You can "date" but you can't get "physical" - if you know what I mean. The problem is that in almost every case, it will get physical at sometime - which is illegal with minors for a reason. You really need to talk to your mom about this - she'll explain why you need to be older. Then you have to ask yourself, "what does a guy 4 years my senior, want with me? Aren't their girls available his own age?" Often guys that are unable to attract girls their own age (at your current age), are emotionally arrested - or see you as an easy "physical" target. Then there is the problem of him meeting a girl his own age and dumping you - not a pretty picture. When it comes to getting "physical" with a girl, you'd be amazed how much sleazy work they put into it - knowing you're not experienced enough to figure out his true motives.
I don't think it is okay to date a guy who is 4 years older than you especially if he is 18 and you are 14. This is because he is already and adult and you are under age. It will be better for you to wait until you are 18 if you are willing to date guys of this and older age.
You're under age. And I'm not too sure, but I think he could go to jail for that, because my stupid sister does that too. She's 18 and dates 15 or 16 years old and my mom said she could go to jail. I don't know, but my sister is a bad influence. I don't like her either. I mean he's an older boy, you know what older boys want. But come on you're getting it ! (; but no.
I think 2 years would be fine, but you're just too young. He already went through his life in high school and has had many experiences that you still need to experience. If you date him he will be in college and he can't expect you not to get dates to the dance, and you can't expect him not to.. Well party with girls and stuff.
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You should date him if you really like him and he really likes you!! But do not get to involved!! You are only 14!!! He is 18!! Do not have sex with him at all!! Even If he asks you are way to young to get prego!! Even if he says he will wear a condom the answer is no!! Until u r 18+!!
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Georgia, no matter how pure and chaste you want such a relationship to be, things have a habit of getting out of hand. Excitement takes over and you may find yourself doing things you hadn't intended -- and that is a slam dunk conviction for statutory rape after which he will be labelled for life as a registered sex offender.
If you really like this guy keep away from him. Young girls who date older boys are known colloquially as "jail bait".
I wouldn't keep dating him... Especially when he's 4 years older. Mainly he just wants sex, and that's probably all he wants. Break up with him so that you won't het pregnant young. It's sad that he would do that...
a 4 year age difference isn't a problem... but you are simply too young to date. wait till you are 16 im 17 and im also dating someone who is older by 3 years (hes 20) I see a lot of girls who are younger than me get hurt in a relationship because they are simply not ready. hes older so he knows what he wants. you on the other hand do not and you need a few years to mature
i think 4 years isn't that big of a deal.....if you're 18+. but at 14? that seems like too big of a gap, technically he's a legal adult and you are still a child. if you're gonna date young, date guys your own age.
Of course it is :-) I had a boyfriend for six months, he was eighteen and I was fourteen. Now fifteen, we are not together, but it's completely normal. You are just too mature most likely to date people your age :-)
No because you're a minor and he's not. Therefore, he could get into a lot of trouble and be accused as a sex offender if your parents don't like him or if something happens he could get in trouble. Plus, there's too much of an age/maturity difference. Secondly, you're only 14, just focus on your school work, your friends, your family, and guys your age and you should be fine :)