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I'm 15 and I'm bi. I told this guy from my gym class that I like him. He is taking forever to respond to my messages now. What can I do ?

I'm a guy, and I really like him but he is straight. Before he found out who I was he said "maybe we could hangout sometime but it would be awkward". I was texting him as an anonymous person... and when I told him who I was and that I liked him, he said he heard rumors and that he wasn't surprised. The last thing he said to me was "is this ur iPod?" and he said that 26 hours ago. I responded to that saying "yeah. why?" and still no response. I just wanna be friends with him. What can I do ?

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Being as a straight man with a gay friend I'll tell how i understand this situation. Imagine if you were a straight male and a homosexual asked if you wanted to date. (Not to be rude or demeaning in any way). You would probably be confused, if not scared due to this situation. I went through the same thing with my friend, it took me time to look face to face with him, because before i didn't fully accept his orientation. Now, that being said, time will always tell, I won't say that he will turn for you, but he might come around and you both will continue off as friends. (But please understand there is a chance it could go the other way also, (Him never conversing with you again), now don't be discouraged just be accepting and, again, only time will tell).

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Life is sick. Rejecting people because of their gender. I do not belong alive.
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Wow, this is something I was trying to avoid. Please don't see it that way. I have been in a similar form of shoes and I have a great friend at my side now. It's the fear of being different that houses this problem, its not your fault and its not his either. There is no need for drastic measures, time is the only thing that lets wounds heal. Just wait it out, okay?
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You are not a good person. Do not reject people because of their gender.
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Hey, where did that come from. I'm sorry for being human, I make and will continue to make mistakes, but I'm trying. You are being very irrational now.
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No I'm not. Everyone should be able to like everyone. We are all people. I am a good person. It is not right for Ryan to judge me by my gender. I do not belong alive.
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I'm sorry, I guess I cant help you. Please take my advice with a grain of salt, and fallow the other peoples comments then. Don't be thinking this world isn't meant for you, its meant for anyone. (I will not respond to another comment).
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Grain of salt ?
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Just wait and give him time to settle... He may respond tomorrow even...

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What if he ignores me forever ?
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What can I say to start up another conversation ?
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don't say anything might just make it worse, just wait and see
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@daface2: agreed...
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What could possibly go wrong ? How long should I wait for ? Also... One more thing. The guy I like is named Ryan, and this other kid named Justin that we know text messaged my real phone asking me "Have you been texting Ryan" and I didn't respond to that yet. Should I say something to that ? Is that why Ryan might be ignoring me ?
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A lot of things could go wrong. If you keep texting him you'll seem obsessive and then he's REALLY not want to talk to you. Just wait a while and see if he responds. And for the Justin guy, just say, "Yes, why?" because that's the truth and you don't want to be all like, "Oh no, of course not," because he might be talking to Ryan and then you'll be framed as a liar. But idk if that's why Ryan is ignoring you, it might be. But really, you shouldn't obsess over this. :)
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It could be, just text Justin and let him know...
*Good luck...
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If I say "yes" to Justin, then him and Ryan will know I'm bi and they might always feel awkward around me and never talk to me again. If I say "no" to Justin, they might believe me and still talk to me. Or they still might accuse me or feel awkward around me because they would just think that I might have lied... Idk what to do.
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You take a chance...
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You need to be honest. You can't hide who you are forever. You need to be out there. If they can't accept who you are then they're not worth being friends with. :) You need to tell the truth and say that, "Yes, i was talking to him." I really don't think they'll be as low as to never talk to you again. And if they don't want to talk to you anymore then that just means they're a**holes and that they weren't good enough to be your friend. :)
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But I want to be friends with them. I want what will make them happy... Not want will make me happy. I want the right answer as to what will keep me safe and ensure a possible friendship with a Ryan. How can I do that ?
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You really can't. I'm the same age as you btw so I'm at your level. I understand you want to be friends with them and make them happy, and put them ahead of yourself, I've been there and it didn't have a happy ending either. The person who I thought was my "best friend" wound up being a jerk and talking about me behind my back and making fun of me. And ik this isn't the same situation but that's what you get for being nice. You need to be honest with your friends. That's apart of any relationship is honesty. A relationship can only go so far if it's based on a lie. You already came out to Ryan about being bi, odds are is that he told Justin and Justin just wants to know for sure. Even though you tell them that you're bi doesn't mean that they're not gonna want to be your friend anymore. You never know, they might be okay with it. One of my good friends came out of the closet and everyone was happy for her (Even guys). You need to be honest with them. Take it from me. And you know what? Even if you tell them and they don't want to be your friend anymore just because of that means that they're a**holes and that it's a message for you to make some new friends that will accept you for who you are. You'd be surprised how accepting people can be. :)
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I would just wait a little while. He might be busy so I wouldn't dwell on it too much. :)

