You can only tell over time, and by their actions and reactions. Unlike the commitment level of a husband/wife, there are lots of levels of friendship. . Some are just good time, hanging out buddies. Don't expect more than that from them, that's enough for what it is. But, if trouble comes, some may surprise you and be willing to go the extra distance. You never know, but don't expect it and don't be hurt if they don't. . Even your closest friend(s) may have their limits, and you may not know until you hit it. Doesn't mean they aren't still your friends, it just means there's only so far they can go for you at that particular time. . There are lots of "hidden conditions" that people have when they say "friend". Everybody has a different set, but people rarely say them out loud. -- It doesn't matter. Take your friends as you find them, and feel your way as you go. You'll eventually get an idea of what a friend's "hidden conditions" are. If it's not working for you, you can either talk it over with them, or just move on. . (And, yes, some folks can be selfish, jealous, manipulative, mean, disloyal, or just plain toxic as "friends". So, look out for your own self, in those cases (maybe run), without any guilt about you being called a "bad friend". It's a 2-way street.)
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Slap then in the face with your hand covered in lotion, if they act like a baby or a turd muffin for more then 15min. , there not your true friend. If there a friend they will laugh a lot or be upset for a couple minutes then laugh.
They are constantly positive towards you, meaning they do not put you down. They do not talk behind your back gossiping. They believe in you and your success. If you are doubting them maybe talk to them to save your relationship if it means a lot to you! As always Good luck and God bless
Friends are a fickle thing. They will hang out with you, help you, (and you'll help them), be there when you need them, because you were there for them. Sometimes they won't, or can't. Just because. It's a bonding between two people. I've had friends that I no longer see, but still keep in contact with, and I have friends that I hope to see, or talk to in the future, but haven't seen in years. An old joke goes "A friend will help you bury the body, a true friend will bring an extra shovel." Friends come and go. Some you still see often, and some you see sometimes. If you really want to know if they are a friend, see how they react when you tell them "No I can't help you."