8 months ago
Last edited at 11:08PM on 7/27/2013
Most of the time kids keep acting up cause there is a lack of consistency. You keep doing the same thing expecting different results. Maybe if time out isn't enough. Make a consequence and follow through. Now, if you are one of those who don't believe in spanking kids... by law you only have to feed and clothe and put roof over there head. Drastic times call for drastic measures. Take all his toys, tv, box them up and put in garage. If that doesn't work, take his favorite toy and throw in trash. Make sure he sees you do this, and don't pull it out. REALLY THROUGH AWAY FOR GOOD. Eventually, he will realize mom means business. No games, no more warnings, no crap!!! Kids mind is so what. I get put in time out for few minutes, nothing is really happening. Im sure you have tried to explain more then once, im sure you have put in time out more then once. Maybe its time to give him a real punishment.
Figure out why he is doing it, short temper,too many violent cartoons,too many spankings...also try to keep him away from situations where he hits as much as you can and teach him to be gentle...maybe buy him a little pet or small edible plant he can garden. Once you take away one behavior you have to replace it...maybe also try playing sports with him or even tag.
I know with modern day some people may look down on this but sometimes kids need a good spank in the butt. Yes it hurts briefly but it works and sometimes that's all you can do. If you've never done it its a good surprise and might shock him out of it. But you need to be consistent if it keeps happening.
When he hits he has to lose something he likes going places TV important play things earlier bed times. He doesn't get them back no matter what and if you cave in shame on you you won't gain a thing. If you are out and he hits you take him out of the scene and make him sit by himself then when you are home he still gets something taken from him. When he's really good notice it and give him something back just for the good thing he did no matter what it is. If he hits, it's gone again. Reward good behavior always and take something away always when his behavior is bad. Ther is an opposite reaction for every action, he needs to learn that this equals that. It's an important lesson. If this just means mommy acts up in a fuss and nothing happens to him of great significance, why should he stop. You have to get serious with what you take away everything he has privileges, gifts, time spent having fun, privacy, (doors open of off the hinges, etc is up for a loss . He chooses the behavior it's with full knowledge that the next item on the list is history by his own decision.