Just tell him you're not interested. I have had to do that plenty of times. Rejecting/getting rejected is a part of life. You can't worry about 'hurting his feelings'. Because if you don't tell him upfront now that you're not interested, it WILL lead to other things later.
A gentleman does not get upset or pry for reasons when turned-down by a lady. **** If you don't want to accept an invitation to go out with a guy, you only need to say "No, thank you." If you want to add some superfluous reason such as "I already have something planned" or "that's not something I'd be interested in", you may, but have no obligation to do so. **** If he gets upset or becomes socially inappropriate & makes a scene, that's on HIM, not you.
I'm glad you have concerns for the guys feeling. Some do not. But, simply state that you're not interested in a relationship with him and leave it at that. No further explanation. Experience with crashing-and-burning is a useful skill that will come in handy in many facets of life.
Just say nicely that you're not interested. If you're not, you're not, and you should just be honest from the very beginning instead of a "well, maaayyybbeee, but you see, there's this thing..." You be polite and respectful and he will do so in return.
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Thank him for the compliment and tell him you appreciate his offer, but you cannot accept. If he asks why, be honest and tell him, but be sure to say it is because you are in another relationship or not ready for a serious relationship, or whatever the reason.