this week's over haha.
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You just need to do something to re-light the relationship! It's a phase, I've been through it before too. It gets better with time if you're patient and keep trying. Usually it happens to couples around the "1 year" mark.

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Thank you! I believe we need to do some rekindling. We get stuck in boring phases a lot.
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Yup! If there's nothing seriously wrong, save it!! :)
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There's nothing wrong except for these crazy emotions and doubts! Ugh. But I hope and pray that we get through this.
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You will if it's meant to be! Just stay positive and try to keep things interesting. Even married people fall in and out of love. The key to a successful relationship is as long as both people want it and are trying then it will work.
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It is my deep belief that every relationship has moments when we question it, and I mean every single one. What I am saying is this is normal, you have a deep appreciation for his good qualities as he does for yours. Give some thought to whether or not you are feeling you are not good enough for this man, it would be normal to want to sabotage it under those circumstances. If it's not the right relationship, the day will come when you will know for certain, until then, ride out these moments.

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Great answer!
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Second that!!:0).
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Thank you, Ladies! Witt, how the heck are you?
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Hanging in koichan, bad "head" weekend, much better today, thanks for asking..
How's life up on in beautiful West side? Hubby doing ok?
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He's having bad "head" days because of allergy-caused sneezing! Killer headaches. Thanks for asking. It's too danged hot here for this girl. But we're hanging.
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Bah! those are Bad headaches! Tried a Netty pot? Helps me a little at times....
Keep cool!:0).
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He said that he has and it didn't help. I don't know about it myself, sounds so gross I can't even stand to think about it.
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Give it really good thought... but if you are having these feelings chances are that you " are no in love " with this person. Because when you are "in Love" there is nothing else in world that matters more.... so the fact that you are doubting it... makes me think that maybe this isn't the right relationship for you... OR you just aren't ready for it yet.

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* are not in love *
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One time I had a guy who told me he loved me and he continued this for 3 months but I got scared and tried to get him interested in someone else and it didn't work he wanted me. We were just friends and we continued as before, playing games, teasing and flirting and sharing our dreams and lives with each other and then 6 months later I decided that I didn't want to hurt him and I made the break clean. I miss him alot but I know I did the right thing cause he needs to be with someone like himself.

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