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I know dating is about personality, but will guys even try to get to know you when you don't have good looks?

It seems like I can't find a guy that will look past my weight and actually get to know me for me.

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Guys are complicated. They won't take interest in you unless you have something they want. Keep searching & you'll find someone who accepts you for YOU. This was me being completely honest, because in reality, apparently, looks DO matter. It's just some people don't take the time to know what they could discover.

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Good answer c:
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Star!... Great answer Jordan :)
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Thanks, wonderful Dolce. You keep a good spirit, something I can't seem to keep as well. Hmm, maybe I should be more like you. :)
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Me a good spirit thanks I kinda feel like jack does in the pic lol...
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Jordan, we all know that you're one that does. :)
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Craigsmom is right... Are you okay?... Hi craigsmom :)
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I don't think Jordan's okay. : [
Hi, Dolce. :)
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Me neither... He seems down suddenly
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We emailed. He doesn't seem needed here any more. : [
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doesn't feel, I mean
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Hi guys. Glad I could catch you both. I'm fine. I just need to learn to make my answers short, simple, but makes sense. Because I tend to carry on unnecessary details in some of the questions I answer. I just don't know anymore about Ask. Things have certainly changed for me...
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Oh what! That's nonsense Jordan
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Well I've kind of noticed too things have changed as for your answers Jordan I think they are great..:)
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Jordan, please stay. I told you how popular you are. The fact that your answers are always on top proves that. You give GREAT answers, and you know it. You know I and many, enjoy your being here!
I'm sorry you felt that you didn't matter to me any more, Jordan...that I gave up on you. I would never give up on you, and I am ashamed of my procrastination. So sorry. : |
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Thanks Dolce. Unfortunately I don't feel the same way about my answers. I mean they're okay I suppose, but all I do is want to help people. :( Sometimes I feel like people only give me helpful stars because we talk or if I'm their friend. I don't feel like I've actually "helped" the person in need... :(
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That's not true you're so popular on here...
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Jordan, you told me you don't with many on here at all, so what you just said cannot be the case. The case would be that you give great answers,and it shows in your many votes. You rock! face it.
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Thanks Dolce again, but I mean I just don't believe myself. I can't give good answers like Sandra or CM or Phlorence or even you! There are so many others also. I just feel like I give pathetic answers. I don't know, maybe I'm so pathetic that I'm insecure about the own answers I give :(
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Thanks CM. But I don't feel the same way. I'm sorry, I don't mean to be such a cry baby about this whole thing but I truly don't believe my answers are as good as people tell me :(
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Okay, I'm going to go. I feel I've really let you down,and I'm sorry, Jordan.
Ty for the compliment....so not the case! The proof is in the pudding, about your answers, my friend. Please try not to be insecure. G'night, you two. Cheer up, Jordan, please.
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Goodnight everybody :)and Jordan you have to realize how special you are to us cheer up okay..
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CM, I've let myself down. You haven't let me down at all, really. Thanks though to the both of you who actually do make me feel better about my answers actually. Goodnight CM. Sorry for the trouble! Thanks again! :)
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Night Dolce.
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I took so long to email you back. You said you thought I gave up on you. I know my reason wasn't a good one, and again, I apologize. I'd never give up on you. I did let you down and we both know it. Please stay, Jordan. People want you here.
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Are you a teenager? If so, then your going to have to lose some weight if you want guys to notice you. Honestly, it's not until later in life when guys or girls stop paying attention to only looks and start caring about a person's personality.

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Not true. And that kinda sounded douchey. Just saying. Most guys dont look for personality during teen years. You and i both know what they want.
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I am a teenager. I weigh 180 pounds. I did go on a diet last summer and lost 35 pounds, but I gained it all back because, well diets don't last forever.
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mattc007 has the best answer here. Listen to him.
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Thank You Victor, and my answer is the truth, I know from experience.
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You just haven't found the right one yet. Are you being too picky on them as well? Would you give a guy with a weight issue a chance?

