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How can I stop comparing myself to others?

My dad puts me down all the time and he makes me feel unwanted and he tells me that i'm ugly and stupid. it seems like all I can do it feel bad about myself. Any ideas on how to stop?

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You just have to accept the way you look and love yourself. I have just recently done this myself. I used to call myself ugly and fat which I'm not. I am actually really pretty and skinny as a stick. You just have to love yourself and you will not compare yourself to other girls.

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You're Welcome.
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Say yes to him and he might stop I think

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Lol I doubt it
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Omg! My dad does the same! He calls me fat & ugly. Lls. Nice, huh? I ignore him the best I can, and when I'm 18, Imma get the h3!! outta here! (:

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same here bbyyyy!(:
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(: Flipping rebels we are. Lls, jk.
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Swaggie100 and lilmissredneck, so sorry you are both experiencing verbal abuse from your dad. Sounds like you have a good attitude though. Try to keep it going. That is very wrong of your both of your dad's. Probably he lacks self esteem but it is so wrong to put down your kids because of that.
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Yepp(:
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yes, verbal and emotional abuse.
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No homo but your really preety..and your skinny... :-D .... shrug them haters off girl! :-D ^.^
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who? mehhhhh?(:
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or swaggie? im fahttttttttt(:
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Ew. No. I'm not the pretty one, that's you. ^ (;
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You could just not believe him and know that you are beautiful and unique cause in all the world there is no one quite like you. Ignore that silly daddy of yours!!!

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ffanks.!(:
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Please do it girl!!!
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I will bbyyyy(:
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Lol I didn't mean that I a weird way
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Oh gosh I know:) Silly pretty girl!!!!!
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Lol(: pretty guhhhh. Haha.
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Hahaha.
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Have a great weekend:)
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you too doll.(:
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I agree with angelwolf. You just need to realize that you're a beautiful, wonderful person and your dad doesn't know what he's talking about. I used to have the same problem. You just have to understand that you are your own person and no one should make you want to change yourself.

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It's the picture yourself? It's beautiful.

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Your so sweet(:
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There is no real easy way, because you are who you are and you can't change that. Also either your dad is a real ass, or he is trying to make you stronger, like I do with my brother... But I don't tell him.

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Maybe you dad is uncomfortable with himself and feels that he can take it out on you stand up for yourself and continue to love yourself and your dad..one day he will regret what he says and really need and or appreciate you.

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Don't listen to him! If that is u on ur profile pic... u r very pretty!!! U look smart(and u probably r)!! Talk with ur friends about it.... Think of wat ur good at...

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Thanks.!!! And yes that is me.
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you have to be so carefree, and don't listen to him it's the best idea seriously all our parents do the same but just forget about it and live your live ! believe in your self ;) kisses !

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look at your self in the mirror and always tell your self that you r different and no one looks like me ....... take it as war with yourself challenge that you musy win

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think you are the best,others are cheater

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its best idea,if you will think you are better you will perform better
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there's no easy way to overcome this but try confronting your dad about how he makes you feel don't get angry or defensive just tell him it doesn't make you feel good about yourself when he talks to you like that. for comparing yourself as the younger sibling to two perfect children that everyone loves I know this one's hard but try instead of thinking about the things other people do better than you think about the things that make you unique and special maybe you kick butt at soccer or can sing like nobody's business try not to focus on what you look like and more on what you can do. If you can't see something beautiful about yourself when you look in the mirror, then you need a better one because that one's broken EVERYONE is beautiful in their own way and maybe someone doesn't think so but someone will and you should surround yourself with people who appreciate you and never settle for anything less

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Outward appearance is a filter just like any filter of perception. Some people are truly unappealing to most. What matters is that the filter will still turn up people that either are not fixated on physical appearance, or truly think you are beautiful and appreciate you for who you are. The important thing to do is to develop confidence in yourself and for the most part, not care what others think of you. The more confidence you have, the better perception of yourself you will have, and the less it will mean to be judged outwardly.

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Comparing yourself too others is normal .. EVERYONE has done it , But keep your head up your beautiful , Outside beauty means nothing though it matters who you are and what's inside (Meaning personality) Keep your head high ... Without knowing what your worth your just gonna fail .. And the people putting you down that's all they wanna see is you fail .. Keep your head high , chin up and smile know your beautiful.

