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How do I make my daughter stop cutting?

My daughter cuts because her father hits her a lot. He abuses her and calls her things and makes her bleed

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Your her mom you might want to do something about that.

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hide the knifes and get her to therapy, and if hes abusing her call child services

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He needs to stop that's child abide he can go to jail for that talk to him and if he won't listen call the cops on him

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You need to report your husband for the child abuse. How can you just stand by and watch this? Get your daughter help right away because things will just get worse.

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Then YOU need to put a stop to this. If you have some sort of relationship with the father, then he doesn't have all the control, you can make him stop. Get help soon.

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More like NOW. This guy sounds like he has serious problems who hits a girl that's the lowest of the low in my opinion .
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Why would you allow her father to hit her?!? You're mom so do something about it!! Stand up for her then tell her you're sorry you didn't help sooner. You have to communicate A LOT with teenagers to get them to trust you with everything that's effecting them. This is where you step in and take control of this situation. Don't let her dad see her and tell him he's lucky he's not in jail for child abuse or worse!! She's your child you brought her into this world to protect now do your job!!!

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Hi, Lala. I think you really know the first step to this and you just need someone to tell you. How can you stay with a man who is abusing your daughter? You and she need to get away from him or you need to get her away from him if, for some reason, you don't want to leave. I can't imagine why not, although I do understand fear, but not when it comes to someone hurting my daughter. She needs to go somewhere where she is protected first and foremost. If you can't leave, you need to call the cops so he can go to jail. You need to call CPS. Then she's going to need a lot of therapy for A LOT of things. It's your job to protect her and I'm not here to judge why you're not. But it's not too late, and whether you know it or not, her life's in danger. When she cuts, all she has to do is cut in one wrong place. I say get him out of there - yesterday.

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Hello again miss Susan, How are you? I hope you are doing better than the last time we spoke.
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Why, hello there, Joe. I am doing better than I was. Thank you so much for asking. We're thinking it was one of the new meds I was on that was making me sick. And how are you doing, honey?
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I am well. I got back from Youth Conference at ECU not too long ago and had a really great time. One of the talks and the first dance will stick with me forever. I am really glad to hear you are doing better.
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I'm sorry, Joe, but I just got notification you'd written back. Well, sometime if you ever feel like it, I'd love to hear about that special talk and dance. And I bet you anything she's writing her friends the very same thing, too. You are just such a special person and you're going to make some young woman very happy and very proud one day. You're so refreshing - in a dimming world, a bright new light. Thank you for writing, Joe. I think I might just put you in the one-of-a-kind category, my dear. Yep, think I might. 8-)
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I am honored that you think so highly of me, I really do. The dance was surprisingly great. There were over six hundred people there, and I could barely handle it. My head was splitting open, and I had to sit over in the corner of the gym to be able to stay in there. About half way through, I saw the girl I really like sitting alone. I summoned the courage, and walked over and asked her to dance. She accepted, and the song passed much to quickly. Afterwards, my head felt a lot better. I was even able to ask her to the last dance of the night. I was unable to get more than an hour of sleep that night.
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Actually, even though I'm older than dirt now, I remember a night kind of like that at a party I went to when I was a freshman in high school. Still get chillbumps when I think about it, just even the way he came up and said hello. My how time flies. Sounds like it was a very special night for you, my dear. I'm so glad.
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It was very special. I think she got a bit embarrassed when she asked me what my favorite part of the conference was, and I said "right now". At first she thought I meant the dance in general, but then I said "no, right now. This moment." She blushed and tripped a little. And she is a dancer, and I have never seen her trip ever.
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ROFL! See, I told you that you were special! That is so funny, Joe.
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Thanks. The talk that will stay with me is that way because of one of the stories he told felt like he was talking about me. He talked about being in a Swiss train station looking for a Stake president. He looked around and saw a man in a dirty, tattered suit with filthy tangled hair. Long story short, when they went to the address they had been given, the two missionaries found a much different, much cleaner man. He told them that he had given up all hope on life, and was planning on killing himself, but the man taking the time to talk to him and deliver a message of love and compassion from Heavenly Father turned him around. I was much in the same place as that dirty man (not literally, as I am in NC, not Switzerland.) I have seen a dramatic change in my life since I started listening and taking lessons from the missionaries, much like the clean version of the man (not quite so sudden, but close.)
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You are a mother and don't even know how to handle this!?! That's disgusting!

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I just looked at all your previous questions. A month ago YOU were considering cutting. Today your daughter is doing it. Please be honest with yourself.

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This is your daughter , she comes first if her father is doing this you need to make sure he has no contact with her and begIn treatment for the damage that he has caused her right away!

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oh wow, by allowing this to happen your just as guilty as the so called " father" ! And that's the way the courts will see it. Don't sit and allow for this to happen, this is an innocent life you 2 are messing with. Get a grip, your mom, you are the one she is suppose to be able to come to in need of help. But instead you choose to allow for him to hurt her. If something isn't done now you might lose her to suicide or other things later. So let's think about this... On your priority list what and who are more important? This man you fell in love with years ago who has changed? Or this innocent life known as your daughter that needs and depends upon you? I would pick being alone with my daughter and keeping her safe. Why? Because that's my Damn job!!,,,

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Talk to her about it... She might be reluctant, but explain to her there's better ways to cope.... I guess....

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Get away from your husband

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You are allowing the abuse and the cutting to happen? What I would do is sit her down and just talk to her, let her know that you are there for her whenever she needs you. And get away from your Husband, if he really loved you two then he wouldn't hit your daughter. My goodness Gracious.

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Call child services and the cops! U might be scared of him too but as her mother u need to put her before yourself. If it were me I'd do whatever it took to stop him from hurting my child, even I'd it meant turning his abuse from her to you for calling cops and child services. That's what Ur gonna have to do. He will end up seriously hurting her our killing her or pushing her to kill herself if she feels there's no way out of the situation. And if u don't help her she well hate u for it too! I know... I was physically and sexually abused as a child and my mother was too scared to do anything. I had to tell my grandparents n they called child services and I stayed with them for a while before my dad went to jail then I went back home to my mom. But I've always had some hats feelings towards her for not helping me and for staying with him after he did what he did.

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You need to make sure she knows that what her dad calls her isn't true. And that you're there for her to talk about it. And I think she shouldnt see her dad anymore if he treats her like that. But you have to understand cutting is an addiction so it's hard to stop, but help her stop by like not letting her have access to knives, razors, etc. I don't necessarily think you should make her see a counselor or therapist because some people that do feel like they have too many problems and going to counseling just makes it worse and they dont want to tell people because it's embarrassing and it might make them cut more and they won't want to tell someone they just met about everything.

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Get her away for a time, and talk to the man.

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Her father hits her? What kind of dad is that? If you know this is going on then you should do something about it immediately. Being raised in a safe environment is a very important factor in creating a good person and ensuring the child has a bright future. First you have to get her away from her dad and make sure she knows that you're there for her and everything will be okay.

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You should tell her father to stop doing that and tell him that his daughter cuts because of him and tell your daughter not to do so and that it's bad for her, it's hard now but it'll get better soon :)

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I found this interesting article “When Your Teenager Self-Injures”. Please read it.... http://wol.jw.org/en/wol/d/r1/lp-e/102013283?q=“When+Your+Teenager+Self-Injures”&p=par .... I hope you will get the needed help for your daughter.

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