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I never have any opportunities to meet or be around any women. I have never dated and would like to find someone. what do I do?

Im a church goer but there's no luck there either and I don't have any friends my own age. I work 50 hours a week and when I'm not working im studying to be a preacher. I am a social person I just don't have the opportunities like most people.

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I don't mean to pry .. but I am curious .. Why exactly is it that you have not made friends of your own age at your church, church functions/gatherings, study groups? If you are a social person, then why aren't you socializing? I don't mean for the primary task of finding a mate, but to just connect with other like minded people.

I understand you work lots, but you still have to make time to reach out and connect .. even if you are committed to your studies. Taking a few hours to attend an afternoon or evening function, on occasion, would be good for your mental and emotional welfare. God's work is done, not just by studying alone .. but by applying what you've studied to your interactions with other people.

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believe me my primary task is to no people I don't expect to just show up and have women all over me. I do socialize I know a few people my own age but we don't get together im either to busy our I get left out. I show up to all the church outings and get involved a lot I've connected with a few people but a lot of them are in school or have there own lives
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My guess you get left out because you give them the impression that either you are not interested or your are too busy. If they don't ask you .. then why not try asking them to do stuff. Go to a movie, for dinner, bowling .. anything.

Reach out and they will reach back.
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believe me I do I tell them my schedule the have my fave book I try chatting with them a few have my number im always telling them they can call me.
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Don't tell them to call you .. YOU call them .. and say whacha think about going to see a movie, or go out for dinner .. or even go to a church function together. YOU take the initiative .. don't wait for them to. If they are not interested then you know .. if they are interested .. then you know .. either way.. you at least made the effort.
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If you are an social person you should be able to find a woman to date. Meaning you do great meeting new people and communicates very well. Maybe you need to find a church going lady since you your career is to be an preacher.

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I meant social along the lines with I don't mind meeting new people and not getting nervous. believe me I'd love to find a church going lady but there are literally none in my church or the few around is young then me then seniors
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Have you thought a bout attending another church?
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I've checked a few but some of the kids in a few of the other churches don't really connect with me. I'm not one to abandon my own church any way I have duties I have to do
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Have you tried considering a social media page?
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like face book or a dating site
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Yes. oR even go out for drinks. You will definitely meet new people at a bar or club.
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You may need to give yourself some time when you can break out and interact with different people. This will bring you close to people from different social groups and where you can befriend people who have your interests. Such an opportunity will also let you be around women, where you can get close to them and find yourself someone.

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can you define breakout to meet other people. I don't really live in a town that has much to offer in the way of social events.
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Try visiting other churches or attend other churches functions so you can interact with different people. Don't focus so much on finding someone to date, just befriend a few different women you think you might like and let God work out the rest. Good luck.

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I do attend church functions I try to be at everything and I'm not its not the dating im worried about I never find my self in a situation where there are hardly any women to talk to id be happy if I could just make a few female friends
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Go to different places and meet meet new people

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Eharmony.con

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ha im on that and every other site no luck
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Hmm.. Every try skout?
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Christian Mingle!

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I'm on that and every other site they all suck
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Keep trying. Met my bf online over a year ago.
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No luck at church? Studying to be a preacher, interesting. I say interesting because many things are taught today to be preached. But so much as saying Jesus is coming soon is preaching. So much as saying Jesus loves you is preaching. And the most important part about preaching is the Holy Spirit. Be careful with what they teach you. About finding a right woman, Matthew 6:33. Dont worry about it, she will get to your life on the right time. God bless you.

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