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My girlfriend is sad about having a hispanic baby. How do I convince her not to worry.

I'm Hispanic and My girlfriend is white. SHe ie sad because she doesn't want to give birth to a hispanic baby. How do i convince her that what she is feeling is stupid and wrong. She loves me deeply and we have been together for 15 months. We're not planning on having kids ... yet.
It wasn't until last night that she told me that she was worried that if we were to have kids, that they wouldn't look white or have blond hair. She has been wanting to tell for a while now. She started crying and also told me that her mom said " I don't want dark grand-children". What her mom said probably triggered her sadness. I wan't to convince her that bi-racial babies are ok and that having an hispanic child is not shameful.

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WHAT THE ??? Then why is she dating you in the first place? Bi-racial kids are the cutest, your future mother-in-law will love them no matter what. Sheesh! Tell her to get over it already!

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AH HAHAHAHAHA!
Egh-erhgm... Sorry...
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Huh! Your reaction was mild compared to what I thought Tony.. Wow! where does this come from?? yikes!
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I've calmed down too, Witty.
This is shocking. This guy needs to get a new girlfriend; one who is intelligent.
If I said what I really think of this, beyond shallow, Ask would ask me to go away.
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So True Taise.
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Witt, if I wrote what I was really thinking it would've gotten deleted! Haha
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Tony, can imagine , think the we all would have! Pshaw!
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I really want to hear what you have to say. I need a lot of ammo the next time I talk with my girl.I don't want to lose her because I do see potential future with her.She did tell me I was marriage material.
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if she feels THAT bad or worries about having a bi-racial baby, i don't think she loves you enough to have a child with you.

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You should tell her you could have baby you's. and tell her maybe she could have some that have white skin and dark hair.

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Do you want your child's grandmother hating his/her father?? It's no easy task there. You could try to change her mom's mind.. you could not care.. you could cross that bridge when you get to it. Make your decision one that you can live with.

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A baby is a baby my goodness this is a child you two made! you'll love that child no matter what!

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Your girlfriend really shouldn't care that much, and if she does, she isn't ready to have kids with you. Adopt!

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End the relationship. No hope of a positive future.

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Last time I read, this relationship only involves you and your girlfriend...

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The fact that she sides with her mom, and doesn't oppose or confront her in this suggests this is an engrained view she has and one she is likely to have for a very long time, maybe always.
It is a petty concern, but it is an uphill battle for you.
It may sound harsh, but this is a relationship you should walk away from. She doesn't and likely never will view you as an equal. Her reaction suggests she views you as different, exotic, and someway inferior deep inside.
Of course convincing the heart of what is obvious to the mind is a difficult thing. If you insist on pursuing this, I have experience to offer.
I too am Hispanic. My first serious girlfriend had parent just like this. Ultimately her tolerance towards her parents' opinions convinced me there was no long term for us.
Today, I am married to a white woman. Two of my sisters have white husbands. All of them have rather tan children with dark hair, but my son has blond hair. When he's in the sun, his hair turns gold and he gets a tan most white folk would pay good money for. Not dark, just golden tan. None of this matters. He's beautiful regardless. Can you imagine having a child with this woman and thinking deep inside that maybe she views your child with a bit of disappointment or even disgust?

I do know starting a relationship while creating a rift between your girl and her family will create a tension in your relationship that may never go away. its not a choice you should have her make because she may never give you 100%. Looking back, I know how foolish I was to hold on to the first relationship as long as I did.

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This is absolutely the best answer. Thank you.
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Thank you for sharing. I feel like I need to address this issue and give her an ultimatum. Her mom doesn't hate me and is always nice to me whenever I visit. But i guess her mother never expected to have bi-racial grand-kids in the future.
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I would never date interracially but I'm not saying its a bad thing we all have our tastes but it doesn't matter what her mother thinks we're all humans here. I'm pretty sure if she has a Hispanic baby she won't regret it like I said were all humans it doesn't matter what her mother thinks if she doesn't live with her anymore then her mother can't tell her what to do anymore. Good luck on the future kids possibly.

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First of all, she shouldn't even be having a child. This is pathetic. If she's dating a Hispanic person.. she should know what to expect. Also, what does it matter? She doesn't even seem mature enough to have a relationship, let alone breed.

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First of all... You've been dating for 15 months... You shouldn't be having kids!!! And my god sister is bi-racial... She is white, black, and Hispanic, and she is the most beautiful baby I've ever seen! I think bi-racial babies are the most beautiful kids ever! Tell her to consider herself lucky!!! I WOULD!!! :)

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It appears as if you are dating a racist gal from a racist family. You deserve way better...way way better.

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Agreed
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australis
I also agree...I can't believe some people.
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Wow... Just wow!! Good enough to sleep with but not have kids with.... This poor guy should run far and fast!!!!
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MrMoJoRisin
Hi Sandra!
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australis
Hi Cowboy.
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She won't like the way her own children will look? That's horrible. Leave.

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Ok this is ridiculous for her mother to feel this way and for her to give her mother any credibility. This makes me sad.
Two of the cutest sweetest little girls I know are half Mexican and a quarter Jewish and the rest German. They don't know the difference. They have two wonderful parents. They're growing up Bi-lingual and they are growing up in a loving home. Sometimes I wish all the races would just blend in together but sometimes it's the differences that make us interesting to each other. If we were all blue eyed and blond haired (wait a minute, wasn't there some one in the past century that had that idea? How did that work out?) we'd find another reason to hate each other. Your girlfriend needs to get over this or you need to get a different girlfriend.
Kids have no idea about ethnic or racial prejudice until they learn it from others. I shudder to think of those two sweet little girls I know being treated poorly by anyone.

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Awesome answer.
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Thank you. It really does make me sad to think of innocent children being victims of adults stupid prejudice.
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Thank you for sharing. I nervous to talk to her about it But i really need to put my foot down and tell her that its racist.I don't think she is mature enough. I'm 26 and she is 21. Her mom is always friendly and nice to me. I just think Her mother never expected to have bi-racial grand-kids in the future.
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Yes that is too bad. It's an old fashioned idea and I wish it was in the past but it's not. Her mother might be a nice lady but if you marry her daughter she will need to get used to the idea that she will have grandchildren of mixed ethnicity. If your girlfriend can't accept this you may have to end the relationship.
My grandmother was a wonderful lady but when my cousin married an American woman of Italian and Japanese descent she had a hard time with the fact that she would have Japanese looking great grandchildren.
She got used to the idea though and she loved her great grandchildren.
It's an out dated idea but many people still have it. I wish they didn't.
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Her subconscious racism is kicking in

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hi josh good answer how are you..?
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Hey hey. Tired
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Wow... Both her and her mother are sounding pretty darn racist. If she can't accept your nationality, then maybe you shouldn't be together...

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Dude , drop your girlfriend .

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First of all, the baby will only be HALF Hispanic, considering the mother is white. Second, if she's feeling that way, why is she with you? Or just adopt a baby.
It would also help if she wasn't racist.
Btw, although her and her mother feel this way, they'll love the child. I'm pretty sure they'll forget (and not even care) about the baby being half Hispanic once the baby is born. Only an extremely terrible person would feel racist towards their own child or any family member for that matter.

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Dude, wake up and smell the racist. Leave her.

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