7 months ago
Last edited at 7:55PM on 8/18/2013
Well this is a huge deal. So listen to me; sit them down calmly and say "I need to talk to you guys about something" and say "I cut myself" then just wait for them to speak again. Why are you telling them? Do you want to recover? I hope things go well and life gets a bit easier.
I would try stopping the cutting first. Parents might not understand. They might force all these meds (medication only screws you up even more) and therapists on you. I recommend telling a close friend and try your best to stop. If you can't, tell your parents.
Sometimes your parents aren't very understanding. Like mine were. I thought they would understand but they didn't. They flipped they're chiz. I bet it probably would have gone smoother if I had sat them down and kinda went slower with it but it's in the past now whatever.
Awe honey. If my children were going through what you're going through, I would want to know. I would talk to your mother, because she would probably understand what you're going through most of anyone. And honey, I want you to know that you can say whatever makes you feel most comfortable but here's what I would say: "Mom, I have to tell you something. And, I was wondering if we could talk in private because it's kind of important. So, I've been feeling really sad for a while. Like, really REALLY sad. And it hurts really bad. And I didn't really know how to handle the pain so I did something bad to myself." And then you should show her wherever you hurt yourself. That's just what I would want my daughter to say to me. I'm sure she will understand. And please, darling, stay strong. You are so beautiful and you deserve to be happy. Good luck! :-)
There's only one way to say it but here's the thing why are you doing this? You need a better relationship with your parents and just the fact you want to tell them about cutting tells me you want to be able to talk with them. You are in charge if how close you are to them and the closer you are the happier you will be. Let them in its the reasons behind the cutting you need their help with, the isolation, the pain is lessened with good communication with people who love you. You should not be alone cutting away your pain. You need to choose a different path and cozy up and trust in your parents care.
So I know this can be super hard, but im so proud of you for wanting to tell your family. There are some ways that make it a little easier and les direct to tell them like:
Write them a letter. This will allow you to write out everything you wanna say and also make sure that you wont forget anything with the nerves of the moment. A lot of people find this easier than like a face to face conversation
Call a psychologist/therapist. If you know you want to go to a psychologist or therapist to get help you can look one up and call them. Often times they will be open to talking to your parents about whats going on with you so that you don't have to do it at all
Have a friend with you when you tell them. Sometimes if you have a friend there with you during the conversation it can take away some of the nerves
Just be open and tell them. Sometimes the best thing to do is just go up to them and say "I need to talk to talk to you guys about something" and just tell them. Don't think too hard about it and don't put it off. You've just gotta get past the nerves and have about 1 minute of courage to tell them.
Good luck boo. Hope everything goes well and keep me posted <3