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Okay so my mom wants to move my family away from our hometown because there's a lot more opportunity where she wants us to move but me and my brother don't want to move. My mom is on the edge of being fired because she's been out of work for a while and hasn't got her work done which is extremely important for her workplace and if she gets fired then she won't be able to get a job like the one she's got around where we live. I want to finish high school in my hometown but with the way things are going, it looks like my mom's going to get fired and we'll have to move out of our house soon. Mom doesn't want to buy a house in our hometown because then she'll never get to live where she wants to live. I don't want to move and neither does my brother but I'm feeling really guilty about all the stress that I'm causing her. I definitely don't want to live with relatives while the rest of the family goes to live somewhere else far away. I don't want to move away from my friends but I really wanted to graduate from the high school that I'm going to now. I need someone else's input on this that isn't a friend or part of the family. Can someone please give me some advice?

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First of all, stop stressing your mother out. When she is at work, she needs to have her complete attention on her job and not on all the noise that you and your brother are creating. I completely understand about not wanting to move. I moved twice growing up; in the middle of 4th grade and in the middle of 7th grade. It sucked. You don't say anything about your dad, so I am going to assume she is a single mom. Be the grown-up here and try and give your mother the support she needs. If she moves without you guys, who will she have around her to support her emotionally? Use the rest of the summer to do some research about where you guys might have to move to. What you find might surprise you. In this economy, her choices are limited. You will find out that when you are the grown-up, you will have to make decisions that are not popular. Good luck.

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You need to see this from your moms perspective. Your mom has wanted to move somewhere else where she can have a better life for herself and the family. You can always make new friends. Talk with her. See if you can finish high school and then move.

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your mom shouldn't be putting her stress on you... why isn't she doing her job????? anyways, you need to talk to her than just asking the internet and ask her what you all should do to help each other and find a compromise. Is her new job really that important that she needs to move and take you away from your hometown and friends or is your want to stay in this school so important(a girlfriend doesn't count) that you absolutely can't move with your mother so she can pay for you? you need to talk because there are a lot of unanswered answers... no hard feelings man.

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Instead of you and your brother thinking about yourselves, think about your mother. There's always a deeper meaning behind our actions and words.

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I'd give anything to have had a hometown, but we've moved so many frikin times that I've never stayed in one place longer then five years. I say talk to your mom and ask her to put in a better effort at attending to her job, and if things don't work out and there's nothing she can do to save her job then move. But you hold on to that hometown of yours as best as you can, hon. It'll always be a part of you whatever happens, so don't be disappointed if things don't work out like you want them to.

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I can empathize with you on the moving around part. We've moved around so many times when I was little that I lost count. I moved to so many schools and never made any real friends. It doesn't matter about the friends I have now, I'll be sad but I can make new ones.....the one thing that keeps me from wanting to move is that I wanted to finish high school in the town I have now. It may have been stupid when I was a kid but the one thing I wished for on all of my birthdays was that we could stay in one place and I could attend one school until college and live with my family happily. Now, it just breaks my heart that we may have to move when I don't think I'm ready to.
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What grade are you in? If you're a freshman (i'm guessing your a senior by the sound of it), flip it, starting in a new school will be easy. Sure you may miss your friends but social networking has been the best way to keep in touch with others for years. And there's always summer and vacation so maybe you could visit (depending on how far you will be moving and if your mother is willing to let you visit). But you should still definitely talk to her anyway.

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you should move with your mum because her job is more important then your feeling but about your friends you can make new friends and you can visit your old friends

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look at it from your moms view. she has to feed two children and care for them so her work suffers and then to put a cherry on top she might get fired and then what is she going to do?
now how to fix it you ask? relieve some of the pressure of of your mom you know? give her massages and talk to her and maybe get a part time job?

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Since your mom is the one bringing in the money then you need to stop carrying on about your situation. Your situation is her situation. Don't cause problems or she may not be able to get a job cause she needs your support and love in this very stressful move ya'll are going to love it where you are going and you must do as she requests.

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If you have no roof over your head because your mom is fired or has no work it wouldn't matter where u lived or what school you went to you would have much bigger problems. The roof over your head is the most important thing in life next to having means to support you, food and warmth. You mom has to prioritize this as a responsible parent. Don't make it harder for her.

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