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My trust issues with my Mother.. help?

I feel as if I can't talk to my mother about ANYTHING, for fear she'll go back and tell her boyfriend of 13 years what we spoke about.. Most of the time, even if it's something unimportant, she'll just go right ahead and tell him about it. I feel like I can't trust her to have anything just between us [unless it's feminine related].. I guess there really isn't anything anyone can say I could do to improve our communication? I'm not as close to her as I should be.. If you have any kind of advice, I would be grateful :)

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Tell her how you feel, mums are usually understanding and if you're having issues telling her things, she'd probably like to know:)

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Talk to your grandmother or an aunt.
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Try telling her how you feel. Tell her you don't like the fact she doesnt respect what you say and that you don't want her boyfriend knowing everything

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Talk to her! Let her know why you don't feel you can talk to her. That should be important to your mother.

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Tell her that you don't want her telling this guy what you say. And if she does, don't talk to her about anything. Just say 1 word answers to everything. That will make her feel bad

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I think all you can do is accept it, that's what family does. Plus she's been with her bf for 13 years, that's her confidant. If there's something you don't want mom "broadcasting" then don't tell her. You can try explaining your feeling to her but she'll probably just try to be more discreet when tellin him about it.

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You do need to be clear with your mom. Tell her specifically that you don't want information shared with her boyfriend. If she can't honor that, don't share with her. A parent should be able listen and NOT blab.

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