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How do you approach a random female you see out that you are attracted to? I struggle to walk over and start a convo.. Any pointers?

I am tired of seeing girls I am attracted and being to nervous to go say hey. I dont know if I am scared of rejection or what but I think that's probably the best way to meet someone because then they automatically know they caught your eye. And from a girls opinion does it make things weird if I guy walks up and says hey and tries to introduce himself?

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It doesn't make you weird to come talk to us, it makes you look confident and cool. Just ask girls about themselves, because that's what everyone wants to talk about :D

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All you do is walk up to them say hey, compliment them, and walk away...

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Begin talking about the weather, or something in the news that everyone knows about, or something about where you are. If you see that there s no interest, try a different subject, or maybe you could say that she reminds you of someone, and ask if they know that person. That s only the turn of the key. The beginning o the conversation.

About being nervous, moderate your breathing, and dont worry. If you fail, there s always next time. Its okay.

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Go up to her and say hi or hey .... I wouldn't be weirded out...

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All good suggestions but here's something to keep in mind.....you're occasionally going to get shot down. Don't let it bug you. Simply get back in the saddle and try again. Practice makes perfect.

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Smile and make eye contact first. If she smiles and makes eye contact back thats a "go" Go over and say hello, tell her your name. Ask hers. make a random observation or compliment her. "I saw you and I just had to say hello." dont be afraid to take charge. "If you aren't seeing anyone, is it ok if we exchange numbers?" always ask never say "hey shawty let me get those ten things that make the phone ring." that's a good way to get the cold shoulder. (or cursed) In the end if she is a snob oh well, just walk away. who needs that anyways?

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approach her like a man and be yourself

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Ok, hambone....
I presume you're about 23--24 y.o. You got it going on.
The advice from the ladies above is excellent; however they're not telling you how to close the sale.
You got 3 minutes from saying "hi". 2-1/2 of that is simple conversation.
My old approach: "I've really got to run, but I want to get to know you better. I'm having dinner tonight at the Phukin Dragons Chinese restaurant on Main Street -- it's my favorite place -- and I'd like you to join me. Can I pick you up at 6, or would 6:30 be better?" She WILL agree to a time & give you her contact information. Then you get out of there!!
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You gotta think like a pro salesman.
Don't ask questions you don't want the answer to or don't care about ("are you seeing someone?" WTF!!). Getting the first date set on the spot is your ONLY priority at this time. As long as you're confident & bold (not too cocky!) you'll be successful.

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Just what till you grow up! But it might be to late!

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Just depends on the settings different setting call for different approaches

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