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i have been with this guy for 2 years, about 7 months ago he proposed and we are getting married in June. i am almost 18 and he is about to be 19. lately we have been considering having relations, for the first time. we are both virgins, i love him and i think i`m ready to take this step, but i`m scared that in some way that we may be doing something wrong. could someone please talk me through this?

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if you are having second thoughts about this then wait until you're married. you and your fiancé are virgins for a reason. maybe you should really think about this a lot and talk about it with your fiancé. This is a big step and you don't want to make a mistake.

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australis
great answer 1/5 now of my brain:)
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Lol!! Sandra I was going to say the same thing to Terry!!
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australis
See we are starting to even think alike LOL!!!!!
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Use condoms.

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i mean morally wrong
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oh. well, if you feel as if you're ready, then go for it!
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Well just maybe have a talk with him and your parents to see if your doing the right thing

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Well, I do not see anything wrong with taking this step. All S E X is, is a physical representation of your love. There should be no cause for you to think it's bad or wrong, it is a beautiful thing that only strengthens your love for the other.

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Comments from the Old Man again:
1). You're MUCH too young to be considering marriage. Does your "man" have a stable job or established career such that he can support a family?
2). That you're thinking before dropping your panties is a good thing. Congrats. If you THINK you're not ready, you're right. You aren't ready.
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Marriage is about the sanctity of a family core. If you're not ready to be a mom yet & he's not capable of supporting you & some babies yet, HOLD OFF.
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No matter what, I wish you good luck.

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I can tell you for sure, 100% for sure, you are too young to get married. Human beings are not mature until well into their 20's, up to that point, the changes are huge, after that they are smaller, but significant. You are nowhere near the same person now as you are going to be in 5 years. You and your bf do not know how you are going to change, or if those changes are going to be such that you remain compatible. If you feel like it, remain engaged, but change the date. As far as sex goes, I think too much is made out of whether or not you have intercourse. If your beliefs are going to burden you with guilt, don't have relations until you are more comfortable with it. In any event, it ain't worth all the fuss made over it. P.S. If you decide to have sex, use protection; pregnancy removes nearly all of your options and forces you down roads you might not otherwise have taken at that time.

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You are too young to get married.

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Look if it's me I'll wait yes it's morally wrong! It all depends on your morals ! And if you can wait grate because it will make your experience that more fun so! Wait ok?

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Do it after you get married cause if you do it before marriage he may just change his mind.

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You should call it off and wait a couple years more. Marrying that young is the cause of lots of divorces

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