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I don't even know who I am!

I'm going into high school this year and a lot of people tell me to just be myself but I don't even know who I am! For years I acted like everyone else so I can fit in and not get bullied. I need someone's help!! no hate please!

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We are all 2 people, one side we show to the general public and the other side we show to the people who know us. Try taking the best of both of those people and combine them. Ask someone you trust to tell you what your best quality is. If you are someone who likes to help others , get involved in school activities that allow you to do that. I would say to definately join in school activities, get involved!! Think about something you like to do and get involved in a school activity that would allow you to do this. Been there, done that

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Thank you so much!(:
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You always act like yourself, whether you try to or not. I think what they mean is don't be self-conscious.

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Be the person you are around your family and closest friend. I think that's probably the real you. Other than that, just smile and be friendly to everyone. Much good luck to you!

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Well I think you are at an age where being yourself is changing. Highschool is a time where people learn a lot about the world, have many new experiences, and grow a lot on every way. It isn't bad to do things so that you don't get bullied but the key is not to change something about yourself you don't want to change. We all change a lot and that is fine. So I will give you an example of how I was myself in highschool and hope it helps. I am a pretty athletic guy and like sports. I would spend a lot of time hanging out with the popular crowed at school during the start of the year because we had all gotten done with our summer training camps. I am also a bit of a nerd and enjoy computers, music etc so once school got started I started hanging out with the "nerdy group" too. Of course the popular kids were always giving me crap for hanging out with them and would pick on me for it but I didn't ditch my other friends just to be more popular. We don't know what is important to know and even if you don't know over the next few years you will learn a lot about yourself. Just think about what is important to you that will help show you who you are.

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I don't even know what to say your so helpful!! I love it! Thank you!(:
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No problem:)
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You are at the age when most people learn the most about themselves. This is the age when people grow up and change in many ways. It's when you discover who you are.
And like some people wrote above, most people have two sides. The way they are at home and with the people they love and are close to. And the other side is the way they are in public. I think the way you behave at home and with your family (loved ones) is the real you.
The things and people you love and the choices you make and the experiences you go through, shape you and make you who you are.

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