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originalraddo

How do I earn my gfs parents trust back? they wont even let us see each other what can i do? oh and her dad never really liked me...

I messed up. my gf's parents read our texts. they were a little dirty and now im not allowed over and they want us to brake up for good. i really like her and we dont want to brake up but her parents are making us.

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Want to make a good impression on her folks? Talk directly to them. Explain you know you were wrong to do what you did. Explain that you understand that their concern about their daughter is reasonable and that you would like to prove to them that you only have good intentions towards their daughter. Ask them what they would like you to do and express your willingness to be patient and give them time to regain trust in you.

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originalraddo
thanks ill try that but i cant talk to them directly because I am "never allowed back in her house"
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I know it will not be easy for you. But you could try calling and asking if they would see you in person or at least discuss the matter with you on the phone. Try dressing up very neatly and conservatively and knock on their door. If they don't want to speak with you, then you need a new strategy. Good luck.
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originalraddo
and ill do just that thank you
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Great, original. If they are good parents, they will respect your sincere effort to be a responsible person.
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Ouch. I would never let my parents read my texts even though they aren't bad. Thats just an invasion of privacy.

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ya she was gone on vacation and her dad went through her phone :/
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Wow..... I'm so sorry. Her parents need to understand that a) they are just texts and b) try finding a teenage relationship not like that these days. Its pretty impossible.
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ya the texts werent even that bad but to them anything and everything is bad. thanks for trying though :)
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No such thing as privacy when teen. That's just lazy parent. I grab my daughters phone on whim anytime I want. I read her text as they come in. My goodness, 16 and not pregnant. 3 out of every 10 teenage girls are getting pregnant. Hmmm. Who gets stuck with them when "boy" leaves? Purple, if you have any kids you might want to look up some facts. If you are teen, you can get your privacy when you move out.
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No problem raddo. Bulldozier, I am almost 16 and I am also not pregnant, thank you very much. I have catholic morals. I have never even been on a date because my parents are always breathing down my neck when I try to hang out with friends. There are some things that parents dont need to do. They are so strict that I'm pretty sure its going to lead to me doing something behind their backs someday. Sucks for them.
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Yea, my point. Teens giving teens advise. You'll understand when you have kids.
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ok but hopefully not at sixteen!!
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I understand that I don't have any respect for my parents in that last comment, and I really do respect them, but they don't have any respect for me. Im not allowed to be friends with boys. And that is bs. Im not allowed to date because it will narrow my circle of friends. Well, they have already succeeded in that cutting all the boys, good nice boys that my parents love, out of my life.
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I understand young lady. It won't be long when you will make all your choices, hopefully the right ones. Look at my answer, these satistics scare the crap out of me. You know what happened when I let my daughter go out with just friends at 13? She got rapp3d. You have plenty of time to live your life, you only have few more years to be kid.I would suggest is you do that. Being an adult, making the right calls is not easy. You kids don't come with manuals, and we just do the best we can so you can become a respectful, honest person as an adult. Like i said, you will learn. Just please be a kid, then fly when it's time.
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Maybe suggest doing a family activity together? Like going out dinner or going on a picnick with both family's and do this for awhile so they realize you guys are good together , hope this helped:)

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her parents want nothing to do with me and wont even let me see her but thanks it was a good suggestion
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Oh I'm sorry:(good luck with it all , hope y works out
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send a test to your girlfriend asking her to show it to her parents! ask her parents to forgive you for being a idiot. tell then it will NEVER happen again. and make sure it NEVER happens again!! tell them what you feel in your heart..the guilt, shame and utter stupidity! we all make mistakes. we all need forgiveness. and most of us deserve another chance...;-)

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thanks ill try this but shes not supposed to be talking to me so she could get in even more trouble :/
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well, we sure don't want her getting into any more trouble! and I don't want you in trouble either!! I just thought that maybe her parents would be more receptive to a message of forgiveness. I would be. best wishes...;-)
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originalraddo
yes i agree and ya ill try it :) thanks for the help i think theyll appreciate it
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and I'll pray for you...;-)
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I've been thinking about you! I hope things work out okay...;-)
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thanks but our prayers didn't work :(
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I'm very sorry to hear this! I really am. some people do not understand about forgiveness. I'll just keep praying!! I do hope things turn out good for you..;-)
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750,000 thousand teens getting pregnant. 1.2 million abortions last year. 18% was 18 and younger. 11% out of the 18% was 15 and younger. This just US. As a father of 3 girls. You may or may not be a good kid.I don't care, wouldn't let you play adult with my kids. The fact is, you should stay away. If you really care for her, realize that this is what's best for HER.

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the texts were'nt about sex and we havent had sex. but thanks
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Doesn't matter. See you are getting defensive cause you are not hearing what you want. You mean that subject never came up? be honest with yourself, wasn't to long ago I was your age. You don't have to answer me.
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im not getting defensive I just wanted an answer that would actually help my situation
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You can't, the bomb has already went off. Nothing you can do, but RESPECT the parents. That's how you get there respect.
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i guess youre right but i really dont want to lose her :(
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I know i'm right. If a boy respected me, left my daughter alone. Then I saw him a few months later, well, I might change my mind that he is just a no good teen who talked dirty to my baby girl. You will understand, when you have your own daughter. If nothing else, you can leave this situation knowing you did the right thing.
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Same exact thing happened to me and my present boyfriend. They'll be mad for a while (My parents sure were!) Have your girlfriend prove she has learned her lesson. And you do the same. Explain to your parents what happened then tell them how stupid you were. That you've changed. Once both of your parents hear their own child say it, they'll listen easier. Have them meet up and have your parents explain why you two should stay together. That worked for me! And we've been dating two years since. They will forgive over time. Have good back home time and respect

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my parents dont know should i tell them? what if theyre against us being together too then its 4 on 2 :( and how do i prove it to them if they wont even let me come over or see her?
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It's best to be straight up. Just say "Mom Dad, I messed up and I need your help". That's all. Don't say what happened. Her parents would probably tell yours eventually. Text your girlfriend saying what you two should do to change it. I told you whatever and my boyfriend did. He was scared to tell but it was worth it for us being together. Have your parents talk to hers. Can't you see your girlfriend at school?
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*what me and my boyfriend did. Not whatever lol, typo
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When my dad found out, he was furious. But after a while he said "You can't keep two people that love each other apart. Because no matter what you do they'll still be together". And he eventually grew over it. But My parents watch our every move. Remember, Trust is like chocolate. Once it melts away, you can eventually harden it up again, but it will never have the same shape or feel.
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damn that last on was deep. a little late haha my bad but thanks for the help im gonna take your advice and do exactly what you said
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one*
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and nope to the school thing, we live in different towns :/ so different schools
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Its hard to have a relationship with not having ones parents approval but something I would do is talk to them myself and explain to them my apology for what I did. If you didn't even do that but could send a dirty text then how do you expect thier to be a relationship? Its not as if you wont ever see each other again if you break up but waiting some time can help the situation

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