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Um, people think I'm a boy :,( how do I fix this?

so I am a tomboy and I have a fairly deep voice for a girl and people keep mistaking me for a boy. I always wear a baggy tee shirt because I'm not comfortable with low cut or tight shirts and my hair is always tied back. I got my hair cut not too long ago and now my hair is just above my shoulders so more people mistake me for a boy whether I have it down or up. it has gotten to the point where three people thought I was a boy today. how do I fix this without wearing makeup or wearing skimpy clothes (please don't say trans-gender). it is really crippling my self esteem to the point where I don't want to leave the house or talk to people. please help!!!

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Don't worry your not a boy . Once when my hair was long I went to Mexico and some guys were whistling at me then I turned around . I was about 13.... Yea that was awkward. Just try wearing more feminine cloths if your tired of your old cloths . If you don't want to your fine as well . I assure you your not a guy . How do I know this ... well I'm a guy .

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O.o
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What .... ?
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*whistles*
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HahaXD yea it was pretty awkward I was sitting in the car with my mom . It was towards the end of summer before I got a haircut . That is one reason why I don't stare at girls I was once stared at by a bunch of guys . Weirdest situation I have ever experienced .
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I bet xD sorry for that
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It's ok I have experienced some weird crap in my life . I'm 18 now and things seem pretty normal ... For now plus my hairs short haha.
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Haha xD Ive had some weird stuff happen to me too
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Do tell ! Haha(: it's only fair .
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Maybe the mexis were bi
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Maybe .
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Hmmm... o.o I think they're a little inappropriate for this site. xD
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Ohhhh? Haha it's ok then .(:
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Act like one
Where baggy t-shirts that don't look like something a boy would wear
Style your hair etc...

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You could try doing more feminine hair styles like braids or wearing feminine colors and jewelry.

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My hair is too short to braid but I can try with earrings as my ears are already pierced
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Yeah that would help
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You just need to change your wardrobe. No need for skimpy clothes. Wear feminine clolors and prints. Don't be scared to try a skirt ( I heard you gasp). Wear feminine shoes, by which I mean either the color or wear flats. You may want to tie some hair back with a pretty barrette. Or wear earrings and accessorize.

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Sweetie, don't worry about what people think of you. You need to just be yourself. Dress however you want to and if they think you're a boy, don't let it bother you. If you really want to come off more feminine, only go as far as you want to; don't do anything that you don't feel like yourself doing.

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I'm sorryyy.. :c Maybe grow your hair out a little longer or wear a pink t shirt once in a while? If you're not willing to wear a little mascara or lipgloss, I don't know what to tell you.

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maybe you can wear a girlier style of jeans and girls graphic tees

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I think you have mixed issues. You seem to go from one extreme to another. You don't have to wear tight skirts or low cut blouses to look more feminine. Have you considered clothing that is more middle of the road? Also have you really considered why you continue to wear baggy tees and actually dress like a boy? Try the make up counter and have an expert try different looks. they do it for free. then contact a personal shopper at Nordstroms. also free. tell them the look you're going for. Good luck!

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maybe you can wear t shirts that aren't so baggy, tank tops , if your pulling your hair back and it's low , try pulling it up a little higher, lighter color clothing.

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Not all clothes have to be revealing. Try looking at feminine clothes with more colors to your wardrobe. Check out Old Navy and Target. Grow your hair out a little more if you want, and check out some quick easy hair tutorials on YouTube for your hair. You don't have to do anything too drastic. Just something here and there. :)

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Wear some shirts that are a bit girly without being tight. Say a pink t-shirt. Or get a couple of hair ties that have a small decoration on them. Say a tortoise shell band. Nothing frilly, but definitely not masculine.

I went to school with someone named Terry who had the same problem. Everyone thought She was a boy until she wore a dress for picture day. Her name didn't help her either.

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You need to add earrings, necklace, bangles(bracelets), hair bow or nice hair ribbon of something to dressup you hair so that whether you are wearing baggy pants, shirt or shorts you have the jewelry a girl would wear.

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May I ask your first name, and age please? Even though you are a tom boy, try dressing the part occassionally! I'm not saying everyday...but buy a simple, comfortable dress, (they do exist), and a pair of flat casual shoes, a nice soft cologne to put on... Let people see that you do indeed have a feminine side to you. (You will have to be seen this way a few times, so more than just one or two people see you.) The first time a guy (of any age), opens a door for you will make you think twice about looking like a female! Who knows, you may just discover a whole new person underneath those baggy T's, jeans n tennies! A NEW YOU! I just bet you will "clean up" as they say, pretty good! IF you decide to give it a try, let me know the outcome. EXCITED FOR YOU!

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I dont know if my name is important because in this century a guy can be named Michelle if he pronounces it wrong. My name is Andrea which is I suppose gender neutral and I'm thirteen so I guess I am in that "awkward phase"
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Cutesify your tomboyishness (no comments from the gallery about spelling/grammar I'm making a point.)
Style your hair
Wear edgy clothing "fitting"/suitable for a girl
Lauren Bacall (Who?) had a deep voice, so did "Froggy" (Who?). Don't let it get to you. They are well remembered 'till this day.
Lots of guys like tomboys as opposed to "Little Miss Priss" types.
Enjoy being yourself. Smile
P.S. Your name is adorable.

