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How do you be nice to really iterating parents that never ever take your side on anything. I stress them out a lot and I'm trying so hard to

trying so hard to be nice to them but they always pick up a fight with me literally for a little thing. and I feel bad cause they get stressed out. but it's not my fault either . they always try me. and say shit bout me to my face . An I try so hard but they always want to be smart mouth with me. Arguing with them is like arguing with teens legit

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There aren't many arguments you can win with your parents, so until you learn to say nothing, you are gonna have these problems. It takes two to argue, so just don't take the bait and let them vent. They may keep arguing at you for while but it's not the same as arguing with you.

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That's how I survived. Just agree with everything they say. It drives them crazy.
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If you wanna get back at them keep doing what your doing but if you want to turn the page with them your gonna have to take down listen. The truth Is you will likely need them more in the next few years than they will need you.
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Hmm I like your answers, thank you. And I try killing them with kindness an saying okay a lot with our talking back, an they still pick up another argument . It's ridiculous -,-
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I'm going through the exact thin so if it helps its not just your parents, it's a general parent thing. In a weird way you can't see yet and maybe won't see for years they are helping you so your prepared to go off on your own.

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I would ask them in calm voice, "who is the parent here?" When they say they are then I'd remind them to act like one because you're having a hard time telling who is the teenager. Being a teenager is hard. Years later you might discover that some of what they said was right- it's just that the delivery of it was so unkind and rude. I used to think grown ups were actually grown up. Now as an adult I find that many "grown ups" are really immature, insecure & selfish kids that just aged. Try to show respect though as it will serve you better in the long run. They will need you one day when they are older and boy are my parents seeing that now!

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My guess is your parents are asking their friends the same about you. If you are having trouble talking to them write letters. People can't interrupt and yell at you while they are reading a letter. Sometimes a little space and time to respond is what is needed.

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Just right down a letter that they are being t harsh on you and that they should solve little problems and not just blame you. Give them the letter and then tell how you fell and how much you loved them. Give them a hug and go back to your room and let them think about you.

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what is an iterating parent??

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Irritating * I had a Brain Fart
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