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My friend is really close with his mom... What is wrong with him?

My friend is 16 and still has an awkard child-like relationship with his mother. When I am hanging out with him and his mom is with us he will go "but mommmm" and it really makes things awkward. Ever since I went into middle school I have wanted a house and family of my own(note I am 15.)He still wants to live with his mother... Is there something wrong with him? (his parents are not divorced and are happily married)

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I don't think there is anything wrong with being close to your mother, but there is some degree of dependence that isn't healthy, like what your friend has. This usually happens when the person has been brought up by a single mom. This is one of those things you don't want to bring up because it will bring your friendship to an end.

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I thought it was just weird that he has had the same relationship with his mom since we were in gradeschool. But thanks for the answer!
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I think that's called "attachment parenting"

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He's apparently a mothers boy because she's family and you never know what might happen

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It is awkward but please, don't bring it up too much or he's going to hate you. His parents probably never made him independent when he was younger so he's like that now.

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Different people mature at different rates. If you feel he is not mature enough for you, make the break and find more your own emotional age. You can't nag him into changing; emotional maturity comes from inside or it doesn't come at all.

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I think he is mature when his mother isn't around. I find it odd that he only acts like a child with his mother and when he is with anyone else he seems to be normal.
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There's nothing wrong with that
Maybe he's just a mother lover

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I've seen guys in their 60's who are like this with their Moms. I don't recommend ending the friendship over this. Your friendship means a lot to him. He will move out eventually (maybe years from now) and Mommy won't be around as much.

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My mother died at the age of 40 when I was only 18... Unless he isn't growing up to be a man but a mommy's boy, there is not one thing wrong with him... He is only 16, where else should he live... I felt sad as I read about your situation... Since you are a friend of her son, why don't you become more accepting of her, talk with her, if you are staying to eat lunch or dinner, offer your help and perhaps she will treat you like another son... I would like it if my mother was still alive so she could see how I turned out... There is nothing like having a mother to talk with and get advice from whether young or an adult...

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He just has a better relationship with them than you do with yours. I had an awkward relationship too like you do and even though I married a jerk who made me miserable I chose to not go back and live with my mother until everything fell apart so bad I had no choice. But, it's a good thing to be close to parents. Obviously they were not the abusive type and your fiend is not the rebellious type either. I think he 's a good friend to have. Maybe you feel bad because of your relationship like envious maybe? Maybe you can get close to your friend's mother too like LivingLife above me says.

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