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What should I do to get some responsibility for my unborn child from my boyfriend, who willing to put our baby for adoption?

We've been together for 4 years, but never plan to have a baby. It happened that I got pregnant while he has a hard time with job and health problem, also with some other girl involve. I would keep the baby, that's so against his will to abortion or adoption. How could I get any responsibility from him? If I want him to support during my pregnancy also after the child born.

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Since he stated to put the baby up for adoption, then it is clear he does not want the responsibility of this child. You cannot force him to be responsible, but you can take him to court and make him be financially responsible, but that is about all.

You need to decide what you want to do and how you are going to care for the baby. You must get your priorities straight and put the child first. Since the father is a deadbeat dad, you must go on and make a good life for you and your child without his support. It can be done, lots of mothers have done it. The real question here, is what will you do now. The father has already stated his position, now it is your turn to decide what you are going to do.

I wish you the best of luck and god bless.
Sincerely, mamatembo53

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You're not a responsible person yourself yet you are upset that you can't get responsibility out of another irresponsible person? This is going to be a mess.

You can't make him support you during your pregnancy. Nor can you make him be supportive of you after the child is born.

Best you can do is make sure you list him on the birth certificate then go through the legal channels to get a child support order from the court.

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he has to want to take on the responsibility. but if he doesn't step up, you have to do everything to make sure the baby has everything it needs. you can't wait around on someone when it comes to another life especially a newborn

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Well just pray about it and wish u Luke hope things get better for u

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It's something that's just goo g to happen it can't be force. You also mentioned he has heath problems and problem with his job oh and another girl. If the other girl is someone he cheated on you with then you just need to let him go. (if this is the case)

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Just what we need, another unwanted child in the support system. Lady, if you love this baby, plan on raising it yourself. You can't make him love or want it. Yes, you can take him to court for the money but chances are he'll be a dead beat and not pay anyway. Get ready to work day and night to support your child.
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Put it up for adoption and it can possibly have a chance for a better life.
Your call.

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