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How to be less shy and awkward?

Hi i am a 14 year old girl I've been in recovery from a eating disorder for a year. During that whole situation I grew depressed and did not want to talk to anyone so for a year I've hung out with friends like 4 times maybe weird right? So I started my freshman year and I lost social skills I'm having hard time making friends and I'm overwhelmed I went from 500 people at my school to 4000 and I have hard time talking in a conversation but mostly having the guts to do so. I want to be this sooo outgoing person and make friends but I need advice please help I want to be that loud fun girl everyone can be friends with not afraid socially awkward girl this eating disorder ruined my social skills. Like I used to be sooooo funny and talking to anyone

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I am a person like you, I am socially awkward AND I am outgoing. Sometimes it's socially awkward because of the conversation or everyone's surrounding, and sometimes it's a free for all cheery conversation where you can just relax and NOT be so tight and quite. Here is what I have learned; The more quite you are, the more you look like your awkward and people will just feel plain uncomfortable resulting in less people talking to you because, face it, talking in an awkward conversation is in NO ONE'S comfort zone, even you. If there is an awkward moment, don't hold back! Even a simple noise (funny noises too!) could get people cracking up and cheery again, no cold shoulders! When you feel your surroundings (including the people) are cheery and warm, just let it out and be confident as you play out your personality for everyone to see. Don't have a personality? Don't worry! Your personality will form as you move forward with life just as it did for everyone else. Anyways, If you feel your surroundings are cold just find out their interests and talk about their interests, if they talk more openly (at least talk about YOUR interests) then go for it!

I hope this helps! :)

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I am a 14 year old guy! and just tough up just do it or say or do anything you think of it when you get shy

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Just think ur talking to god and u will be fine

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You can't care what people think of you. No one's opinion on you matters but your own. But don't try too hard though and annoy people.

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Read & see what is "in" now. Guys like sports, watch ur team in NFL. Remember we all have flaws, believe in yourself. You took a big step facing eating disorder, You Are Braver than u give yourself credit for. Everyone is Never going to like you. Pick friends carefully. You have to Like you first. Been there, done that. Join youth group @ church. Be positive !! It will come!

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Seek out people who don't look intimidating and then try to make friends with them. Then it's easier to make friends with their friends. But also realize that these things take time and u don't always get it right on the first try. Be proud of who you are, sometimes it's better to be the quiet understanding girl who listens than the loud, fun girl.

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First of all I understand were you
are coming from I was afraid of
talking to people when I was young, to but what I have to say
to you is jusr realize that they are
Just people and by talking to people just ask them about them
Selfs and show interest in people
and each kid In your class just
Introduce your self and ask them
What,they like to do and ask to
hang out dont be afraid the worst
thing that can happen is they say
Im busy next time the best is you
meet a new friend good look just
go talk show interest in others and make friends

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if your having a hard time making friends you could always join a club or talk to your counselor. I was just like you my freshman year, I'm a junior now and have tons of friend because of clubs, groups, sports, and my counselors. if you where to take my advise I guaranty by the end of the year you wont be scared and you'll know everyone. :)

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Don't worry about it it's part of being young learning and then becoming more mature little bit older in time you will look back on it and laugh how shy and awkward you were are and how open you are now

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