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Great advice! My name was inspired when I started incubating 500 leafbug eggs (went a bit overboard)
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Leafbugs, you remind me of Jody Foster in "Paper Moon" very adventurous. Keep the spirit. Safe Journey
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try wearing Girly Shirts or buy solid color shirts and decorate them like tye dye and fabric paint

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Don't worry about what people think as long as you are happy, Tomboys are great women!

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dont worry sometimes other people tease.they only think your a boy because you act and look like a boy and you has not been working on your girly voice

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Don't worry sometimes people are jerks! i'm sure your a beautiful amazing girl and as long as youre happy, fuq what they think!

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Thx best reply ever! I'm sleeping with a smile tonight
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You don't nessacarily have to wear skimpy clothing just wear fitted clothing that looks appropriate for your body type. Also experiment with your hair by just using some clips or pinning it back. I don't know I hope this helped :)

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I'm sure your very pretty, maybe you could try to add some feminine colors to your wardrobe, and try some cute headbands or hair clips!

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Try going to Target.com and check out the women's section. There are some nice floral tops that won't seem "skimpy" or tight. A lot of them are see through, so you have to wear a tank top under. There are also pink tops that are supposed to be loose. Wear some girly boot cut pants, and a pretty pair of flats. Get some bras that show people you have boobs. Wear your hair in a cute headband or a high pony tail. At Marshall's department store, they have nice long dresses that won't show off skin, but will compliment your figure. Good luck, and remember: you wear the clothing, don't let the clothing wear you!

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Well honestly, im the same way.. and you don't need to wear skimpy clothes or be uncomfortable to look like a girl. You could also style your hair differently. Here are some links for some girly clothes that wont make you look skimpy :) And btw, just forget what other people think of you b/c someone will come to respect you for who you are and not what you look like :)
Bootcut jeans are really comfortable and these are from kohls: http://www.kohls.com/catalog/juniors-bootcut-jeans-bottoms-clothing.jsp?CN=4294719935+4294737278+4294719454+4294719807+4294719810
Cute shirts that aren't skimpy (Graphic tees) : http://www.kohls.com/catalog/juniors-graphic-tops-clothing.jsp?CN=4294719935+4294737088+4294719805+4294719810
Some cute feminine shoes: http://www.famousfootwear.com/juniors some cute shoes :) And btw, you don't have to wear this stuff, you could just buy stuff that are in your size and not things that are baggy :)
Good Luck :3

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It's okay. Those people might no be doing that on purpose. That's your style and you like it that way. But if you do want to change it go for a girly and classy look. And maybe wear a bit of makeup to kind of show that you are a girl. If you are old enough to wear makeup. You can shop at a store with lots of accessorize and dresses and skirts. And lastly wear PINK everyone knows girls love pink. Try to be a little different in your personalities but when you come home be you.

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That's who you are, but if you wanna change that, try choosing baggy shirts that are a bit girlie like the ones with some spikes or something like that, also try changing your hair a bit....I know you'll hate this but add some extensions in the meantime until your hair grows :)

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Try wearing large earrings. I once had this problem when a hairdresser cut my hair too short and I was very skinny. If you don't want to pierce your ears, look for clip on earrings. This will make a difference believe it or not.

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You don't have to wear anything big and girly like glitter or big earing or tons of make up.
maybe style your hair different wear some skinny jeans and some flats a loose tshirt try alittle make up

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Wear jewelry, more feminine clothes, do something to your hair - you don't have to grow it long - look at Miley Cyrus, her hair is short but you know she's a girl. Try a little makeup! Use a bit of lipstick or eyeliner, nothing ridiculous.

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Edit - feminine clothes don't have to be slutty. Wear a pink shirt or something. Jewelry can be anything from a woman's watch to clip-on earrings. Makeup can be very subtle, but it's the little things that make a difference.
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Lol u know Miley Cyrus is a girl cuz she dresses like a stripper
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As long as you are happy with the way you are that is all that matters forget what people think about you or say.. it does not matter! Just be yourself and be happy with that ! who cares about their opinions :) Your beautiful as you are you do not need to change!

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wear those same clothes but with feminine colors like pink try wearing earring in both ears and have a littlie girly accessories like pink purse mobile cover etc.

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You don't have to wear tight clothes or revealing clothes just try not wearing too many t shirts. There are still shirts that are comfortable and baggy that aren't t shirts. You could also try painting your nails (It doesn't have to be a girly color like pink you could maybe try blue or silver or something).

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Wardrobe and accessory(ies) suggestions they're all excellent! Putting a little tint on your lips too. And may I add, walk like a lady stomach in breast out (not literally). What's good in it for you if you're dressed like a girl but you walk like a man.

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