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you cant listen to him because all he will do is bring you down

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We all compare ourselves to other people. Sometimes you may think that the girl you sit nest to in math class is Really pretty. Maybe she is. but so are you. She is pretty in her own way and you are pretty in you own way. Instead of wanting to be like someone else. Focus on you. From what I see your a very beautiful girl. So instead of wanting that girls eyes, or legs, or hair or whatever, look at yours. Embrace yourself. YOUR BEAUTIFUL! So never put yourself down and never feel sorry for yourself. Instead use it to make yourself stronger. Prove him wrong. Like if he was to say you will never be successful. show him that you will be. Make him regret that he put you down, You can do it. Show him. But most importantly, Show yourself. Nobody elses opinion matters, Dont listen to people when they say your ugly. Your beautiful. Stay strong and stay true to yourself. Never let anyone bring you down. All your life people will try to bring you down. Dont let them. If you do, it shows your are weak and easy to take over. Prove them wrong girl! I know you can do it! (:

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Don't underestimate yourself or overestimate anyone else.

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does not need to be taken to heart the most important principle that should be instilled as you can because it has many advantages

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Give up on dad, forgive him , hold no anger. Putting you down, is His self-hate.
Pay attention to girlfriends positive relationships with their fathers. This is how a relationship should be.
Talk with their fathers about the way you feel. Continuously recognize positive people.
When able, stay clear of negative people. If you don't find father-daughter love, you may be chasing a desperate dream. This behavior turns people away from you.
Do not date now. Enhance every aspect of your life. Start small;clean your room, make higher grades, help people less fortunate than yourself. Limit but enhance your hobbies. Eat healthy and do the best with what you have.
Sometimes you may feel bad. Emotions may not help you, but logic and the law of odds will. You have worth you Are special, It is factual by your existence on this earth. Change comparisons to emulations. You will come to a relationship teaching people, how to treat you.
You are the owner of the positive in your children by being happy healthy and marrying someone who will treat you and your daughter the way your Dad should have treated you.
I do hope this helps.

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That is verbal abuse!! you should tell someone Tell him that you hate the way he calls you ugly because you are beautiful :)) NEVER LOOSE HOPE MY DEAR!!!

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Compare yourself with others only to find points on which you need to improve.Your look doesn't matter.Focus on developing talents. and please try to answer my questions as well. If you become talented your dad will appreciate you more than ever.

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Don't compare yourself to others..We are beautiful by our own little ways. God made us perfectly :) Don't mind what your dad said. Make it as an inspiration instead.

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Great answer its so true
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just ignore your dady and try to say yes untill he stop , is taht you in the photo ??? i thin you 're beauifull and i'm shure that your dad doesn't know what he is talking about
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yurhp its mehh! ermergerd ffanks!(:
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nice o meet you you are beautifull just trust your self and don't care about other people ok
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gotcha guhhh(:
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Be yourself and believe in who you are not what others think you are. Tell someone your problem! Forgive your dad! even though I personally don't know you I know you are a beautiful child of God!

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First of all he is dead wrong because you are beautiful and intelligent. Also it is ridiculous that any parent would say such a thing to his own spawn. Next time he makes a stupid comment like that to you, remind him that he took part in creating you and that half of your genes are from him, so if he doesnt like they way you look or who you are he must really not be happy with himself. You probably remind him of himself and its too much for him to handle so he is projecting all his own negative thoughts about himself onto you. Geesh! He sounds like he needs some serious therapy to deal with his own issues. No healthy parent would ever talk to their child like that. Dont believe him. Its not true and he needs some serious help. Sorry he is subjecting you to his own dysfunctional thoughts.
To feel better about yourself, try to engage in activities you enjoy and surround yourself with friends/family etc who love and support you in a healthier more functional way than dad. Maybe you can do a family intervention and get everyone else to get on your dads case to get him to seek help and stop verbally abusing you

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:) you can stop comparing your self from others by believing in to yourself as a unique creature of God. No one is just like you. So be who you are. ;)

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Wow, I just can't believe he does that to his own daughter!!!! look around in Dr. Oz's site for self esteem, he always has great info and advice..Good Luck with everything and Act like Somebody!
http://quitecalm.com/Oz

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any parent that says such things to their child does not deserve to be a parent. Do not listen to his nonsense, and seek counsel from an adult you trust on how you can get some one on one time to build up your self esteem. Also see if your school has any kind of parenting program that your dad could {should} go to.. Talk to as many adjusted adults as you can and you will see that the problem is not with you, my dear, but with your dad. Hang in there, eventually you can move away from him and he will not be able to verbally abuse you anymore.

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fall seven times, stand up eight.

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