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When should a teenager be allowed to stay home alone overnight?

My 15 year old son is an honor roll student, Boy Scout, and is extremely responsible. We are thinking about leaving him home alone overnight. He wouldn't have any issues with being afraid, and we have three large dogs and an alarm system. We live in a very safe neighborhood, and have neighbors (close family friends) who will be home, and his grandparents live less than a mile away and will be home. While he'll probably be up playing Xbox with his friends until 2 in the morning, he's not the type of kid to have a party or experiment with anything, and has never given us the slightest reason not to trust him. I've done some looking online, and there aren't any laws that cover this in Oregon. However, there are some states where a kid has to be 19 to stay home alone overnight, and this blows my mind... I had a job, was putting myself through college, and had almost saved up enough for a down payment on a house when I was 19!

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It sounds like you've raised him well! I think he'll be fine, he sounds like a good kid.

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There are no laws regarding how old a child can be to stay home alone (except in 2 states), and there definitely aren't any states where the age is 19, since at 18 you are considered legally an adult and can leave home if you really want to and no one can stop you. So as long as you feel that your child is mature and responsible enough to stay by themselves, then it should be fine.

For more information you can check the following - https://www.childwelfare.gov/pubs/factsheets/homealone.cfm

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He will be fine.

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I've been staying home alone since I was 12 with my 2 younger brothers. I would say its up to you

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I'd have your parents surprise visit to make him think about things. Don't even tell him till the day, that way he doesn't have time to make plans.

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Oh sure, he certainly should be able to stay at home alone! You're a great parent by the way.

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I personally think that he'll be fine, but I'd tell him no friends over. :)

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I think he will be fine. I am having the same issue.. my son is 17 though, and we are going away for weekend... shall I let him stay home all weekend alone... still contemplating it

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I have to say. I'd be fine with 1 night, but 2+? Maybe have someone check on him the second day or something?
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oh yes, My mother lives up the street... so she'll be watching in on him... hahah...
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I agree with having your mom keep an eye on things. She doesn't even need to stop in -that might make him feel untrusted and go behind your back in the future- but I would have her watch for other cars or lights on till all hours. (I would worry more about your son sneaking a girl to the house rather than an elaborate house party).

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I think by that age he should be fine. You say yall trust him, give a chance. Just have a neighbor keep an eye on the house. Just to be extra safe just call at a random moment to check on him.

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Seems like your a great parent. I think if your gonna be bothered by leaving him alone, then surprise him with his grandparents or neighbors checking in every now and then.

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yes leave him home!

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I've started staying home along at night since I was eight and a few years later with my baby brother while my mom worked OT as she was saving up for her citizenship too. My neighborhood wasn't the worst but I can't say it is the greatest or safest part of Queens. But with the precautions you're taking and the type of person you're describing your son to be, he'll be more than fine :)

And as for partying and such, you said that there are close neighbors so coming from my experience with house parties, I highly doubt that he would take the risk. But you're being a good parent by researching all this stuff prior to leaving.

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the only law for staying alone is, I think, to be either 12 or 13 (most likely 12). The laws for just staying alone and staying alone overnight do not differ. They are the same. From what I see you have written tho, he is COMPLETELY safe. You live in a safe neighborhood, have family members living very close, have three dogs, an alarm system, and most of all say he is a good kid. DONT WORRY, he will be completely fine.

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I would personally say 14 or 15 maybe younger if they are responsible

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I stay home alone a lot, but never overnight.

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Yes he is allowed to,but make sure you remind him what to do if or what not to do if. A reminder won't hurt! Better to be safe than sorry. Also no inviting girls XD.

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Let him do it. He seems like a good kid

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He can probably stay home alone over night. My older brothers and I stayed home overnight.

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Responsibility is important but not as much as having common sense. If your child seems able to make good decisions on their own, then they should have no problem. I would hope that by age 15 you have shown them how to react to emergencies or peer pressure.
by 13 years old, many children are qualified to babysit for other families.
You're doing a great job of coddling him to death !

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If he can do everything for himself, then he can take care of himself.

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age 17.

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sounds like to me the he at the age where he is responsable enough to be left alone so i think it be fine to me anyway

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Ele vai ficar muito bem em casa.

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It sounds like he can take care of himself just fine. Plus, If anything goes wrong, he would have protection all around him.

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i stayed by myself when i was 9 it'll be fine

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It is safe after age 12

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No. Thats the legal age, but parents have to decide if they are responsible enough.
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Of course he can!

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I stayed home alone when I'm 10... He'll be fine.

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Seems like he'll be fine. Have him take extra precautions, though. (Like keeping windows and doors locked at all times and to call you every few hours or so.)
Although, why not just leave him with his grandparents for the night?
But then again, stuff like this teach a child how to be independent.

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When teens display actual signs of "responsibility" and "maturity". I believe your son will be just fine. He sounds like a great kid.


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when your asleep before they leave, hey fake sleep, it will work granted if not you can call me a loser.

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when you are 14/15 years old

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Your son sounds like a good kid.But If you not sure my mom suggested to install cameras that are linked to your cell phone.. this way you can be at ease. She said. But my sister angel said to believe your son.

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I would think that if you have enough concern to address it here and search on line then you are not completely comfortable with the idea and should probably not leave him alone overnight. At 15, any responsible teenager should be able to be home alone for several hours like after school, but leaving him/her alone overnight should simply be based on the child's maturity level and no one can really answer this question except you. Some teenagers are trusted to babysit at 12 or 13 yrs old, but then some teenagers are in college at 15. If there are no laws governing this then the decision should be based solely on YOUR parentlng and the child himself. Whatever your decision, good luck!

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Bro, he's 15, and he sounds awesome. He's fine

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Well, it sounds the problem is not whether your son should be left home alone, but YOU worries for him too much. I'm afraid, the description gave me this impression and I do not meant to offence you. I agree that a 15-year-old boy should be big enough to deal with that kind of things. And it is strange to be worrying for that. You see, kids are individuals. They will move out and stand by themselves one day, won't they? Take it easy! Try to trust him. Give him the chance to prove himself. ..and be helpful parents when he really needs help. He will certainly give you a surprise. For he is big boy, and soon a man. You do not want him to be still "mother's little boy" years after he had become an adult, do you? It is really hard work to do. I suppose I know how my mother felt when she had to let me go to school just by myself - there's no school bus at that time in our city (not in the US). She always memorize that image which shows how a little girl (I was 6) with a big heavy school bag walked away alone. I had to walk quickly and spend more than 30 minutes on my way to school or from school back home. Mother always worried too much for me. But it was really fun to be alone. ;)

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The doors should always be locked if he or she is at home itself.
If that child cannot legally stay home by himself, then that is in case the police find it. If he's legally enough, then that is because they should stop the thieves coming in.

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I am 15 and I am able to stay home but there are certain rules. no friends and keep the door locked

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15 years old can easily stay. i am 14 and girl and i stay at home alone when my parents and brother is out..he will be fine after all he is 15 and u gave him raised him well too and if his friends are there he will be very happy.tell him to take care of house.don't worry.

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