its the only advice my dad gave me (although he has a PHD in life) BE YOU allow time to learn what that means. i have redefined my life many times over. for ex.. i once was shy. have since given 1000's of speeches in front of as many as 50,000 people.
i once was into science and math and being ubber smart. now im NOT. wisdom in relinquishing carries so much more value to me. in lieu of striving.. there is settled.
along the way.. i found the true me. it is such a peaceful place to know that we are made to be unique and special.. all of us.. just as we are. most dont "get that".
there is a single factor in finding this out. it is not a secret. but only YOU can find it.
one way to know you have arrived (centered) is to be alone and not lonely. THEN you can better be you AND love others.