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He broke up with me, but keeps sending love notes says he thinks of me. I already ask for no contact . Why does he do this if he broke up?

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Tell him to go listen to Carol King. "it's too late Baby" why do people think they can end it & then change their mind. I have a rule "no take backs" life's too short to give them a second chance to screw up again. Start anew & start over when your ready & leave the loser in the past. Sometimes they do you a favor by dumping you.

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Take backs!!!That's a good one :)
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Bfy
Totally agree! I Also never take bk. I've never met such a loser ..
Thanks for your kind words' ?
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kazarina
He saved you feeling bad & dumping him. Brings us to another good 70's song. "I will survive."
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Bfy
lol...u r awesome!!
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Maybe he still loves you and he wants you back. He realized, after you broke up, that he still needs you and how much you meant to him. Try to give him another chance and see if he is for real.

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I don't think so...he is a major player...
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kazarina
Smart move bfy
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He wants you as soon as he can't have you. Chances are, once he has you again, he'll break up with you or treat you poorly.

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oh man, you sound like an expert at this ^_^
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Ooooh I am.
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speak from experience?
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Yep, this weekend actually :D
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Oops, that's my throwaway account lol
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lol this weekend? im kinda lost :3
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My experience actually happened this weekend with an ex :)
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oooooh, I didnt know if you were Being forreal lol and dang, well the way I see it is, if it didnt work the first time, what would make you think itll work a second time yah know?
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Exactly. I don't always take my own advice though haha
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hah yea taking ones own advice is always the hardest ^_^
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he's just doing that to see if he can get you back, the way I see it is, if it didnt work the first time, what makes you think itll work the second time

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He wants power over you. If you let him come back he'll know he has your power. He sees you as an object that he can use and manipulate.

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Great answer!
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Bfy
I honestly think so too. But, I think is such a low blow that he is still thinking how much advantage he can get out of this...he is unbelievable and for sure the worst person I met. I'm sorry And ashamed i got to share his life even for a few weeks... Gross..
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Don't feel bad about yourself. Many people are in these relationships. You want to see the good in other people . Because you are a good person it doesn't occur to you that sometimes people haven't got your best interests at heart.Just chalk it up to experience and move on more aware.
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Wow... Dana... i think you nailed it. I would always think of the other person and what their best interest is and I just assumed he'd the same..well, I am getting smarter and less inocent...sadly... :)
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This has happened to me too. I think it's cause he wants to get back with you but it's your choice, I wouldn't get with him if he broke up with you for another girl. But if he realizes that you're the only love he wants I would take it. But it's your choice. :)

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don't fall for it..? what was the reason for the break up?

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That's non of your concerns, Future Guy! Especially you must be from the year 3015.
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Hi thefuture! I honestly think he is not genuine. I wrote a very polite txt saying I had a great time, he was a nice guy (he isn't ) and that I wish he gets a compatible woman soon. Then he writes bk saying he loves me and wants to make me his in the future (BS). Again, I say we had a good time and take care. He keeps sending me little cute notes. The only thing I get from it is that he wants to keep me so he can have casual sex.whats ur take?
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He was not even truthful abt the breakup. He said its bc he loves me too much , but can't devote enough time since his kid is sick. This is total BS. I'd have broken up with him due to irreconcilable differences. Honesty none of my break ups were like this. We always said what was wrong.
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Could be he wants you back, he just wants to hook-up, he wants to know if you found someone else, he wants to mess with you... All are possible, but only he knows for sure!

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His new girlfriend broke his heart...

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I think he wanted to keep both....lol
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dont at all fall for it. he just wants you to hook up with him and stay the night. he wants to layed. dont listen to a word he says since he was in the first place fine with the break up.

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I absolutely agree. BTW, would women really believe this low life? I guess so and he has gotten away with it..
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cause he still loves you?

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Thanks ...it's obvious he doesn't love me...he broke it up!
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he changed his mind
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Bfy
As a guy, if he had changed his mind wouldn't he say so? Instead he said he is jealous of seeing me with other guys, but never asked to get bk together ...I think he wants to keep me for a nice roll inthe sack...
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kazarina
Be smart, don't make his day at your expense.
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Bfy
Tks!
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