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He wants to be exclusive after the first date. What should I say to him?

I do like the man and don't want to scare him off. He is 55 as well where I am 31. I do keep telling I like to take this slowly.

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Exclusive, what the hell?
Tell him "NO" because you and him are just now getting to know each other and it's your choice if you feel the same way toward him, but it doesn't seem you don't. In which you should let him know and if he decides to drop you and walk away then SO WHAT! There's plenty of other fish out there in the sea as in TRUE MEN that's not pathetic enough as those who can't simply wait for when you're ready to tie the knot....

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Just tell his desperate azz that you're young and want to enjoy your freedom to date around and have fun. Women live longer than men, if you marry this guy you'll be a young widow.

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Tell him your ex could do you for 1 hour. He will have to practice before trying on you...

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An hour , really. Must not know what he was doing. I'm old and I don't have any problems with longer then an hour. Oh , that's just the first time!!!
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Tell him ... No.

They say age doesn't matter ... but in reality, it does. Example: You're not even in the middle of your career life, and he is approaching the end of his. If you two stay together, what will happen when he retires and you are still working?

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Good point !
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He is too old for you. He could be your father.

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Hmm.... 20+ age difference and you've only been on one date?? Tell him no...

Edit: Better yet, say "Mmmm-MMM! Homie don't fly with that!" That'll make him see the age difference!! XD

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Haha nice
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Thank ya.
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You're right. Take it slow. You really don't know each other. With the age difference, ( which I don't have a problem with), it could be he's rushing things because of his age. He found an intelligent , beautiful woman 24 yrs. Younger. I've been in that situation and having a relationship with someone younger is something you think may never happen again. Tell him to just slow down a little and keep communicating. Hope things work out for you.

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Tell him to piss off if you do not want to be exclusive? The dude is nuts. Don't try to be nice, run.

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beep beep beep

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Yes I see what you r saying it could be a control issue
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comment jumper :)
have seen it from near and afar
yup.. uuuuggggh
i like umm "no agendas" .. yk?
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Tell him you need to get to know him better before that step. However, that is a bit of a red flag to me. Also, he is too old for you. It's your choice, but you definitely will have different dynamic in relationship than your friends have with their husbands.

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It's your private & personal decision. However it would be wise not to rush rush & look around for right age mate as there is no dearth of younger ones ! Good Luck !!

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This may seem a bit harsh, but you are young, free, and beautiful! So date young people while you can get them, and don't waste your time on this desperate pervert.

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If you plan to keep dating him then yes, if it was a one time thing well, then no. But be up front with him.

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and when it comes to age: statistics say it fails, when you tell someone you know they look at you like you're a freak, if you tell a psychiatrist he'd ask you if you were fatherless and finally personal experience: my ex husband is 19 years older than me and it only brought jealousy, possessiveness and the feeling of dcalage between us. One of the commenters mentioned work and retirement and it's a 100 % true. Then comes topics like kids, the energy to do/not to do things especially if he's the lazy type... just be really careful. especially that you sure dowana break the heart of a 50s man or drive him crazy (if he got obsessed) or get in trouble if he had tendency to be aggressive: you don't know him.
However if you really like him, pray to God about it and ask Him for a sign (like if he's mine, let him call me 5 times in a 2hrs period.. it works)
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He is a scientist at a scientist at a prestigious university, he doesn't plan to retire either. I do not want anymore children (have one child) as he has children of his own too. My only concern is, is he might only be lustful situation in his eyes!
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He can not force you to do anything. In my opinion it is a big pushy red flag! I say RUN but I am an outsider looking in. Stick to your guns and don't give in if you seriously want to stay "taking things slow."

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Doesn't sound like a relationship request more like a control tactic. Walk away...now!

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That's kind of inappropriate I think, to have just one date with someone and immediately ask to be exclusive. You should consider telling him that you'd like to have a few more dates with him before you make a big decision like that.

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Older guys seem to want what they want . Just keep telling him that you like the situation to go slower and at your pace. He will eventually understand .

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Agreed
Mostly kinda
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That not very confident answer . Do you want to explain
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ha.. sure
most older guys do want what they want
even when unhealthy
some are just beginning to "get it".. others never will
the sediment here is that this guy seems to want something that is very odd and unhealthy.. to want serious for ANYone after one date is silly/poor judgement
when a 50 yr old wants this with a 31 yr old.. it seems controlling to me
the fact that she has to ask, lends me to believe that she also has an esteem issue.. to not know this answer with serious boundaries with a 50 year old man lends me to just feel bad
it is a control issue on his end and a "neediness" on hers

with that said.. sometimes wanting what one wants can be a good thing for all
i have seen that too
just never in this kind of story :(
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He's too much older than you. Tell him no.

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But she hasn't seen his account balance yet!
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Oh crap! Didn't think of that!:)
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Lol!!!
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sorry i posted my answer on guss 7116's comment

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Thank you for your response, I also responded to your comment.
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Well, if you're actually thinking ahead about where you see yourself with this guy, and have high hopes, you should be interested in him.
If you're not interested, don't string him along!

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Very good, MC! Sometimes, the guy's side is the right side! Put out or get out-
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Well that's not how I interpreted it exactly, but hey, it works.
I just meant that the girl shouldn't give a guy high hopes if there's nothing to look forward to
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Absolutely Liz.
I'm going to sleep also, talk to you later
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What do you WANT to tell him?

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honestly it depends on how you feel but the most important thing about a man is to be honest and rational and to talk things out to get a feel of what he and you need and make a compromise

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no.

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i think men at 55 are probably looking to settle down quick due to the fact that their getting older (no offense) and may not find mrs right in time. On the other hand when i first met my boyfriend we clicked so well that he told all his friends this is the girl i wanna marry ..they laughed about it thinking he was jus exaggerating but 4 years later were still together with 2 kids saving for a proper wedding so if its real and amazing then give it time. love is what you need marriage will fall in place when your BOTH ready

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Well you need to have a working communication from the start. I understand your reluctance and frankly that is a very stuck in the mud type age, as far as wanting what they want. This speaks to a whole lot more of how things will be.

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Isn't He is way to old for you?

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get in there... stop being a lil bitch ;-)

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