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Ive been sober for nearly 2 months... i really want a drink?

last time i was drunk i ended up punching someone in the face, slicing my hand open with a steak knife (requiring 5 stitches) and then drove myself drunk and high to the hospital.. my psychologist told me i was an alcoholic, which i disagreed about because i choose to drink, i dont need to... thing is, right now i really would like to have a night out with a few beverages.. is it a bad idea?

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I grew up with a drink. I'm do sorry sweetie but this "i don't need to drink, I choose to" is only true in your mind. My personal favorite from growing up was "I can stop drinking anytime I want to, I just don't want to." Start going to AA meetings. They are everywhere, all the time. Go to as many a week (every week) that you can find. Decide that you are worth more then the way you are treating yourself. Also NEVER DRIVE DRUNK AGAIN!!!!! I hope you decide to stop killing yourself, but if you don't, there are others on the road who would rather not be a victim of your personal "choice!"

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Intense!
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Classic alcoholic stuff, yeah?!
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Going to meetings never helped me. I only went twice. Doesn't work for everyone.
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Nothing works if you don't allow it .. again .. a matter of choice and a state of mind. If you go to meetings looking to appease others .. then .. no they won't work .. If you go to meetings looking to appease yourself and allow yourself to discover the tools you can use to help along your journey .. then you are already half way on the road to recovery .. Again.. a state of mind is a choice.
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It didn't help talking about drinking. It was something I felt I had to deal with myself. And it's worked thus far.
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Just glad I quit by choice before something happened and was court ordered.
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I'd say don't drink. You've been sober for a Long run and you don't want to risk losing that.

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I didn't and don't want to break my streak!
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Congrats man!
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Thank you. Still working with it. Not so bad now. Wife & kids like it better.
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up to you but could you truly enjoy yourself having that memory in your mind (?)
my opinion is that you are not at your best when drunk and you may not be able to know when to stop at the threshold of t-o-o many
( please don't drive when you are drinking ) at least plan it so that there is someone there who can baby sit you ! sorry to be so blunt, but the thought of someone driving drunk angers me !!

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An alcoholic is an alcoholic 24/7, whether you've had a drink or not. Your previous exploits show you have a problem with alcohol. Do you wish to retread that path again, knowing what could happen? Drink responsibly or leave it alone, and PLEASE stay out from behind the wheel after drinking.

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Some people say "you can have one now". Not me, once I started it was nonstop. Not the "casual" drinker.
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@Gweg; The difference between an alcoholic and a social drinker is the ability to say no to another drink. It is not a willpower thing, it is brain chemistry. You have been given a glimpse into what can happen when you drink. If it happens again, you may end up in jail or the cemetery. You can choose not to take the first drink. That's what AA is there to teach you. Good Luck.
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Your psychologist knows you better than we do. If he says you're an alcoholic, it means you are. They're trained to know the symptoms. 2 months sober isn't a long time. See if you can get thru the weekend without a drink, then go another week, and so on.

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Two months is a long time. It's tough. Days go by slow.
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Two months isn't... That just cracks me up. Apparently your ignorance is a bliss.
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I have first hand knowledge my friend. 2 months isn't long.
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When your rehabbing two days are a long time. Everyday is a battle! Two months is GREAT! It makes you go for another day. To drink now would be disappointing to yourself. You'd have to start over. Two months are a long time, I'm doing it everyday myself. Friend.
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First hand knowledge is a whole lot different than experience.
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@Gweg; You must be impaired. Your comments make no sense. First-hand knowledge and experience are exactly the same thing. Forget numbers and focus on one day at a time.
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I drank 18+ beers a day. Now I haven't had any in 923 days. Take it one day at a time. It will get easier. I had to lose some friends over it, but the choice was mine and I feel pretty good about it. Hang in there.

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Congrats to you! Hang in there!
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Good answer and congratulations. :)
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Thanks. Really means a lot.
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Stay strong, Gweg(?). Congrats on the sobriety.
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@ Gweg: I commend your commitment to the healing process. You deserve a huge pat on the back and a cyber hug. Good for you. Kudos!
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18+ a day for 10+ years. Hard work. Thanx.
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I have to agree that you do have a problem with alcohol. My brother only quit drinking after he joined AA. You need to change your outlook on what you do for fun. You may be a thrill seeker. Maybe learning to fly a plane; or scuba diving; or sky diving will satisfy your urge to take chances. Or, you could use your energy to become a triathlete (swim, bike, run). There are many more healthy ways to get an adrenalin buzz! Good luck!

