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AchyBreakyMe

How do I get over being lied to, betrayed by a best friend? Does time really heal all wounds? Why do people take advantage of kind people?

Its not like we were kids we are full grown adults. Do men really love to hurt women? Sorry im just at a complete loss. Help?!

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Yes you likely will get over it, but if no effort on his part to right whatever wrong, you'd be a FOOL to let him that close again!
Men think different than Women, don't think many of "like" to hurt a woman, but a few actually do! Possible once you explain hurt, he might "get it"?
Hope so!
Time DOES heal all wounds, but some take a long time... Wisdom comes from learning from our mistakes & surviving the challenges!
It is much easier to use/take advantage of someone NICE or one who TRUSTS you! Far more difficult, if not! Of course, this can only be done ONCE to someone wise! For he/she will not drop their guard the next time!
Someone who hurts, uses, or steals from, Friends & Family, is NEVER welcome in my life! This like Cop calling & shifting the blame, are SERIOUS CHARACTER FLAWS!!!
Most often, not something that can be changed...

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thanks & I will never let him close again. Like I told him I forgive but never forget.
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That is BEST! One who cannot Forgive hurts themselves more than anyone else, one who Forgets, allows themselves to be hurt again & again!
Stay strong & Good Luck : )
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lol

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maybe someone should laugh at your pain. How infantile of you.
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omg you are a young'in now I can LOL
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ol' man time will eventually let you get over your woahs. wasn't no friend after all. nature of the beast on people taking advantage of people.

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thanks. At least you weren't rude like the other person.
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your welcome
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Time does not heal wounds, it makes them hurt less as it goes on.... No, Men ( at least not me ), should not prefer to hurt Women.... Emotionally or Physically. Perhaps the individual that You are speaking of is a bad example of a friend, and, You obviously deserve to be treated much better ...

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AchyBreakyMe
thank you :)
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You are very Welcome...
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Sadly there gave always been people (not just men) who take advantage of the kindness of others. The thing is there have also always been people who call what they do Kindness when it is often just really am excuse for not paying attention, or taking responsibility for their own actions. I'm not saying that what you did. Clearly there isn't enough info to make that determination. It's just important in your life to ask yourself if you are truly being kind or if you are bring fool hardy.

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yeah I understand :) Just so many whys and questions, Just seeking some kind of solace and understanding. I followed my heart instead of my head and gave it a chance and got stung after 8 years.
Its tough.
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Sure it's rough. It's a life lesson. Just make sure the lesson is closing your heart.
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A person can only be taken advantage of if they allow themselves to be. Forgiveness is forgiveness and only you can decide, according to your circumstances, if what happened is worth forgiving or forgetting and moving on. Good luck...

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thats not so.
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Okay, if you say so... You can 'disagree' with my opinion, that's your right... However, it doesn't mean I am wrong or incorrect...
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