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How do you tell your mom you are moving out and getting married when you just turned 18 a month ago?

I'm getting married and moving to another state but have no idea how to tell my mom, HELP?!

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Your 18 moving out and getting married, but don#039;t know how to tell your mommy? What is wrong with this picture?
If you are not adult enough to have a conversation with your parent, you most certainly are not old enough to get married!!!
Re think this idea, please! You will be so glad you did.

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Wonderful answer )
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right on
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it may be love. love never fails. if its really true trusting and honest. 18 is grown. her life her decision. lets not be so 1 dimensional cynical. love works.
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Well said!
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Love at 18 can be real, I will admit, but how mature can she be if mom is unaware of anything that's happening and she's going to be married and moving??? If it was the real deal, everything would be on the table, not hidden like a problem.
I still vote no, sorry. The stats don't lie.
Youngsters marrying in this day and age got almost no chance of success.
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Beachbaby for President !! )
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Hi J! ;)
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Hi B! ;)
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I'm a secretive person. She doesn't even know my final grades from high school
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Just tell her, and since most teen marriages never work out, and that is because a teen is not emotionally developed enough to realize the responsibilities of marriage, you should also think about how you are going to ask her how you can move back home with a little baby in tow, and a possible ex husband that will not take responsibility.

Please don't do this, if you have to, move in together, and stay on birth control, but don't get married, you're to young, please wait...

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right on. you don't.
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So true watchman... )
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Way to go, John!
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Thanks Candy ! )
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Alrighty then....
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Mousie, we are not trying to be harsh, we just don't want you to something that you will regret, please understand the spirit of the comments and concerns...
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your 18, tell her you want to grow in life . and live life to the fullest, tell her she will see you more then enough.

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Your going to break your mom's heart over a marriage thats not going to work? Good Job.......I can't believe kids these days.

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You don't mess around do you Mystic, good for you :~)
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Really? My great aunt got married when she was 17 n is still with him. She is now 49 so I have hope in any kind of young love
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Yes. Generations ago marriage works out. But not these days.
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You have a point Country, 1 out of 10,000 isn't bad...
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Lol, John. I think its more than that more like 1 in 15,669 work out. Lol
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Wow Mystic, you sure know your statistics ;~)
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Alrighty then, you realize I don't care for the negative comments. Country, thank you.
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Its not negative if its the truth.
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The fact that you have to ask how to tell your mon this just proves the point that you are not mature enough. Enjoy being 18.

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Exactly
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I have to ask because I'm one who avoids confretation.
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You are now legally an adult, making adult decisions like marriage. You speak to your mother as one adult to another. I'd have to say that you're crazy for getting married so soon, but that's up to you. I WOULD, however, suggest you invest in some reliable method of birth control (implants, shots, not just a condom) so you won't end up as just another single teenaged mother. We all like to think we're different, but teen marriages are more likely to end in divorce. Don't pile one bad decision on top of another by dragging a helpless infant into this. Why are you moving away from your support system of family & friends? If that's HIS idea, might he be trying to isolate you & keep you away from friends/family for reasons of his own? How long have you known Prince Charming?

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Unless one of you is wealthy. It may be one of the worst decisions of some peoples lives. I recommend going to college and becoming someone successful. Deep inside yourself we can always find what is the right thing to do. Is it eternal love, or lust? Absolute Loyalty is what we should expect from our companions. Be smart young woman. Its just so hard and tuff unless the money is their.

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Now that's an idea )
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i guess
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I'm not going to college, I decided that last year.
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If you can't face your Mom you're not ready to face being on your own or marriage. You better think this over more.

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right on.. maybe
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Wow, real helpful. NOT
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You've made up your mind what you're going to do. Tell your Mom when you feel it's right. She just might help you pack. Good luck.
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Don't say a word to your mom. Never burn your bridges, you'll be heading back home soon anyway.

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that's cynical. love never fails. they may have love. 18 is grown. her life her choices.
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How she going to keep moving out, marriage and possible baby from Mom? They need to talk to both parents. Anyway Moms don't burn bridges
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What the eff when did I say I was preg-o?! I'm not!
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I know you are not getting the answers you want but you should listen to them. You are not ready to get married at 18. Marriage is a big responsibility. You are 18 you really need to consider college. What kind of job does the guy you're marrying have. I'm sure you have already made your mind up but you need to stop and think.

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18 is grown. her life. her choices. she will find what is the right thing to do. that was cynical telling someone they are screwing up. love never fails. she may have love.
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You don't know what you are talking about. Eighteen may be the age that is considered to be grown, but why do most teenage marriages tend not to last. Get a life and stop posting on my comments.
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I'm 18 and you know I'm in college and she's probably in high school still she would have to worry about mortgages and other stuff like that. Teen marriage is wrong because it will never go your way and it will just get over what you want it to be. She should just worry about her education first then when she graduates she starts a job and gets married and moves out.
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I'm out of school -_- I have a good job, and I have a good man.
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Start by saying "Mom, I'm going to do something terribly ill advised."

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Hahahaha )
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Good one Cookie
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Wtf!
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You need to do what you feel is right... If you feel that you are ready to move out and get married that is what you should do... the most important thing to do and to remember that your parents will love you no matter what... or at least they should... You just need to sit down and have a talk with your mom... Moving out and getting married are two very big decisions and they could go one of two ways... It is either going to go great and everything is going to work out or it is going to go bad and everything will get messed up... But that is the good thing about life everyone makes mistakes and everyone has to learn from them... If you feel that you are ready to move out and truly in love and wanna take that step in your life you should. You shouldn't hold back because anything can happen... It could totally work out and be the best decision you make in your life... Or it could be the worst and you will have to learn... So do what you believe and do what you feel is right for you because no one can tell you what is right or wrong for you they can try to tell you what to do but you have a voice... Use it

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I'm 18 too but marriage already?! Are you crazy best time to get married is when your 25 and up. I'm still in college and your planning to get married? But your probably still in high school and why would you want to move out? I would just obey and not get into mortgage and stuff like that.

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Just because some marriages don't work out doesn't mean all are doomed to fail. I got married at 18 and my marriage is still going strong. My parents also married young at 18 and 19 years old and they will be celebrating their 28th wedding anniversary in December. My parents have one of the strongest marriages I've ever seen but I think the problem these days is that people take their vows so lightly and don't want to put in the effort or work it takes to make a relationship work and keep it strong. If you do get married you should think about it carefully and go into it knowing that it is hard work and it's not always going to be easy or fun but if your willing to put forth the effort it can work and you can have a successful marriage.

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Very well said...
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My eldest daughter moved out and got married at sixteen and we supported her decision all the way. We discussed everything with her and she decided to use birth control and she continued to go to college. She graduated college with a masters degree and started a business of her own. Her business is still successful and she is still married to the same guy after ten years.

With mom and family support and a good man, a girl can do just fine. But all these things need to be in place to help make it all work. Also a girl needs to be sure to have a life plan and not just wrap her whole life around the guy she is going to marry, in case it does not work out.

Talk to your mom and tell her what you want to do and that you need her support and advice.
I wish you the best of luck! : D

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