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Help with insane In-Law?

I've been married to my husband for 12 years, his mother has always been a problem but now that I'm pregnant it has gotten out of hand. She's lying to everyone not only trying to make me look bad but also trying to make her son look bad. She said he's selling Narcotics to teenagers and is trying to get him to lose his job and I know for a fact my husband has never in his life done anything like that. She also said A few more things like I'm cheating, My husband and I have Inappropriate videos on the internet and that the only reason I'm with him is because of his money. Now all of these are not only lies but outrageous ones and I'm tired of her doing it is there ANYTHING I could do? or maybe advice? I've looked everywhere on Google so I figured I'd try you guys.

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fritzmerde

You need to smack your husband in the back of his head & man up. He needs to tell his mother to back off & that if she does not the only way she'll see her grandchild is via postcard.

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If you can afford it, I would suggest moving as far away from her as possible.

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Well, you can sue for slander, which is notoriously hard to prove as the person has to know what they are saying is untrue in order to be found guilty. Other than that, you can cut her out of your life if she doesn't behave. That may mean sitting her down and talking to her.

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I would just move far away from her, and ignore her completely. Sorry I completely misread your question btw :D

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So true but I love my husband dearly we were together when he had absolutely nothing
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I don't think that's why she's with him ... that's what the monster-in-law is saying.

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Ooooh. Let me edit this, I misread that question!
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I don't move away from problems. Find it does not work, and besides we need tom work.
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You and your husband should think about cutting all ties with her. Sounds like she has some serious issues and you two don't need that. You especially don't need that kind of stress right now.

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If you can get any of it in writing ... or get someone she told to agree to be a witness ... or get it recorded ... ... you can tell her to STFU, or you will take her to court and sue her for slander.

OR ... you could just tell your friends she is crazy and spreading lies about you and your husband ... and then not have anything to do with her and her friends ... tell her if she doesn't stop immediately, you will cut her entirely out of your life ... she won't see you OR her son OR her grandchild(ren).

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Cut her off! She's obviously toxic!

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That is a little crazy. Have you asked her WHY she behaves this way? Have you or your husband tried having a long conversation with her about why the things she says aren't true, or trying to figure out why she thinks/says they are? Have you talked with other relatives and apologized that they've gotten caught up in this (it's not your fault but it makes you the bigger people.)

Since you say she is trying to make him lose his job, I would suggest he have a long discussion with a lawyer and talk about informing the employer of the situation with the in-law. What she is doing is called slander and defamation of character, you could possibly sue her or slap a restraining order on her, though I doubt that would *fix* the problem.


Another possibility is to issue a mental health warrant. If your husband fears that she is unstable or dangerous he can have her deemed incompetent and have her psychologically evaluated. If she is married then her husband would be the one to do that, otherwise it's next of kin (i.e. child.) Problem with that is that she now becomes your dependent if she is actually assessed to be incompetent.

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Tell her if she doesn't cut the crap, you won't allow her around her grandchild.

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How old is she? She obviously has some serious mental health issues. Is she on any medication that affects her thinking?

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she's 55 and non what so ever she even has a job
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She may have mental disorders. You should document what she is saying with dates and times. If you can record what she says that's even better. Then you need to schedule an appointment with HER doctor. She may truly believe what she is saying. Threatening her and getting angry with her seems to fueling more bad behavior. So you and your husband might want to try the opposite to see if her behavior improves. But sounds like she has a mental illness.

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Recording her would probably b excellent ammunition !
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A crazy mother-in-law? How unusual.

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I know right! I always said I'd never have one boy was I wrong
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Cut off all ties, stop talking too them or about them.

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I would talk to a lawyer about the slander and once u have ur precious baby she automatically has Grandparents rights which is VERY scary. I don't think u want her to have ur precious baby to spend alone time with her if she wins. Don't wait much longer it will give her more time to gain on u. Once ur baby is born u want all ur positive energy for that time Don't let her ruin that on u & ur husband but most of all she would b taking precious time away from the baby who only deserves the best u can give,after all the baby did not ask to b here. Just make the baby's world the best u can give ?

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In America ... grandparents don't have automatic rights.
They have no more rights to see the child than a random stranger would.
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I can see an in-law taking crap about you but for her to attack her own son just shows how little she cares. I really think this is an issue that your husband need to address to her, he should rip her a new ass for her treatments of you and himself and i think you should also be there when he does it, mom or not she has no right. Also I can guarantee that woman would not be a part of our or her grand child's life unless a genuine heartfelt apology was offered and even then first time I heard her talking crap again she'd be out for good.

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Just don't let her near you. You don't have to answer phone or door ever. As for her telling tales, IF you think anyone you know would actually believe her, speak to them privately and apologize for any harassment her mental illness has caused. Same for hubby, and he needs to tell her be gone until you can act like a decent human being.

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