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I'm really worried about one of my best friends. She hangs out with bad people and I have a feeling that something bad can happen to her!

So we are 13 years old! I'm really worried about one of my friends because she's started to hang out with bad people and I don't want her to turn bad! She's had 8 "boyfriends" and says that she "loves" all of them. Recently, she went to this boy's house "to watch movies" and they French kissed! I mean... we're in the eighth grade!!! the guy smokes, has tried various drugs, had s*x with multiple girls before and is in high school! I need help with what to do/say to ensure she is safe! she says she loves this guy and her parents don't look after her good enough to help get her out of this! please help I'm so worried about my friend! oh and BTW I'm a good kid and don't hang out with the same people as her!

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I think that she's lost. Her parents are obviously not concerned, which is sad. I've been friends with people like this when I was young, and all I can say is STAY AWAY from her. She's going down a bad path and there's nothing you can do to stop her, no matter how hard you try. Trust me, I've tried, and all it does is put you in bad situations and you get dragged down with them. Don't hang out with her anymore. If she needs anyone to talk to, be there for her. But you're obviously above all of this, and you need to stay above it.

Being a true friend means that your willing to make them hate you in order to do what's best for them in the end. You need to let her know that she's making bad choices and she needs to stop or you can't be around her anymore. Don't try to be light hearted about it, she needs some tough-love.

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really? because I can't stand to watch her get hurt like I know she's going to! I was friends with her before she started hanging out with bad people but I'm trying to distance myself from her! I'm so concerned for her safety because this guy is TROUBLE!
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I know how you feel. When I was in 8th grade my best friend started having s3x with boys in their 20's. She started popping pills and doing drugs and she would always pressure me to try them. If I had continued to hang out with her, who knows where I'd be. She's 19 now and she's on meth and has a child that she can't see. You feel horrible and want to help. I KNOW. I was there too. But she's probably not going to listen to you. These older boys seem so cool to her, and she feels special when she's with someone like this. If her parents aren't taking control she's pretty much just SOL. And it's going to suck seeing her ruin her life, I know.
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Thank you so much! she always comes to me for help because her older brother is in the marines and currently in Somalia and she doesn't have anyone to talk to! her mom is a coach and is always at camps and working out so she doesn't have time. and her dad is an alcoholic and she's afraid of him! it's really sad and I feel like I need to do something but I really don't know what!
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There's nothing you can do :( I wish there were. You can talk to her, be there for her when she really needs the help. But don't go out of your way and DON'T put yourself in risky situations for her. Good luck!!
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thanks! would talking in person be better? I'm not sure but I know I need to act soon because I'm sure the boy will ask her out soon! oh no!
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Yes, talk to her in person. And like I said, tough love. Ex: "I'm worried about you. And if you keep hanging out with the type of people that you are I'm going to have to stop hanging out with you as much. I really don't want to see you hanging out with guys like him. He's not good for you."
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well I couldn't wait because he was about to ask her out so I face times her and WOW! I made a HUUUGE breakthrough and she realized she didn't love him and that she deserves someone who will treat her right! now she is so thankful that I helped her! THANK YOU SO MUCH! :D
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No problem!! I'm glad she saw the light! ^_^ You're a good friend, she's lucky to have you.
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just tell her your concerned ...my friend has had the same problem and he has turned out to be a bad egg

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well she said she loves this guy so I don't want to hurt her feelings by saying that I think he's bad! do you have anyways I could put it to be gentle? thank you!
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Tell her flat out. If you sugar coat it she's not going to get it.
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um... here " hey _____, I was just concerned that you might get a bad influence from ____. If you like him that's fine, but just be careful.
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thank you so much!! that's what my mom told me to say! would it be better if I say it over text or in person?
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PERSON! don't do it in txt, I did that and the next day he beat the s$#@ out of me
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ok! I'll see her tomorrow at swim team practice! and one piece of good news! the boy tried to feel up her shirt but she smacked him away! I'm glad that she stood up for herself!
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...:/ wow I hope she see's the bad in him and decides to stay away
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me too! my older sis had a friend like this when she was about my age and now that girl is a high school drop out and addicted to pain killers! how terrible?!?!
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go on youtube and type in this song... American ride ... this pretty sums up our world now... and it is pretty acurrate... that sounds like what my frined would do
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Try talking sence into her or tell an adult because if u get desprate and adult will help and thats an extreme issue that will affect her for the rest of her life if it doesnt stop soon, so if u really care about her, tell and adult or someone with authority

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how can I put it gently? she says she loves this guy so I don't want to hurt her! but I'm so worried!
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and I told my older sister who's 17 and had a friend who was like this! my sisters friend is now a high school drop out ad addicted to pain killers! I don't want to see this happen to my friend!
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Wow talk to her .. And tell her that u are worry

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Tell her how you feel

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