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My parents mentally physically abused me and neglected me but now im 18 can i press charges?

my parents make hurt me a lot when I was a kid they had child protection services trying to take me from them 2 times when I was a kid I fought to stay home because I didn't want to leave my family I live with strangers but now I am 18 I have some where to go I want to make them pay for what they did and all the pain the caused me

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Just move out and don't look back.

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You can try, but unless you have evidence of abuse, there is no way to prosecute them. Most states also do not allow you to press charges on child abuse that happened more than 3 years, 12 months, etc.

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move out-god bless.
some ppl aren't fit to be parents

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Move on and avoid any contact. But you can prank call them in the wee hours and breath real heavy

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You need to let go of all the hurt and move on with your life. Holding in so much hate and resentfulness will only hurt you more in the end. Try to live a happy life an forgive those who have hurt you. Don't make the same mistakes with your loved ones.

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move on, harboring that hate and seeking revenge is not good for YOU, you may not be able to forgive them, but you need to move on with your life, don't look back and don't ever contact them again...do what is best for YOU, they will not help you in any way.

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I wholeheartedly agree with Tony737, and will also add you really should seek counselling of some sort. You need to unlearn all the bad behaviours that you have been indoctrinated with.

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It's too late you should've just let Child Services when you were younger, since they would've believed you as a kid.

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I hope you can, but I don't think you have very good odds of winning. Nowadays, there are laws protecting parents like that. Family members of 2 boys took the boys' mother to court because the mother left bruises on them and every time she came near them they were terrified (they would in their room and try to protect each other). She was allowed to keep them, because there's a law that says parents can punish their kids physically. When I heard that story, it made me sick.

Plus, I know someone who have been reported to child protection services many times, but they have yet to do anything and probably never will.

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Tony and Jackie are right. Besides, by the very fact that you fought to stay with them, you greatly diminished any chance you would have now of prevailing in a case against them. By continuing to let this hurt you, you are only giving them more power over your life. Take back control of your life, and get your revenge by living the best life possible... knowing that they will always be miserable excuses for human beings.

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I say do it. Get a family law lawyer to make your case. There may be a statute of limitations on the crime, but then again you don't have to do a criminal case. You can do a civil case where you seek reprisal for pain and suffering endured. Yes, absolutely, get the lawyer and sue them.

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Long story short.... Everything I know now is what I tought myself...
You have people that are able to set an example for you...
My parents through me in the Foster System from the age of 10 till I was nearly 20...
Be greatly greatfule you at least have parents.
However it doesn't make it right for what they did..
Do us all a favor and move on like I did..

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be the better person here and just move on. dont lower your self by being agressive or mean. I understand that you want revenge but whats the point of pressing charges. if you press charges then they win. just move on and live your life to the best of your abilitys. suround yourself with good friends. living a good happy life will be the best way to get back at them.

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You can move out and move on from them.

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Make them pay by showing them what a great person you've become, and thank goodness you didn't turn out like them. Unfortunately we can't pick our parents, some parents should never have children, they just never grew up themselves.
Forgiveness doesn't excuse their behavior, forgiveness prevents their behavior from destroying your heart. Move on with your life, be glad you got out alive, it was a blessing in disguise.

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Move out and survive your childhood. If nothing else they made you a strong Independent person. Parents have no guide book and so e make more mistakes than others. Some are downright discussing examples of bad parenting. You couldn't change your life till now, you can't change them ever,the best revenge is to live well despite them. They were responsible for all that sucked in your life but now your are responsible for all that sucks. So take charge of yourself and make sure you live your best life because you are the boss not them. They are people who made mistakes that you suffered for but you can at least make do with the choice to be happy anyway cuz you survived them. Let them be who they are without you if that's what you need to do , but ignorance in how to raise children is rampant in this country these days. It's not their fault no one taught them the right thing to do. You can start a new cycle in your generation to treat your kids differently when u have them in the future, now that you know what NOT to do. It takes three generations to correct a mistake that was passed along from a parent. Your children will not repeat their grandparents mistakes. If you refuse to keep those mistakes alive.

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I'm so sorry. Just bear it, because if you leave you'll feel guilty and might go into depression.

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