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How can I tell my son?

My husband and I never fight in front of our son, but lastnight, our son overheard us arguing and watched my husband hit me and curse at me. What do I tell my son?! And how do I tell him in a way that won't freak him out?!

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The first thing is to get out of there. Whilst you are living with a man who curses and hits his wife, you are letting your son know that this is acceptable behaviour. This kind of behaviour is extremely rarely a once off, and habitually accepting this kind of abuse is not in your best interests or in the interests of your son (or any other children you may have). If this is not the first time it has happened, or if it is the first time and it happens again, even once, lay a charge of assault and move out.

Just tell your son that what he saw was not acceptable, and that you will not allow it to happen again to either of you. You don't say how old your son is. You need to tell him in a simple way that is appropriate for his age, but don't ignore or downplay it, as this is creating an impression that that sort of behaviour is ok.

Making the mistake of lying to your son will teach him that it is ok to do something bad, and lie about it. This breaks a child's trust, and would definitely be a mistake.

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He should freak out and call the police.

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No he shouldn't
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Tell him what, he saw you.

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if he is very young he may forget soon-if not tell him it was friendly fight practising for some drama-any the present day children are very clever

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You should solve your own problem with your husband before tell your son. If your husband still hit you, the problem is still there!

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younger age lie to him and tell him what suits you older age tell him how it is.

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The fact that you have hidden your husbands abuse towards you, speaks volumes. You need to tell your son, you are not going to tolerate being hit or degraded by his father any more. If you take action to stop the abuse, then there will be nothing to hide from your son. Take care.

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thats a good question

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you and daddy had a disagreement but all is fine

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But all is not fine
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well, he don't need to know that. that way you won't freak him out. go to a marriage counselor or file for divorce and get out.
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Go eat somewhere and talk it over. Next after talking over, play somewhere.

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Depends on his age . If he is older than 9 .. Be Honest

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He's 5 years old
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You tell him you're trying to fix the problem and that Dad would never do that to him.

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Words are meaningless...
Actions speak volumes! Your son saw what happened. Kids hear and know a lot more than you think. If you stay, you are "showing him" that it is okay to hit your wife. It is never okay to choose violence. Reassure him, hug him, and apologize for him having to see such a thing. He is the child, you are the parent. Don't overwhelm him with adult issues as that's inappropriate.
Take action. Violence is a learned behavior. Is that what you want for your son? You have some major decisions to make and it won't be easy.
Stay safe :)

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The question is not what to tell your son. But, why you would stay with a man who hits you?

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This was the first time he has ever hit me
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You don't tell him you move out you don't deserve to be with him

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Leave. You shouldn't have to explain it to your son in the first place, so get the hell out of that house.

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You may find helpful the articles at these links:

http://wol.jw.org/en/wol/d/r1/lp-e/102013126?q=domestic+violence&p=par

http://wol.jw.org/en/wol/d/r1/lp-e/2007645?q=children&p=par

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