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How do I tell my dad I want to go to Islamic school? read down below please!

I am a Christian Right now and been seeking allah for a while now. the reason is I can't be muslim if I am in my parents household. so when the time comes to go to college, how do I tell my dad I want to go to a islamic college? he also wants to pay for my college. thank you so much and happy rest of Ramadan!

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I think this is saddest question I've ever read here. Why do you want to be part of religion that would take your family away, while hypocritically taking their money for your education. I think you are a foolish person. Religion is nonsense, Islam most of all. Sorry, but I can't be pc and say everything is equal and fine. Just look at Islamic countries, they are terrifying except for a very few such as Turkey. It's not civilized religion but stuck in the past when people knew nothing about world.

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On the other hand 400 million have died because of Christianity
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And people are murdered, beaten, and raped. Everyday... In the name of Allah. You aren't going to justify anything by pointing out the negatives of another
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Point -Joshua!
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Heya rusty!
I just had an MRI yesterday, been cancer free and off chemo for 9 months now. How ya doing?
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NancyDrew, your answer makes sense in the abstract, but he probably knows some muslims who aren't uncivilized, and he definitely knows his father... why should he believe you? Why should he blame islam for taking away his family, when it's his own father's intolerance that is at fault?
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NancyDrew, Who said Islam would take her family away? The only thing that would take her family away is if her family isn't tolerant of her going to an Islamic school and/or being a Muslim.
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Tell him now. Just say, "Father, I wish to join an Islamic school"

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If he's paying for your college, your gonna have to tell him, the sooner the better if , your old enough to make your own decisions, you may have to pay for your college education though.

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Do you know that "Allah " that you are seeking is the same God we are praising !? Only One God, just different teachings and beliefs...Think about it once again.

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He's still your father

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The God of Islam, of Christianity, of Judaism, is all one and the same. The only differences are what we call Him and what we practice to strengthen our own faith.

Anyways, there's no real "way" to talk to him about it except to simply be honest and straightforward. He's your dad, he will love you regardless. But if you want him to understand your decision, you first must understand it yourself. So think hard and really make sure you know why you want to go to an Islamic school before you try to explain it to him. Good luck with your journey, may God light your path.

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No counsel will deter you from this reckless plunge into error. Seek God as you will, go to college where you wish, but I don't think anything we say will make a difference to you.
Your parents are worried about you, and rightly so. This decision is best made with them, and not here on Ask. But ultimately it's your life.

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Best answer of them all, great as ever shiny!.
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if this is your choice and u find peace in your heart then I think just tell your father and god will sure help you.

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according to what I know in Islam you have to love your parent the same love for god and even if you become a different religion you still have to love them . and you can tell him father thank you so much you are I appreciate what you do to me but I was thinking about going to an Islamic collage and also it's okay if someone is Muslim ,they can go to any collage they want it doesn't not have to be Islamic collage .have a nice day (:

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If this is what you REALLY want and deep down in your heart you believe its what you want then you should tell your dad and tell him your reasons too. He'll be asking a lot of questions though.

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ask them politely and respectly because Islam ask you that...and they will not oppose Allah with you .. trust Allah

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have not you converted to Islam ?! you wrote I am a Christian Right now ?!!
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It is very confusing! I am stuck in between. I had lied before of already being muslim, so I am honest now and that is truth.
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muslims don't have to go to islamic college,they can go to any college as far as I know,however if you want to study religion,just talk to him honestly and explain to him your reasons and show him why you like this religion.and ignore the few hateful answers you read here by the way, good luck

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well said
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thanks ;)
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Nice answer !(:
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thank you!yours is great too :)
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In America, I don't think there are any Islamic colleges. There are Islamic schools though. (Like, all the way up to high school.) But there are many colleges where there are tons of Muslim students. You can try going to those colleges. It depends on where you live or where you want to go. But either way, if you're a Muslim, it doesn't mean you have to go to an Islamic college. You can go to any college.
Anyways, when the time comes and you know which college you want to go to, just tell your dad that you want to go there. Islam teaches us to be kind and respectful towards our parents, regardless of their religion. So you owe it to your parents to be honest with them. If you want to convert to Islam (which is a great idea, btw) you can do so now. Good luck! :)
Btw, I read what you wrote on your profile. I think you should make some Muslim friends and visit the local mosque. That way, you'll learn more about Islam. :)

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Thank you as we'll sister :)
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You're welcome.
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This is goo advice. You should 'hang around' muslim boys also. To see how well they treat their women. See how well they treat their daughters. This way you will see how well YOU will be treated when you grow up in, and have to be treated by other muslims.