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Go to an AA meeting if you feel like you need a drink. AA meetings usually run 24 hours a day ( depending on where you live). At AA you can get a sponsor ( someone who has a year or more sober time) who will help you through your rough spots, at anytime of the day or night. If your therapist says you're an alcoholic, it's because you fit more rather than less of the criteria. Ask your therapist the specific reason why they think you're an alcoholic. You can also find AA meetings in your area here -http://www.aa.org/lang/en/central_offices.cfm?origpage=373

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Stick to it!

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Classic alcoholic response 'i drink because i want to, not because i have too'! 'I can control it if i want to, i just dont want to.' Classic!!! You are an alcoholic. Just from that response its obvious.
The first Step in recognizing you have a problem is recognizing you have a problem. Very few people truely want to get so drunk they hurt themselves and others, no matter what they tell themselves. Until you admit to yourself you are an alcoholic your addiction will continue to control you. Listen to your therapist. Get into AA. Or call local churches until you find one that hosts a Celebrate Recovery group which uses the Twelve Step program to deal with a variety of issues including addictions.
However much you refuse to acknowlege it you ARE an alcoholic. Do something before its too late. Before you kill youself or someone else.

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You chose to drink, and now your body thinks it needs it be a use you chose to drink more than needed. Your are an alcoholic, I'm sorry to say, but two months is a long time. You're on a roll. Don't mess it up. Try something as a substitute, like root beer or soda. Just don't drink too much of those either because they can become addictions too. But at least they don't endanger you and make you do lethal things. You could become an Askaholic, a person that's addicted to this website. It's safe and free.

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I started on Ask when I got sober. Looking for something different to pass the time.
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You say you choose to drink ... yet you also illustrate your 'need' in your post .. That is a conflicting message. Conflicting to the point where even you don't recognize it. Occasional social drinking is one thing .. needing to drink is alcoholism.

The moment it starts controlling your 'needs' is the moment it can be recognized. So .. now that you can identify it .. you need to follow the rules to help control your urges. Alcoholism is a dependency .. like any dependency there are physiological effects to the body and the brain.

If you have been sober for nearly 2 months .. that means your brain is only starting to repair itself and starting to disassociate your dependency .. if you take a drink, the work you have already accomplished will be wasted .. then you will have to start from scratch again. So .. don't drink .. don't associate yourself with the same behaviours that connects you with drinking and start up old habits again. Take this seriously.

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I have no doubt that you are intelligent person .. that should be living and applying your attributes to the world and your life .. alcoholism is destructive and debilitating.

You can choose to continue with healing and meet your true potential or you can undo all you have already accomplished... THESE are your choices.

YOU CAN DO THIS!
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Yup!
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Great answer.
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Spit_n_Fire

Your family loves you. Too many things could go wrong. They would be heartbroken without you if something were to happen. You can do this I know you can. Look at it this way...why does it have to be tonight? Why not in 2 more months? Then, when you get to those 2 more months, you will be craving it less and you'll be able to decide better whats true and not true about your needs. Your body is tricking you. This is not the truth. But your last experience with alcohol IS the truth. And remember this...you have been without it for a while. Drinking now will be VERY dangerous and could kill you . Again, remember your family loves you. You don't know me...but maybe do it for me please? And then most importantly, do it for your beautiful self. See comments please.

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I have lost 2 close family members to alcohol so I know the sttruggle. Bit they're gone now and I am left here to suffer missing them. It's a horrible way to treat your precious body. It is classified as a poison. That's why it has the effects it does. I will be thinking of you today hoping you'll gather strength. If you really wanted to go out and do this, you wouldn't have asked us for help. Let me know please tomorrow how you did. :) thank you. :)
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I'll keep checking back also.
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Star Spit! I'm so sorry for your losses.
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Gypsy......you're heart is so beautiful.
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Hi Jan it's good to see you girl ! I hope you're feeling better. :) this is Sincerity.
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Hi Rebecca Anne! Did I tell you I love name Rebecca. I had a student named Genabeck. She was named after her mother's 2 best friends,
Gena and Rebecca.
Are you okay? I notice it's been a week since you answered a question.
I got Petey Pierre a new bed. It's in the bathroom near a little heater that I keep on for him. It coordinates with the bathroom. Also he has another bed on my bed. He wants to know how the beautiful Bella is.
"Purrrrr....."
Love, Claire Coquette
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Yes Claire I am taking care of some personal business and I will be back soon , in a week :) woof! Ruff!! A coordinating bed for Petey. So cute! Bella is putting her left paw on Petey to say "hi" because she is left -pawed. She always used her left paw first. :)
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Genabeck...what a pretty name your student had and very inventive of the mother too. Claire is a French name meaning "the light", as I guess you know.
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The fact that you asked shows you already know the answer. My grandfather was an alcoholic, my father was an alcoholic, 2 husbands were, and one is now an alcoholic. It destroys love and lives. Please don't go back there.

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Thank you so much, it's now been 9 months, and I haven't had a drink :)
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