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So you think Ryan (that's the guy I like) is just busy ? What if he is ignoring me because I'm ignoring someone else ? His friend Justin text messaged my REAL phone saying "Have you been texting Ryan" and I never responded. Could it be because of that ? What should I say back to Justin ? I haven't responded in almost 2 days.
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He might be a little freaked that his friend asked him out when he's straight. I commented on someone else's answer saying to text Justin, "yes you are texting him." And honestly, he might actually be busy, he might've gotten in trouble and got his phone/ipod taken away. You haven't talked to him in almost 2 days, a lot can happen in that amount of time. Justin might be trying to help Ryan get to the bottom of this b/c he might be confused about this whole situation (Idk I'm a girl. I didn't know this kind of drama happened with guys..) too). Like I said, don't dwell over it. Just text Justin back and see where it goes from there. Don't text back Ryan unless he texts you b/c that will make you seem obsessive. Hope this helps and good luck :)
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He told me that he wouldn't tell anyone that I was bi. He told Justin that I was talking to him. Why is that. What if he told Justin that I'm bi. I'm afraid to message Justin back because be can be a little awkward. He doesn't know what the saying "what's up" means. He barely talked to me after one night when I slept over his house with Ryan before they knew I was bi. It's been 3 weeks since that night.
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Because he needed someone to vent to about it I guess. You need to be honest with Justin, I'm serious (Honesty is the best policy). And avoiding the situation is only going to make it worse. Believe me. And for them acting weird, they might've already been suspicious about it, idk how but maybe they thought something was up, idk. But really, you need to just be out there about it. And no, not everyone is going to be accepting of it. But they might be. :)
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Not a thing. Move on. Get other things on your mind. Like people that get back to you.

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I don't know what you're talking about... I love Ryan.
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Perhaps turn your attention to someone that might show you that you are worth getting back to. We can't force others, no matter how deep the nature of our feelings. Go ahead & be tragic & dramatic. Attractive.
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Don't get your hopes high...

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I have to do something about this. Life is not fair, it's more than just not fair. It's not right. Judging people by their gender. It's sick.
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I'm not trying to judge or anything or trying to put you down.
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Helipo

He's straight. He's not interested.

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You are very pessimistic. You commented on my other question giving low hopes. You are not making me feel any better so please stop. Ryan is a good person and I think he is willing to be friends because he was sort of talking about it before he found out who I was.
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Since you're "Bi" he would probably think think that you mess around with guys a lot. He would probably want a girl. he might not be bi or gay.

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Girls actually cause more drama in life.
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That's what they all say. "Ok so let's take it easy and no drama" then you see them fighting over who eats icecream first
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wait for him to respond

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Just wait ? What if he never responds ? I need to start another conversation soon :(
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well, if he don't respond. move on to find someone else who might be a bend over billy. reckin he ain't interested.
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Leave him alone!!! If you know he is not gay, why are you harassing him?

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Focus on your school ,when you finish college , you will find your dream person .

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I want to have love as a KID.
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I want to have love as a KID.
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uh, leave him alone.

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Um ? No because me and him were kinda friends ? And I like him ?
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As a straight male that sorta went through your buddies situation,if he wants to try a guy for a change then he can but he's probably used to girls so he may not be comfortable with the situation.But if you really like him,lock him in a closet and male out with him till dawn.

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That would be wonderful omg. Yes I really do love him :) I think that everyone should accept everyone.
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If someone loves you... No matter the skin color, gender, or religion... Just give them a chance.
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True that.
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Good for you it take courage for someone to say that! But like everyone else is saying don't get your hopes high he might just be scared. Maybe he is religious and don't think your in the right path an is ignoring you. I can't really help you because I haven't been in this type of situation before. For the people who are saying leave him alone don't say that. Would you leave your crush alone after you told them you like them? But I would take caution and wait a little before you text him again just give him a little space. Maybe just text him tomorrow and ask him if he is okay. Just let him take the information and let it sink in; let him think about it. Hope all goes well and I'm giving you the best of luck!

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