Surround yourself with things you love. Whoever has the same taste is bound to come along but then again as soon as taste changes, people might. Try to know fewer people and know them deeply. the more you know about them the more you know what they expect from you as a friend. Learn to walk away. if you find a friend is misusing you or only coming around when they need you, you should walk away. This way, people who really want to be with you will automatically be willing to change if the value your friendship. Well, i can tell you a strange way most people don't try. Try to be the kind of person who is hard to know and difficult to handle unless comfortable with people, not because people love mystery but because whoever chooses to stay will stay because they care, not because you're nice or easy to use.