The best way I know to explain it is through a horse's point of view. Terminology I use here relates back to "breaking a horse." When someone is outlandish, freely out of control, wild, foot loose, fancy free, or, high spirited, unruly, obnoxious, .... another pull the reigns in, or administers control over them. They set boundaries on behavior and breaks them from feeling like they can get away with anything. Ex: Throwing a saddle on a horses back, tightening up a cinch or girth, putting a piece of hard metal in its' mouth.. Or a hack-a-more on its' nose to control it's head. Throw themselves on top of the horse and make the horse carry them around. Make it jump fences. Whip it to run faster. Dig spurs in it's side so they shy away. This is all Very Overly Exaggerated to explain the idea. Horses do love us as we love them. Most of them, I'm sure, do not feel this way. I hope, however, after reading it, you will feel what it is like to have a "spirit" broken. I didn't mean to make you feel sad, if I did . I love horses and I know many out there love them too. To me, that's breaking a spirit.