Women are treated as 'chattel'. Look up that word in the dictionary. There is more than meets the eye (or ear) in islam.
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I'm a Muslim woman and I assure you, Muslim men treat women with respect. Most of them treat women like queens.
I'm sure there are Muslim men out there who don't treat women with respect, etc. That just means they are not following Islam properly.
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And there is the problem. No one within the Islamic community is LOUDLY protesting this. It seems that just as I (and millions of others feel) feel threatened by radical Islam, the moderate, Islamic followers are equally intimidated by them and afraid for their lives. So they remain mum on the subject.
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those who treat women not properly do not follow Islam rules, its not about their religion its about the culture and background of that place or person.
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@Tractortug, Protest about what??? There is nothing to protest about. Islam is a great religion. It's perfect.
First of all, Islam tells to be moderate. It doesn't tell us to be extreme...in anything. (The only "Muslim extremists" that exist are the Taliban, whom I hate even more than you. They don't follow Islam properly. They follow their version of the Sharia.)
Islam also respects women. And like I've said before, those who follow Islam properly respect women as well.
That being said, I hate it when those non-Muslims who clearly don't understand Islam attempt to "free" us Muslim women. If there is any oppression at all, it is in being savior to women who are already free.
I'm sure there are oppressive Muslim men out there (although I know none....thankfully). But their behavior should not be blamed on Islam anymore than an oppressive non-Muslim man's behavior is blamed on his religion.
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When Christian Zealots cause trouble they are loudly and quickly put down (by government, public outcry and other moderate Christian organizations)

When radical Islam rears its' ugly head NOONE in the Islamic world says Boo.

This is the 'protest' I referred to. The moderate (and as you put it the correct Islam follower) groups do NOTHING to quell the extremists. You even refer to them in your post in the third person, as if they don't really exist. I know why. It is because your religion teaches you to be tolerant of other Muslims, but hold all 'non believers' accountable. So you are willing to ignore the radical Muslims, but crucify the infidel. This is the WHOLE issue that has allowed radical Islam to spread like cancer around the world. It will consume even you, a moderate Muslim. You will be force to adopt their version of Sharia, under penalty of death. If you don't believe me, wait 10 or 20 years. You will remember these words and wonder how it 'came to be'.

Everyone is free to have their own Religion. But the coercion of others to convert is wrong. Does your Quran specifically state: "Fight and slay the idolators."(9-5) "They must be enslaved, taxed or converted" Or not?????

I do not agree with your position that Islam is a peaceful religion. It may be where you live, but in the majority of the world it is most definitely NOT peaceful.

What country do you live in? Where were you born?
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I agree that people should stop the extremists from spreading terror. But the reason why most Muslims (the public) don't do anything about it is not because they are simply being tolerant. After all, Islam doesn't tell us to be tolerant towards those who kill innocent people. According to Islam, those who kill innocent people deserve a death penalty. And the Taliban have destroyed tons of innocent lives. Therefore, according to Islam, they deserve the death penalty.
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There is also the fact that Islam does not tell Muslims to kill non-Muslims. The verses in the Qur'an about killing non-Muslims is related to Jihad, which doesn't exist anymore. It did exist sometime 1400 years ago, and I'll tell you why. First of all, Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) and his companions followed Islam and spread Islam peacefully for 13 or 15 years. The non-Muslims tortured them. They slaughtered them and killed them in the most brutal ways. Finally, the Muslims migrated to Madina. Then Allah (God) commanded them to do Jihad to defend themselves and their religion. Since the conditions for Jihad don't exist today, there is no Jihad. (The Taliban probably think they're doing Jihad. But they're wrong.) Islam teaches religious tolerance. No one can be forced to convert to Islam.
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Saying that Islam is peaceful in some places and not others does not make sense. It would make more sense if you said that there are peaceful Muslims in some places and not in others. Either way, it's not true. The thing is, you most often probably hear about "extremist Muslims" on the news. The truth is, when you turn on the news, what you're learning (most often) is the worst of each country. Only bad news is news. The worse the news is, the more coverage it gets. You're never gonna see a news headline that says, "Decent Muslim Middle Eastern Family Found. Tune in at 11 for full coverage." That just doesn't happen. Therefore, you might THINK that the majority of Muslims in the world are not peaceful. However, the opposite is true. The majority of the Muslims in the world are peaceful and follow Islam properly.
I was born and raised in the U.S. and this is where I've lived my whole life.
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"Either way, it's not true" You just validated my assertion. You are not willing to come out and outright condemn the Terrorism. You dance around it with sayings such as:Some places, and not others". It would be better for the world if the ENTIRE Muslim world condemned the people who are doing this terrorism. Condemn it publicly, loudly and often. But all I hear is crickets chirping!
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I don't get your comment.
First of all, when I wrote "Either way, it's not true." I was referring to what you wrote about most Muslims being bad. I wrote that the opposite is true, and that the majority of Muslims are good. Then I stated the reason why you might think that most Muslims are not good.
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Second, Islam condemns violence. Terrorism is violence, of course. But for some reason, that word seems to be reserved for Muslims only. Terrorism means spreading terror and even a random guy robbing a shop is "spreading terror". And of course I hate and condemn terrorism, and so does my religion. How do you not get that? I've mentioned that above like a dozen times.
Besides, I don't feel like I have to explain the behavior of a bunch of nutjobs simply because they follow the same religion as I - or they CLAIM to anyway. They also claim to be doing whatever it is that their doing because of Islam, which simply makes no sense at all whatsoever. Yes, I agree that they should be stopped (and so should the millions of other criminals out there). And yes, the ENTIRE Muslim population does condemn terrorism. But protesting isn't really gonna make much of a difference. In case you didn't know, the government in the Middle East doesn't love terrorists either.
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