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If I liked him, of course I would.
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Get to know guys as friends, hang out with the ones who like to do the same things you do then you'll find one who really likes you for you. Sometimes it takes guys a while to realize the best person for them isn't the size 2 conceited model, but the girl next door with a heart of gold. Dont give up!
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He will come along. Some guys out their just go for the perfect face and body. It ain't right i know. BUT there will be guys out their for you. You just got to be patient and ready. Don't worry. :)

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in all honesty, most guys wont. but the second they see the person you are inside, they'll try to get to know you. some guys will assume you're not their type, so it may take a while for them to see you for you. but there are also those guys that will walk up to you in a crowded mall and talk to you.

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sure there are guys out there like that. There are not many but they are there. Just be patient and you will find the right guy who will make your heart skip a few beats...

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first off guys are total a$$holes but others really dont care be positive about ur looks and ur personality. im not promising u some guy will immediately ask u out like i said guys are d!%@s

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It will happen. Just give it time and dont be pushy about getting into a relationship. It will come naturally. Just be you and roll with it c:

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Well first u need to catch a guys eye so if ur pretty u will catch there eye. But on the other hand u could b the most ugliest person in the world but have the best personality or u could b the prettiest person but b the horriblest!!!

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I think realistically guys are shallow when it comes to physical appearances at first BUT I think that shouldnt discourage anyone, a beautiful personality goes a long way and itll last longer then looks

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I'm shallow and I'm a guy. Its not because I'm mean, its just that there are some girls that look more well equipped to have happy time with. If you don't look the part how can you expect sympathy love when other great girls who look like love dolls will offer their bodies? I look at it like this, if you care enough about getting some, you'll do what ever it takes to look the part. If that means eating HALF of what you eat regularly to get in shape then you can do it. Don't expect rewards for no hard work. As a man, I have to perform to my highest esteem to get love and I am in shape, often called attractive as well. I pass a lot of girls up because when you look for a mate, they have to be attractive or whats the point? You wouldn't go into public and pick an overweight asthmatic if you are approached by a super model at the same time. Why would ou expect anyone else too? Again, I'm not trying to be mean, but if you don't care enough, why should we?

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That's the thing though. I only eat between 1,500 to 2,000 calories a day, and I take care of my body. The fat just doesn't come off.
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eat HALF a day and then you wont be able to tell me that. Its a simple subtraction game with a very clear answer to a very simple equation.
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That's completely unhealthy. You're supposed to eat between 1,500-2,000 calories a day in order to be healthy. I want to be skinny just as much as anyone else, but I'm not going to be unhealthy in order to do so.
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If you don't care enough, why should we? ACTIONS speak louder than excuses.
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How is that not caring? I care about my health, and I do not plan on starving myself like Victoria Secret's models do just so I can get laid.
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Then expect current treatment. Those figures are arbitrary and everyone's body is different- clearly you are not unhealthfully skinny.
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I would ask no more of others I would not ask of my self.Some tips to accelerate weight loss are expose your self less to high fructose corn syrup and MSG which can be found in most Fast food restaurants. Caloric restriction is the only sure fire way to lose weight and every dietitian will tell you its effective when applied correctly. Food or love, your choice.
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Dieting isn't nearly as important as exercise.
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matt- thats for health- we're talking weight loss. It doesn't matter to men how healthy a fat girl is, just that she looks like Kim Kardashian mixed with Megan Fox- we don't care if she has a terminal illness and is bulimic. I'm only being honest and trying not to dilute this poor girl.
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If you looking for emotion from a guy then look for a friend then not a boyfriend.

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This is gonna probably sound pretty sterio typical but most guys are idiots who dont try to get to know you unless you either have huge breasts and a big butt. Guys always go for the easy type of girls the best thing for you to do if you want to be noticed is get out there in front of them and talk to them and make a conversation about something that they are really interested in. You'll let them know you have a brain and that you like his type make sure you tell him he's attractive to you from the start, but dont make it creepish like going up to him and saying, "hey I like your face" is fine dont use the word love what-so-ever that will make him run away. The need to know what you think about them because guys are hopeless at understanding suddle things so make sure its super obvious.

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Have you ever watched What Not to Wear? Many of the gals they have done makeovers on weren't in any way perfect. The right haircut, flattering makeup and knowing how to dress for your body type makes all the difference. So does confidence, a good attitude, friendliness and a smile.

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