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What should you do if your pregnant & the father tells you to get an abortion ? Because he has another family.

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You make your own decision. He can't decide for you to get an abortion or not, but he can voice his opinion. He helped create that pregnancy, and he is telling you he just doesn't want the responsibility (but he'll still have to pay child support if you file for it.) Remember you always have other options - abortion, adoption, and making it work on your own. Research abortion very carefully before making a decision - it can be very stressful on your body, and should really not be used as casual birth control.

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You don't need the father, if he doesn't want to man up, then you go right ahead and take care of your baby, its not babies fault. He or she will make you very happy.

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Don't EVER listen to baby daddy's. EVER. Do what you wanna do and what makes YOU happy not HIM. It's YOUR desicion

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yep, entirely your decision. I say DON'T get one, but it's not my body, just my opinion

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I had this happen with my first child and I left the guy, had the baby and lived happily ever after. However, the father of the baby did not. He remarried twice, divorced twice and has more kids where he has to pay support.

Your guy sounds like he does not take responsibility for his actions either and you should not listen to him. Live your life for you, not a guy who thinks he can just walk away and go on with his life and too bad for the baby. It is your body, your baby and you can do what you want. What do you want to do?

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What you do is think for yourself.

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You either plan on giving it up in some way or you plan on raising it alone. Child support is all he has for you in the future, he's really not your boyfriend anymore once there's a baby he's a loser and a quitter so if he's not a total idiot.. U can keep it alone and have the court deal with him to help financially. He wants the abortion so his " other family" doesn't find out. Did you know about them or is this news to you as well?

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He was with me everyday and night the the past month & just know told me he has another family , when he found out I might be a mother .
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Omg that's awfully unmanly of him isn't it, selfish too. It's sad how many supposed men lie about other women in their life, wives girlfriends and even hide or deny their own children just to get what they want with little regard to anyone else. Those people are high on the user/ loser list.
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