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So my little brother is 7. He used to be sweet and polite and considerate, but now his brain is flooding with bad examples! He gives me "the finger" whenever I try to say something, says horrible swear words he swore not to ever say, and he uses violence as a solution! He gets these bad things from The Last of Us and Call of Duty and Spider-Man and WWE and stuff. And you know that band, LMFAO?! yeah, he's repeating every swear word they say! He's turning into a liar too, a meany, and a downright coach potato. I need something cool, and adventure-filled but for kids that'll teach him and take his mind off these bad influences. And whenever my parents try to talk to him, he runs away and slams the door. Could you guys give me suggestions please?! And if you have any tips on how to end this, feel free!

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He is 7 years old and are able to play these games? Most kids his age can barely talk. I hate to say it because your brother being a monster and all, but im pretty sure he is a genius.

My childhood friend was very much alike your brother and he jumped from 4th class to 6th, and was still the smartest guy in the class!

BTW now he is running some big oil company i cant even pronounce! Give your brother some more time. He will grow up fast!

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He's an A+ student he's in grade 2 knows what combustion means memorized all the planets knows the top ten largest countries in Europe knows the first man to walk on the moon, BUT HE'S ACTING LIKE AN ALIEN
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i understand your concern you have about him acting immature, but trust me, he will grow out of it. just hang in there :)
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Thanks :) but I kinda want him to grow up now so he won't teach my baby sister these stuff
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Youre a great sister! I hope things work out :)
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Thanks :)
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You should talk to your parents about what's going of first. In the meantime, be nice and try to be the best example of an older sibling. If he is using violence, then he is probably acting out or frustrated about something. Get him to talk about it if he can.

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Well, he uses violence for the sake of it. And my parents try to talk to him, but he runs away and slams the door.
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I would arrange a trip (that he doesn't get a say in) to go to a rental cabin in the mountains (if you live in an area where you can do that) or a farm somewhere that has no tv signal, electronic devices, people, roads, wifi, or anything. Get some nature connection going, be outside, I promise it would work.

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Well, that's a really good idea, but I live in the Middle East... In a city faaaar away from mountains and cabins... But thank anyways :)
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Well I hope it all works out, I understand how scary it could be to see your little brother change like that.
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Thanks :) I just hope he doesn't teach my baby sister these stuff
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Yup definately talk to your parents and ask them to take away the game my brother used to call everything gay and cursing but i told my dad about it and problem solved! Its the game its the way the others talk to him so he thinks it cool to talk to others that way, really quite awful. After the source of the problem is gone then be sweet to him and win your old brother back. Good luck!

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Thanks, that's a really good idea!
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you most try to help him by tell him that what he doing is wrong by nice ways and you have to know what change him .

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Your parents need to cancel his use of all the violent games and tv. He needs to understand he is not to repeat offensive words or he will get a smack on the mouth. Your parents need to start punishing by taking privileges (besides the games) away from him and grounding him.

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I agree 100%, thanks :)
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You are welcome
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first remove him from bad company if he doesn't go from bad company ,tell him a story of what happens if you stay in bad company{take short story from internet}.then tell him nice things and go somewhere with him.he will forgot bad things forever.

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Some of that bad company is the Internet, but his friends at school are the ones who tell him about all these games in the first place. And I don't think we can really separate him from his friends.
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first let him make new nice friends.
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Ok, thanks :)
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no problem :0>
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Woah sounds like you need super nanny!

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We have two nannies, he drove the previous ones out the door... I really want Nanny McPhee right now.
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Haha like Nanny 911! I miss that show....
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TAKE THE GAME. MY LIL BRO PLAYS CAL OF DUTY BUT HE HAS NOT CUSSED YET YIKES!!! I hope he stops he may need counseling.

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Make him stop watching them. I bet he is going through a phase.

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Your parents need to get a backbone and discipline him, instead of letting him run away.

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I know! But they just threaten to take his stuff most of the time, but then again he knows they won't so he doesn't let it affect him
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Tell your parents, they will solve your problem. But he's only 7, you never know maybe he will slowly start to be mature when he's around 11.

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One of the reasons I want him to grow up NOW is that we have a baby sister and he could be a really bad influence on her.
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talk to your brother bring him into a room lock the door and hide the key. tell him you miss it when he was good and if he points that finger say if you do that ever again i willl lock all your t.v. channels but all the ones that or good for you. if he says bad words tell him he can not listen to that bad music , and only nice songs . by then he will start to cry then tell him if he stops being rude and says sorry he can watch his stuff . but then tell him you forgot how to unlock it, and where you put his bad music. in two days time he will get over it and go back to being the nice kind boy he was

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Thanks! That might just work! I really couldn't discipline him on my own because he's a tiny evil genius and manipulates ppl a lot
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no probs that's what ask buddys are for
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Your brother should not be playing call of duty and the last of us I play them but I'm an adult and the language from from the little kids on call of duty shocks me

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ikr! His friends told him about it, I hear cursing coming from the tv 24/7, it makes me feel contaminated when I hear that stuff
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Stop watching violent Tv show, discipline your brother while he still young.

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Yeah, that's what I'm trying to do
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That's good,,or maybe give him a light punishment , like stand in a corner for a few minutes or no ice cream or video games for a week.
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I try making him stand in the corner, he runs away screaming "MOMMY!! Judy's trying too punish me for no reason!!" Then I get a lecture about how I can't punish little kids because they're still little, how unfair is that!!
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I have four sons ages 16, 15, 12 and 7. Boys r naturally aggressive and interested in combat games and that sort of thing. I learned that if u explain what they see in movies or games is fake just like cartoons and shouldn't b copied in real life or show him the behind the scenes making of a scary movie it makes a big difference! Kids don't know fiction from reality til someone shows them. Being punished for sumthing he doesn't know isn't fair and trying to keep violent images and bad words away is unrealistic cuz he's bound to see or hear them sumwhere. If he uses bad words make him put allowance/birthday $ in a jar everytime. Tell him you'll give it back at the end of the month if he can control his language and maybe double it so he feels rewarded for trying instead of just punished. Hope this helps!

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Thanks, that'll definitely work!
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Have your parents take away all gaming, that is not appropriate for his age anyway, until he is older and more mature. Then ground his little behind until he learns respect

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Okay first of all your parents need to get a handle on him, and to do that is to take away his electronics. They have to put their foot down and tell him that this is not okay. There's an age rating for a reason. After its been a while and he's been good then get some games that are age appropriate, like Dragon Ball Z or my 7 year old brother plays Rachet and Clank and Skylanders. My brother's and I gre up with Dragon Ball Z and I think we're pretty great. My 7 and 4 year old brothers play Skylanders and Rachet and Clank, they're total sweethearts. Games have big influences and little kids. My brother, who is almost 15, got thus game where there's fighting and swearing. I don't like it because ever since he my brother, who is 12, started playing it its changed how they act. Difference is it isn't as bad as your brother so my parents haven't noticed, but I have. They're even okay with my 10 year old brother playing it and sometimes my 7 year old brother to keep it fair. I do t think that's okay. The oldest of my brother's shouldn't even be playing it yet in my opinion.

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I know! But when I try to take it away, he plays it at my cousin's place!
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Okay then you need to tell your parents to throw away the games and to have them tell your aunt and uncle not to let him play it at their place. They'll respect that from your parents.
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I'm sorry but there's only much an older sister can do, I should know.
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*so much
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Thank you :)
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Your welcome, good luck.
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