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My boyfriend constantly lies to me and turns everything into my fault we have been dating on and off for over 10 years.

He always comes back even if he's with someone. The other day he told me "I wish I could hold something so valuable to you that if you ever did this again I would destroy it. It would make you think before you acted. I know that sounds weird, but sometimes I wish I could hold collateral." That isn't normal is it?

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Have some self respect/self preserrvation and end it for good. This is abuse in the beginning stages. Don't wait around for the physical stage...

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Thank you everyone!! I always find myself apologizing when I was just being honest with him.
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Your welcome...stay strong. :)
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No! Absolutely not.

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You need to break up with him! If he does that then he is pathetic, you deserve better than someone who treats you horribly!

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Dump him! He's sounds like a jerk I would punch him for u if I could but back to the point he's not worth it get away from him he doesn't sound like a good boyfriend just break up and if he comes back crawling to you don't fall for it ok just end it for good I hope this helps you tell me how it went if u do this thank you may The Lord help you <3

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Why would you want to be his girlfriend? Surely you are not that desperate to keep hanging with someone that mistreats you and lies to you every chance he has. Have more respect for yourself. By continuing the girlfriend / boyfriend situation, you are silently telling him that his behavior is ok. When you stand up for yourself and say, "I'm not putting up with this behavior any more!", you are sending a message that he treating you this way is NOT OKAY.

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Any guy who does that immediately loses his man card, he loses all respect from anyone who finds out they're doing this, don't let it continue, you are the woman, you are the boss!

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You need to get rid of him! He sounds really strange.

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Quick! Get off this rollercoaster. This would drive anyone crazy. It takes 2. Having a relationship is a give and take from one and the other. Embracing this concept does not mean one is always right and one is always wrong. You both entered into this and are responsible for your actions. The blame game does neither of you any good. Another thing, one is not the parent and the other the child. "make you think before you acted?" This sounds like, "Go to your room and think about it." My parents said that, not my husband. How sitting down, together, without distractions. Saying "bob," I see you need to have some authority feeling. I am willing to share this with you. Let's see what we both believe needs to be worked on in our ongoing relationship." Have a pen and paper ready, and try from there. Good Luck! When there is a will, there is a way! :)

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Sweet heart WHY are you still with this jerk? Why? Respect yourself enough to find a guy who will treat you right. This guy is awful. Dont let youself be treated this way. Youve wasted ten years of your life on a guy who will never commit to you. Move on. Get counseling because you need it. Your a codependant enabler. Then move on. Cut off contact with this loser and MOVE ON.

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I know it's hard, because you think you'll be alone for the reast of your life, if you stay with this bastard, BUT DUMP HIM! Block his texts, calls, number, email wahtever. Just do it as a clean break!
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Are you going out with Disney villain??? That's completely inappropriate.

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Let me get this straight: he's with another woman and he comes back to you for...? You've got to set boundaries - built on self-respect. You're being used - but since you take him back - and he's always criticizing you - you are also did-respecting yourself as well. End this - this is not good for you. There are plenty of guys out there that will treat you right.

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u really have to end this relation its destroying yourself estim u certainly deserve someone who would appreciate u and respect u

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you've been dating this fool for about 9.75 years too long! lose him (like bones at a barbecue)...;-)

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is it not your problem to fix..
you are spending your life ... like this?

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Unfortunately many put up with such abusive behaviour because they falsely believe it's love..I think.If only they respected themselves more and saw their worth to get out of such detrimental situations.
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I Agree !
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Can't stand liars.Especially the good ones...sociopaths right?
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that was your assessment...
who has hurt you so?
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Sounds like 10 years of your life wasted...lose him and find someone who will be nice to you. There are lots of guys that would be happy to be with you, don't waste your time with that jerk.

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Sounds like a loser. Date someone who puts you on a pedestal.

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Please I married an idiot like that. Get rid if him!

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I think the bigger question here is why are you with someone who treats you like that. Have respect for your self and find someone else........ ;o)

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You know what has to be done, love won't let you do it. You think you can change him, once you realize you can't, then you will be ready to move on. Been there, done that

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Your right I do... It's just hard he never leaves me alone for very long and then says I'm the one that ues and hurts him...
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That's why you're dating on and off and not married, he's a loser, get away now while you still can.
Pick yourself up, brush yourself off and move forward never looking back.

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Just dump him mini0950. He is not even worth it your time at all.

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i don't know why do you with this guy for over 10 years, why don't you change your life. This man is not worth loving, he doesn't deserve you. Just leave him with no doubt.

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He is not worth it at all. Someone who lies to u and constantly turns everything into your fault is not worth your time. U can do so much better. U should end it with him and move on. There is someone out there better for u and who will treat u right. U deserve better.

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Mini0950, I am in the EXACT same situation! I could have wrote this question myself. I am more successful than him but he puts me down, insults me, he even tells me how to put conditioner on my hair in the shower. When I tell him I'm done with him, he shows up with flowers, money, etc.

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end this once and for all

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okay you may love this guy but you have to let go you shouldn't be treated like that your better then that any guy would be lucky to have you ... move on you don't need that kind of relationship !

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Dump him ASAP and never look back!!!!

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